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What should I do if my toddler has a fear of the toilet or potty during potty training?

Hi, everyone. My 2-year-old son has recently started potty training, and I'm having a hard time getting him to use the toilet or potty. He seems to be scared of it and cries whenever I even mention it. I've tried different approaches, like rewards, encouraging words, and special seats, but nothing seems to work. I'm getting frustrated and worried that he won't be able to use the toilet on his own. Has anyone experienced this with their toddlers? What did you do to help them overcome their fear of the toilet or potty? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hey there! I can totally relate to this problem. When my son was potty training, he also had a fear of the toilet that made potty training challenging. We were worried that he might develop a long-lasting aversion to toilets, so we tried to help him overcome that fear.

What worked for us was first identifying the source of his fear. It turned out that my son was scared of the loud noise the toilet made when we flushed it. So, to address this, we started by making him comfortable with the sound of the flush by having him stay outside the bathroom and listen to it without emphasizing going to the toilet.

We also let him try sitting on the toilet with his clothes on, so he could get used to the feel of it without the pressure to actually use the toilet. This made him feel more comfortable about the whole process.

Additionally, we made it a point to not force him to use the toilet or potty. Instead, we would ask him how he felt and give him the option to try when he was ready.

Gradually, our son began to feel more comfortable with the toilet, and we made the experience as relaxed and positive as we could. So, don't give up, be patient and understanding, and your child will eventually overcome their fear and transition successfully to using the toilet independently.


Hi there, I totally understand your frustration as I went through the same thing with my son when I was potty training him. He would run away at the sight of the toilet even when we encourage him to sit on it. It was quite a frustrating experience for me.

What worked for us was a combination of patience and praise. We didn't want to rush him, so we took it slow and continuously encouraged him to use the toilet by being gentle and understanding. We also praised him when he made even the slightest progress.

We also let him take charge of the process. We allowed him to pick out his own potty training seat and chose his own fun stickers as well. This gave him a feeling of control and independence which made him more open to sitting on the potty.

Another thing that worked for us was finally ditching the pull-ups and going straight to underwear. This made him feel more like a grown-up and he was more motivated to use the toilet.

Through patience and praise, our son eventually overcame his fear of the toilet and is now doing well with his potty training. So don't give up, keep trying, and your son will get there too!


Hi there! I can totally relate to what you're going through. My daughter went through the same thing when we were potty training her. She would scream and cry whenever we put her on the toilet or potty. We tried many different approaches like you, but nothing worked. Eventually, we found that it helped to make the process fun and not scary for her.

We started by letting her sit on the potty with her clothes on while we read books or sang songs to her. This helped her associate the potty with positive experiences. We also got her a special toy that she could only play with while sitting on the potty. That made it exciting for her.

Another thing that worked for us was letting her watch a sibling or cousin use the toilet. Seeing someone else do it showed her that it's a normal and okay thing to do.

Finally, we realized that our daughter was scared of falling into the toilet. So, we got her a smaller potty that she could easily sit on and made sure that she always had something to hold onto for support.

It took some time, but eventually, our daughter overcame her fear of the toilet and potty. I hope some of these tips work for you too. Good luck!


Hi! I can relate to what you're going through. My toddler daughter also had a fear of the toilet during potty training. We tried various techniques, but what worked for us was making the bathroom environment less scary and more welcoming.

We decorated the bathroom with her favorite characters and colors. We also placed toys and books in the bathroom to keep her entertained during potty training. We thought of creative ways to make it a fun experience that she would look forward to.

It was also helpful for us to develop a routine that we stuck to. Establishing a schedule gave her a sense of predictability and made the process more comfortable for her. We made it a point to not force her and to let her take as much time as she needed.

Lastly, we found it useful to involve her in the cleaning up process. As weird as it may sound, it made her feel responsible and it was rewarding for her to see herself using the toilet all by herself.

It took some time but with patience, consistency, and support, our daughter eventually overcame her fear of the toilet and is now doing great with potty training. I hope some of these tips help you too!


Hello! I went through a similar experience with my daughter when she was potty training, and I understand how frustrating it can be when your child is afraid of using the toilet or potty.

One thing that worked for us was to let our daughter lead the way. We didn't want to force her to use the toilet or potty, so we let her take the initiative when she was ready. We made sure to remain patient and encouraging while letting her set her own pace.

We also invested in a potty that had fun designs and colors to it. This made potty time more enjoyable for her and less scary.

Another thing that helped was to make potty training a fun family activity. My older daughter would sing potty songs or read potty books with her sister, reinforcing the idea that using the potty is a joyful experience that everyone goes through.

Eventually, our daughter let go of her fear and started using the toilet and potty on her own. Remember, every child is different and will have their own pace, so be patient and supportive as your child overcomes their fear of the toilet or potty.


Hello! I can empathize with what you're going through as I went through this same experience with my youngest child. She was incredibly hesitant about the potty and toilet during potty training, and nothing seemed to calm her nerves.

One technique that worked for us was using positive reinforcement. We created a reward chart and gave her a small prize every time she tried to use the potty or toilet. It was essential to us that the rewards were age-appropriate and something she was excited about, like stickers or candy.

Additionally, we made it a part of our daily routine, incorporating it into our day as seamlessly as possible. For example, we would encourage our daughter to use the toilet before and after meals, before bedtime, and as soon as she woke up in the morning.

We also allowed her to watch age-appropriate videos on potty training to feel more comfortable with the idea. This helped to normalize using the potty and made it much easier for her to understand.

Small steps are the key to success, so be patient and celebrate every small victory. Eventually, your toddler will overcome their fears and feel confident and independent using the potty or toilet. Good luck!

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