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What are some tips for managing my baby's bedtime routine when co-sleeping or room-sharing?

Hello everyone, I am a new mom and I have been co-sleeping with my baby since she was born. While I love the bonding experience and having my baby close to me, I am having trouble managing her bedtime routine.

My baby is now six months old and I want to start establishing a consistent bedtime routine but I am not sure how to do it while co-sleeping. I am also worried that my movements and noises at night may be disrupting my baby's sleep.

I am looking for some tips on how I can manage my baby's bedtime routine while co-sleeping or room-sharing. How can I establish a consistent bedtime routine? What are some things that I can do to minimize disruptions to my baby's sleep? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance.

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Hi everyone, I also co-slept with my baby for the first few months after she was born. I completely agree with investing in a good quality co-sleeping crib or bassinet. They are a lifesaver!

But one thing that made a huge difference for us was developing a sleep schedule for the baby. I worked to establish a consistent time to put her down to sleep, whether that was before or after nursing. Our bedtime routine allowed me to determine a sleep schedule, and over time she fell into the pattern of sleeping and feeding at regular times. Keeping a consistent schedule has ultimately helped with the management of our bedtime routine.

Also, I learned that taking frequent breaks throughout the day for baby to take naps can help prevent exhaustion when bedtime comes. Napping for short spells more frequently, instead of one long nap works best for our baby.

Finally, when my baby was old enough, I slowly transitioned her to a crib in her own room, as it was important for us to develop her independence and she was secure in her own space. But we still have spare guest or family members over, my husband or I, takes turns co-sleeping to create a smooth sleeping environment.

Overall, the pattern and time that worked best for me may not work for everyone, but it's definitely worth trying to establish a bedtime routine, keeping the co-sleeping transaction secure, and syncing your baby's schedule with your family's routine. Good luck!


Hi everyone, I have co-slept with my baby since he was born as well so I can relate to the concerns raised. In my experience, establishing a consistent routine involves setting up a specific bedtime each night, and following it to the letter. Babies thrive on consistency, so try to keep a predictable pattern for things like dimming the lights, reading a book, and nursing before they go to sleep.

To prevent disruptions at night, I always make sure that our room temperature is ideal – not to warm or too cold. I also found using a noise machine with white noise or gentle sounds like rainfall or ocean waves can help soothe a baby and drown out any sudden noises from outside.

Another tip is to place your baby in between you and the wall, so they feel secure and prevent any movement that may startle them in their sleep. And if you need to move or go to the bathroom, do so very cautiously, so as not to disturb baby's sleep.

Finally, enjoy the snuggles and bonding moments with your baby. Co-sleeping has numerous benefits, such as promoting a feeling of security and closeness between you and your baby.

These are the things that worked for me, but remember, every baby is unique, so it’s all about finding what works for you and your little one. Good luck!


Hi there! As a mom who has co-slept with my little one since birth, I completely understand where you're coming from. Establishing a consistent bedtime routine was important for us as well, and I found a few things that worked well.

Firstly, I made sure to create a calming atmosphere in our room before bedtime. This included dimming the lights, closing the curtains, and playing soft music or white noise. I also made sure to have all of the essentials within reach, such as diapers, wipes, and a bottle of water.

Next, I established a consistent bedtime routine that included a bath, massage, reading a book, and nursing. I found that doing these things in the same order every night helped my little one recognize when it was time to wind down and get ready for bed.

Finally, I made sure to be as quiet and still as possible once my little one fell asleep. I tried to limit my movements and made sure to use a night light instead of turning on overhead lights.

Of course, every baby is different, so what works for us may not work for you. But I hope some of these tips are helpful! Good luck with establishing a bedtime routine for your little one.


Hey there! I just wanted to add one more tip that has helped me co-sleep with my baby. I found that investing in a good quality co-sleeping crib or bassinet, really helps establish a dedicated safe sleeping space for baby while still having them close.

With the co-sleeping crib or bassinet, my baby can have their own space while being close and accessible for night time nursing or soothing. There are many kinds of co-sleeping bassinets available, so it'd be best to research, read reviews, and find a great one that works for you and your baby.

Not only does this option provide an independent sleeping space for the child, but it also gives the parent ample space to move and avoid accidentally rolling over the baby. This option also helps address concerns of overheating, breathing difficulty, or suffocation and keeps the baby comfortable and healthy.

Incorporating a co-sleeping crib or bassinet into the bedtime routine helps balance the much-needed closeness with the added benefit of providing necessary space to both parents and babies. Hope this helps!


Hi everyone! I’ve been co-sleeping with my baby, who is now a toddler, and establishing a bedtime routine was crucial for us. My advice would be to start the routine earlier in the evening instead of nearing bedtime, so as to avoid rushing through activities and activities can be spread throughout the evening.

We would usually start winding down by dimming the lights about 30 minutes before bedtime, and spending the next 20+ minutes reading books, cuddling, or just chatting. During this time, I played lullabies or calming music that helped set the ambiance. We would then brush teeth, change the diaper or use the potty, and nurse to sleep.

I found that minimizing clothing changes at night also helped avoid any disturbances, and keeping everything organized makes a big difference, as looking for things in the dark can disrupt sleep as well.

When my baby slept deeply, I would use dim lighting while putting her down in the bed, and then quickly sneak out quietly. It took time, practice, and patience on my part, but it becomes much easier with time.

Overall, setting a consistent and calming bedtime routine can make co-sleeping or room-sharing workable, enjoyable, and a great bonding experience for both you and your child. All the best on this parenting journey!

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