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What are some strategies for managing my baby's separation anxiety when leaving them with a babysitter or daycare?

Hey everyone,

I'm a new mom and I'm struggling with my baby's separation anxiety. Whenever I leave my baby with a babysitter or at daycare, she becomes very upset and cries a lot. It breaks my heart and I'm not sure what to do. I know this is a common issue among babies, but I'm hoping to learn some strategies to help make the transition easier for my baby and me. Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much.

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I had a similar experience with my first child when I left her at daycare. It was very difficult for her to adjust to the new environment and she cried a lot when I left. However, over time, we found some strategies that helped to manage her separation anxiety and make the experience less traumatic for both of us.

One thing I found useful was to establish a routine. I would try to drop my daughter off at daycare at the same time each day and keep the goodbye routine consistent, which helped to provide a sense of stability and familiarity.

Another effective strategy was to encourage my daughter to play with other children. This helped her to create new relationships and have a more positive experience at daycare.

I also found that being positive and confident when leaving her was helpful, as it helped to reassure her that everything was okay.

Lastly, I found that talking to the daycare staff about my daughter's needs and preferences was helpful, as they could tailor her experience to her individual needs.

I hope that some of these strategies are helpful for you and your baby. It can be tough to deal with separation anxiety, but with patience and persistence, it does get easier over time. Good luck!



When my child started experiencing separation anxiety, it was quite challenging as a first-time parent. However, I found that creating a consistent routine for both drop off and pick up times helped tremendously as it provided structure and predictability in each day.

I also found that getting to know the caregiver or teachers beforehand was reassuring for me as a parent. By seeing how they interacted with my child and the other children around them, I was able to build trust and feel comfortable leaving my child in their care.

Another strategy that worked for us was allowing for additional transition time before drop off. I would arrive early and spend a few additional minutes in the classroom or play area with my child, building up her sense of safety and security.

Lastly, I found that setting expectations was helpful, both for myself and my child. By letting my child know what was going to happen throughout the day, it helped her to have a better understanding of the routine and expectations.

Overall, dealing with separation anxiety requires patience and understanding. By gradually exposing your child to new situations and creating a safe and structured routine, it can help them adjust and feel more comfortable with separation over time.


Hi there,

When my child started experiencing separation anxiety, I found that creating a special goodbye ritual was very helpful in easing the transition. We developed a meaningful, personalized goodbye routine that included a special hug and a kiss on the cheek.

Another thing that worked well was encouraging my child to bring a favorite toy or security blanket with them to help with the transition. This provided a sense of familiar comfort while away from me.

I also believe that it's important to find the right daycare or babysitter. When my child first started displaying symptoms of separation anxiety, I was very careful in selecting the right caregiver that would provide a safe, nurturing environment that met my child's needs.

Lastly, I found that it was important to remain calm and positive. Children can sense our emotions and if we appear anxious or upset, it make it harder for them to settle into a new environment.

You're not alone in this, and with patience and time, your baby will eventually overcome their separation anxiety. Remember, it's natural and a normal part of development for babies to experience anxiety, but it doesn’t last forever.



My baby also suffered from separation anxiety and it was a difficult and emotional time for both of us. However, I found that introducing my baby to new environments gradually helped to manage her anxiety.

For example, I started by bringing my baby along when going grocery shopping or running errands, just to get her used to being out of the house and exposed to new people and environments. This helped her to become more comfortable with new situations.

Another strategy that worked for me was to make sure that my baby was well-rested and fed before leaving her. This helped her to be in a better mood and cope better with the change in environment.

I also found it helpful to maintain communication with the caregiver, whether it was the babysitter or daycare provider. Just a quick phone call or text message to check in and see how my baby was doing made me feel more comfortable and kept me updated on how my child was handling the situation.

Lastly, I also found that distraction was a useful technique. I would often leave my baby with a toy or book that she enjoyed, as it helped to distract her and alleviate her anxiety.

I hope these strategies help you and your baby. Remember, every baby is different, so it may take some experimentation and patience to find the right approach that works for your child. Good luck!



I've been where you are in terms of dealing with separation anxiety with my baby, and I'm glad to share some of the strategies that worked for me.

One of the things that helped me was to introduce the babysitter or daycare provider to my baby beforehand. This helped to create a sense of familiarity and made the transition a little easier for my child.

Another strategy that helped was to bring along some of my baby's favorite toys or comfort items. This helped to provide my child with something familiar and comforting to hold onto when I wasn't there.

I also found that staying for a few minutes and playing with my baby before leaving was useful, as this helped my child to adjust before I said my goodbyes.

Lastly, I always made sure to communicate with the babysitter or daycare provider about my child's needs and preferences, which helped to create a more positive experience for my baby.

Overall, it can be challenging dealing with separation anxiety, but with the right strategies, I found it easier to handle. Good luck and I hope some of these tips help!


Hi there,

I completely understand how stressful and emotional dealing with separation anxiety can be, both for the baby and the parents. As a mom who has been through this, I can offer a few strategies that worked for my baby and me.

Firstly, I found it helpful to start small and gradually build up to longer periods of separation. I started by leaving my baby with a trusted family member or friend for just an hour or two, and then gradually increased the time as my baby became more comfortable.

Another strategy that worked for me was creating a goodbye routine. This involved hugs, kisses, and saying "I love you," before leaving. This helped my baby understand what was happening and provided her with some comfort and reassurance.

I also made sure to give my baby plenty of attention and affection when I returned, which helped to reinforce the idea that I would always come back.

Lastly, I think it's important to give yourself permission to feel guilty or upset about leaving your baby. It's natural to want to be with them all the time, but it's also important to take care of yourself and your own needs.

I hope some of these tips are helpful for you and your baby. Remember, every baby is different, so it may take some trial and error to find the best approach for your child.

Best of luck to you!

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