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What are some strategies for managing a baby's separation anxiety?

Hi everyone! I am a new mom, and my baby has recently started exhibiting separation anxiety whenever I try to leave him alone even for a few minutes. It's becoming increasingly difficult for me to manage his anxiety as it often results in a lot of crying and distress. I feel helpless and guilty for leaving him alone, even for a short duration. I was wondering if any experienced moms out there have gone through the same, and if there are any strategies that can help me manage my baby's separation anxiety? I would really appreciate any advice or tips that you can share. Thank you in advance!

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Hello there! I completely understand how you feel. I went through this same experience with my baby girl. One important strategy that I found helpful was preparing my baby for my departure. I would make sure she was well-fed, changed, and comfortable before leaving. That way, she was less likely to become upset due to physical discomfort.

Another thing that helped me was setting a soothing and familiar atmosphere. I played her favorite lullaby, which helped to calm her down. I also kept our goodbye ritual short and sweet to avoid overstimulating her.

At first, I tried not to leave my baby for too long because it was too stressful for her. I started with brief periods and gradually built up to more extended periods of separation. I would leave her in the care of trusted family members or close friends, of course.

Finally, when it was time to get her back, I would approach her gently and calmly. Trying to rush her would only make her more anxious when I returned.

I hope you find these tips helpful. Remember to be patient, consistent, and build trust with your baby. It gets better with time, and your little one will eventually learn to cope with your departures.


Hi there! I can definitely relate. My son had severe separation anxiety when he was a baby, and it was tough to manage. One strategy that really helped was gradually increasing the amount of time I spent away from him.

For instance, I would begin by leaving him with a trusted family member or friend for just a few minutes while I ran an errand. Then, I would gradually increase the amount of time I spent away, working up to an hour or more. By doing this, my son began to realize that I would always come back, which helped him feel more secure.

Another helpful strategy was creating a consistent goodbye routine. I would always say goodbye in the same way (giving a hug/kiss, saying "I love you"), which helped my son get into a routine and feel more comfortable.

Distraction also worked wonders for us. I found that if I left my son with toys or books that he loved, he was more likely to focus on those instead of being upset about my departure.

Hope these tips help! Separation anxiety is tough, but with time and patience, it can be managed.


Hi! I can relate to the situation since my son faced the same thing when he was a baby. One strategy that worked for me was talking to him about my plans ahead of time, so he was prepared.

I would also always talk about how I was going to come back, which gave him a sense of security. Moreover, I would make sure I set up a routine for him with his caregiver so that he would know what to expect from them.

Another strategy was to keep my own emotions in check when I left. I learned that if I was calm and composed, it helped my son feel more relaxed and secure going forward.

I would also always have a small item that carried my scent, like a scarf, with him. This helped him realize that I had not left and that I would be back.

Lastly, I found that prioritizing my return, like getting back sooner than later, helped to minimize his distress.

Keep taking it one small step at a time, and your little one will eventually get used to your departures. Don’t forget to praise your baby for any progress they make.


Hey! I can relate to this. My toddler son started experiencing separation anxiety when he was a little over a year old. To manage it, I used to leave him with his favorite toys and try to make the environment as similar to our home environment as possible. I would also give him a well-defined timeline that helped him anticipate my return.

Another strategy that helped me was explaining my disappearance to my son. I would let him know every step of the way when I was leaving, where I was going, and when I’ll be back.

I found that easing him into the departure made a huge difference. For example, by gradually building up time spent away from him, it helped him to feel more comfortable when I left. I also made sure I was not in a hurry because he could sense it and it would make him more anxious.

Lastly, as painful as it can be, I learned I needed to leave swiftly rather than dragging the goodbye process. Lingering around can make it more uncomfortable for both of us.

Remember, babies and toddlers are like plants that need to be nurtured with love and patience. Your baby will eventually outgrow the phase with time and the right steps taken.


Hello! I completely understand the situation you are in. I had to deal with something similar when my daughter was about 10 months old. The best strategy that worked for me was to gradually introduce her to other people and places, so she got used to the idea of being away from me.

To help her adjust, I used to let her play with other children and encourage her to interact with the family members at home. I found that this helped her develop more confidence and independence.

Another thing that helped me was to remain calm and positive when I left her with someone else. This not only calmed her down but it also gave me peace of mind knowing that she was in good hands.

I also tried not to overstimulate her before my departure. Instead, I would keep things low key so that she wasn't too hyped up when I left.

Finally, I learned to trust my gut feelings. If I didn't feel comfortable leaving her with someone, then I would just stay put. After all, as mothers, our instincts are usually right on the money.

I hope these tips help you manage your baby's separation anxiety better. Remember that every baby is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Stay positive and trust that things will work out.

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