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What are some strategies for helping children develop strong social skills?

I am a parent of a 7-year-old child who is shy and struggles to make friends. As a parent, I worry about my child's social development and want to help them improve their social skills. I have tried putting them in social situations like playdates and extracurricular activities, but my child still seems to struggle with socializing.
I was wondering if anyone has any strategies or tips for helping children like mine develop strong social skills? I appreciate any advice or personal experiences you can share. Thank you.

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Hello there,

I'm a parent of a now 10-year-old kiddo, and I had similar concerns about their social development when they were younger. One of the strategies that worked for us was encouraging our child to engage in imaginative play with other kids. We organized playdates with peers, provided dress-up costumes, and let them play for hours without interfering. Through this, our child learned how to initiate play, take turns, and learn social norms like sharing and cooperation.

We also find that praising and acknowledging positive interactions they've had, even the small ones, has helped with our child's social confidence. For instance, when they come home with news of having lunch with a new friend, we praise their efforts and encourage them to cultivate the relationship further.

Finally, we take our child out to museums, cultural events, and other kid-friendly activities. These activities help our child learn to observe others' behavior and communicate with folks outside of their age group.

Overall, being patient and relaxed, and providing opportunities for our child to socialize has gone a long way in promoting their social development.



As a parent of a very introverted and shy child, it has been a journey to improve their social skills. One strategy that worked for us was exposing our child to situations that challenge their shy behavior. For example, our child used to hold back from asking questions in class, so we encouraged them to participate more in group learning activities that require interaction. By doing so, they developed the confidence to engage with their peers and developed better social skills.

Another thing that worked for us was working with our child's teacher to provide opportunities that promote positive social engagement in the classroom. Our child was part of a group project, and they had to work with other team members to solve problems. This challenge motivated our child to participate in group activities and practice their social skills with their peers.

Finally, we encourage them to read books that talk about social skills and engage in conversations around those topics. Talking about and role-playing different social scenarios help bring awareness and understanding of different social behaviors.

Overall, I hope that one of these strategies will be effective in helping your child develop a better sense of social skills.


Hi there,

As a parent of a child with similar social struggles, I have found that one strategy that has helped my child is teaching them social cues and practicing them in safe and comfortable environments. For example, we practice greetings, making eye contact, and starting and maintaining conversations at home and then gradually apply these skills in real-life situations. Role-playing has also been effective in building my child’s social confidence.

Additionally, I have found that encouraging my child to participate in group activities that align with their interests has been beneficial. My child loves sports, so we signed them up for a soccer team. The team atmosphere and shared interest in the sport have helped my child make friends and build relationships with their teammates.

I hope these strategies help you and your child. Good luck with the social development of your child!


Hello everyone,

As a former teacher, I've had experience working with children having different social skills. One effective way to enhance your child's social skills is to provide them with opportunities to learn empathy. Empathy is an important social skill that allows children to understand others' feelings and perspectives.

One strategy that worked for me is provided students with community service experience. I organized trips to shelters or nursing homes, and we spent the day volunteering by carrying out different chores. Working with others and providing help to people in need helped my students learn empathy.

Another thing we did in the classroom was set up classroom meetings where students took turns sharing their experiences, feelings, or concerns. We provided guidance through open-ended questions, and this helped students develop listening and communication skills. Students were free to express themselves, and this created a supportive environment where they learned to understand and relate to each other.

Finally, showing an active interest in your child's social development is crucial. Having regular conversations with your child about their experiences can open up opportunities for learning and growth. You can also model positive social behaviors like showing kindness, respect, and being a good listener.

In summary, empathy, open communication, and modeling are excellent strategies to ensure your child develops strong social skills.


Hi there,

As a parent of a child with autism, helping them develop social skills has been a significant concern for us. One helpful strategy we found was breaking social skills into smaller, more manageable tasks. For example, instead of overwhelming our child with the task of initiating a conversation with a new friend, we would begin with a smaller task of greeting someone with a smile.

Additionally, we turned to technology to find social skills resources like apps that offer social stories, videos, and games that promote social learning. One app we found helpful is Social Express, which provides social skill-building activities through games.

Finally, we found that social groups have been very helpful for our child's social development. By attending groups formed by other parents or through school, our child had a chance to practice social interactions with like-minded peers. This was a positive experience because the groups provided a supportive environment to build social skills.

In conclusion, finding the right resources like apps and programs, along with practical interventions like social coaching proved effective in helping our child with autism develop social skills.


Hello there,

As someone who has worked with children with behavioral challenges, I have found that social skills training is an effective way to improve communication and interaction. Using social stories, we can share a message about different social behaviors, and how our actions can impact others. For example, we would read a story about sharing and discuss why sharing is valuable.

Another strategy that proved effective is peer support programs. We would pair children with behavioral challenges with mentors, typically children who had a better understanding of social norms. This peer support system provided positive reinforcement and coaching to help our students develop social skills.

Finally, providing a comfortable environment where students can feel safe to express themselves without judgment is very important. In these comfortable settings, students can practice social interactions without the pressure of getting it right immediately.

I hope that these strategies will prove helpful to you and your child. Keep on mind being patient, understanding, and providing support to your child is key in promoting their social development.

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