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What are some strategies for gradually reducing or ending co-sleeping with my baby when it is no longer desired or practical for our family?

Hi everyone,

I'm a new mom to a 9-month-old baby, and my husband and I have been co-sleeping with her since she was born. However, as she's getting older and more active, we've been finding that it's becoming less practical and we'd like to start transitioning her to sleeping in her own crib.

We've tried putting her down in her crib before, but she wakes up almost immediately and starts crying until we bring her back to our bed. We're not sure what the best strategy is to help her start sleeping in her own space.

Has anyone else gone through the process of transitioning from co-sleeping to separate sleeping spaces? What worked well for you? How long did it take? Any tips or tricks would be greatly appreciated!

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tharris

Hello everyone,

I am a mother of a two-year-old daughter, and we co-slept until she was around 19 months old. During the transition to separate sleeping spaces, we decided to focus on gradually making changes to help her feel comfortable and confident in her own space.

We started by setting up a separate crib in our room and transitioning from the family bed to the crib. Initially, my daughter only napped in it, and later we transitioned her to nighttime sleep in the crib as well. It was all about starting slowly and gradually acclimatizing her to her sleeping space.

To help her feel at home, we personalized her sleeping space with her favorite stuffed animals, blankets, and pillows. We also introduced a soft light and a white noise machine to help her feel more relaxed.

Another thing that helped was introducing a new bedtime routine that involved reading a book, singing a lullaby, and turning on the white noise machine. Our daughter came to associate these activities with going to bed, which helped her fall asleep faster and easier.

We also made sure to stick to a consistent sleep schedule, so if she slept well one night, we would repeat the same routine the next night. Consistency was important to help her understand the new sleeping arrangement.

Ultimately, every child is different, and what works for one family may not be suitable for another, but it is important to find strategies that will work for you and your child. The most important thing is to approach the transition with patience, understanding, and love.

clarabelle.kozey

Hello everyone,

I'm a mother of two boys, and with both of them, we co-slept until they were around a year old. Transitioning them to a separate sleeping space can be challenging, but it's doable.

One thing that worked for both of my boys was to gradually move their sleeping space from our bed to their own room. We started by putting their crib in our room and slowly moved it across the room over the course of a few weeks until it was in their own room.

Another thing that helped was to establish a comfortable sleeping environment. We used a sleep sack to keep them warm and cozy, and we made sure that their room was quiet, dark, and comfortable. We also used a white noise machine to block out any external noise.

When we did start putting them down in their own room, we would stay in there with them until they fell asleep. Then, we would slowly reduce our presence until they were comfortable falling asleep on their own.

It's important to remember that every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. It's also important to be patient and consistent during the process. It may take a few weeks or even a few months for your child to get used to sleeping on their own, but it's worth it in the end.

Good luck and keep at it!

cristal.fadel

Hi, everyone,

I have two children, and with both of them, we co-slept until they were around ten months old. Once we felt ready to make the transition, we started by introducing the crib into our bedroom.

We made sure to make it an inviting and secure place for them to spend their nights. We began by placing them to nap in the crib during the day, first with us in the room and then gradually leaving the room.

We also implemented a consistent bedtime routine, which included a bath, a nighttime story or song, and then being placed in the crib while awake but drowsy. This helped them learn how to fall asleep on their own.

We also found that using white noise machines and soft lighting in their room helped a lot in making them feel comfortable, particularly to block out the noise from outside.

It is essential to stay patient during the transition period and listen to your child. Be flexible with the methods you use because everyone is unique, and what works for one child may not work for another. Don't give up if the transition does not happen right away.

In the end, we chose a method that best suits our children's needs and what we are comfortable with as parents. It helps them to feel secure and confident while sleeping on their own.

mackenzie64

Hi everyone,

I have two children, and with my first child, we co-slept until she was around seven months old. Transitioning to her own sleeping space was not too difficult as we slowly began to phase it in.

We started by ensuring a comfortable sleeping environment. We purchased a night light, had a humidifier running, and used a white noise machine. Additionally, we kept the room cool but made sure she had warm pajamas and blankets.

We also established a consistent, calming bedtime routine. Overall, her routine contained a warm bath, reading her favorite books, singing lullabies, having quiet time, and saying goodnight. That way, she began to know when it was time for her to settle in for the night.

We finally moved her crib into another room but started placing it first in her play area for her to get used to it, and when she was comfortable with it as her play area, we started having her take her daytime naps in it.

Lastly, we allowed my daughter the freedom to get accustomed to the crib at her pace, and we chose not to rush the process. Initially, I would lay down with her until she sleeps, and then I would leave the room. It gradually evolved into having her fall asleep by herself, and within a few weeks, she was fully transitioned into her own sleeping space.

Overall, the transition from co-sleeping to separate sleeping space may take some time and patience, but it is essential to start slow, create a comfortable sleep environment, establish a consistent bedtime routine, and allow your child to adjust at their own pace.

fpfeffer

Hello everyone,

I am a mother to a six-month-old baby girl, and my husband and I have been co-sleeping with her since she was born. However, we have realized that it's time for her to start sleeping in her own space.

To help her transition from co-sleeping to a separate sleeping space, we have started by placing her crib in our bedroom. We felt that it was a good compromise since she could still feel close to us while getting used to sleeping separately.

We also created a comfortable sleeping environment for her by using a sleep sack, white noise machine, and a dim light. Having familiar smells and sounds around her helped her feel more at ease because she was used to them from co-sleeping.

Another thing that has helped us in the transition is making sure to carefully communicate with her about bedtime. It may sound silly to communicate with a six-month-old, but we still talk to her, tell her what's happening, and help her get into the right frame of mind for sleeping. We also established a consistent bedtime routine that involves bathing her, soothing her with a massage, and reading her a story before placing her in her crib.

We are still early in the transition process, but we have started to see gradual improvements. She has started to sleep longer stretches in her own space, which is a good sign. It is important to remember that every child is different, and the transition process may take some time, but stay patient and consistent.

I hope this helps someone else who is going through the process of transitioning their child to a separate sleeping space.

vbechtelar

Hello everyone,

I'm a mom of a 14-month-old baby girl, and I co-slept with her until she was about 9 months old. When we started to transition her to her crib, we had to start slowly and patiently.

One of the things we did was to place her crib in our bedroom so that she could get used to the idea of sleeping on her own without any fear. It was a sort of compromise between co-sleeping and separate sleeping.

We started by having her take her daytime naps in the crib before we gradually introduced the idea of her sleeping in the crib at night. To help her get used to sleeping on her own, we put some of our shirts in her crib so that she could smell our scent and feel close to us.

It's important to note that the transition wasn't easy; it took some time, and there were days when she still wanted to sleep in our bed. But we continued with the process, and she eventually got accustomed to sleeping in her crib.

Another practical tip that worked for us was to have a consistent bedtime routine. This helped our daughter look forward to bedtime and get into the right frame of mind. We would start the routine by having a bath, reading a book, and then singing her favorite lullaby before placing her in her crib.

In conclusion, making the transition from co-sleeping to separate sleeping space can be challenging, but with patience and consistency, the transition can be smooth. Starting slow, having a consistent bedtime routine, and being there for your baby during the process goes a long way. Good luck!

virginie.runte

Hello all,

I am a mother of two, and with both of my children, we co-slept until they were around 1 year old. When the time came to transition them to their own sleeping space, we approached it with a gentle and patient routine.

We first introduced their crib into our bedroom and started placing them in it for daytime naps. This helped them to get a nap routine established and feel more comfortable in their own space.

To help create a sleeping environment that was soothing, we used soft and warm light, combined with a quiet ambient noise to help ease them to sleep. Similarly, we also utilized soft blankets and stuffed animals they were already familiar with from co-sleeping.

As for the nitty-gritty details of the transition, we did it gradually, instilling them with the feeling that their crib was a safe place to sleep. We would sit with them until they fell asleep, gently patting their backs, or just being there.

Eventually, they started to enjoy the feeling of sleeping in their own space and would only wake up once or twice in the night wanting to come to our bed. It takes some patience, but consistency in your approach will eventually pay off.

Keep in mind that all children are different, and their comfort zone will be different. Take the transition at the baby's pace and let them become comfortable with their sleeping space over time. Eventually, they will become settled in their new sleeping space, and you'll be joining the ranks of the separate-sleeper parents.

mcglynn.tatum

Hi there,

I went through a similar transition with my baby when she was around 10 months old. Like you, we had been co-sleeping since she was born, but we knew it was time for her to start sleeping in her own crib.

We started by gradually transitioning her to her crib. We would put her down for naps in her crib during the day and gradually started putting her down in the crib at night. At first, she would only last a few hours before waking up and coming back to our bed, but slowly she started sleeping longer and longer stretches in her crib.

One thing that helped was making sure her crib was a comfortable and nurturing sleeping space. We used white noise, black-out curtains, and a lovey to help her feel more secure in her crib.

Another thing that helped was creating a consistent bedtime routine. We would do bath time, read a story, and then put her down in her crib. Having a consistent routine helped her understand that it was time for bed and to settle into her own sleeping space.

It took about a month for her to fully transition to sleeping in her own crib, but it was worth it in the end. She now sleeps more soundly and has a better sleep schedule overall.

I hope this helps, and good luck with your transition!

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