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What are some strategies for dealing with societal stigma and discrimination against queer families, and how can I support my children through these challenges?

Hi everyone,

I am a mother of two children who are part of a queer family. My partner and I have faced a lot of societal stigma and discrimination due to our sexual orientation and the fact that we have children. It's been tough to deal with, and we worry about how it's affecting our kids.

We're looking for strategies to cope with this discrimination and ways to support our children through these challenges. We want to make sure they feel loved and accepted, despite what others may say or think about our family.

Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hi everyone,

I am a queer parent who has faced discrimination in the workplace due to my sexual orientation and family status. While there's no easy solution to dealing with discrimination, there are some strategies that can help you navigate these challenges.

One of the most important things to understand is your rights as an LGBTQ+ family. There are numerous laws and regulations that protect individuals from discrimination, especially in the workplace. It's important to research and understand these laws so that you can advocate for yourself and your family.

Another thing that can help is to be proactive when it comes to finding supportive workplaces. While workplace discrimination still occurs, there are many companies and organizations that are actively working to be inclusive and supportive of LGBTQ+ individuals and families. Researching different employment opportunities and asking about workplace policies can help you find a supportive work environment.

It's also important to find support from other LGBTQ+ parents who have faced similar challenges. There are many online and offline communities that can provide a source of support and understanding. They can offer advice, share experiences and resources, and help you feel less alone.

Finally, taking care of your mental and physical health is essential when dealing with discrimination. Whether it's seeking therapy, exercise, meditation, or just allowing yourself to take breaks from stressful situations, self-care can help you cope with the challenges of discrimination and be a better advocate for your family.

I hope these strategies can provide some support and comfort to other queer parents who are facing discrimination. Remember, you are not alone and your family's love is valid and beautiful.


Hey there,

As someone who has grown up in a queer family, I can share some insights from my own experience. One of the biggest challenges we've faced as a family is the lack of visible representation in everyday life. Growing up, I rarely saw families like mine in media, and this made me feel as though our family wasn't "normal." It can also make it hard to explain your family dynamic to your peers.

To combat this, we tried to create our own sense of normalcy as a family. We celebrated our love for each other by doing things like making up our own traditions or spending time together doing things that we all enjoyed. Doing these things helped me realize that our family was unique, but also valid and full of love.

It's also important as a parent to advocate for your family, especially if you are being discriminated against. This can feel exhausting, but it's essential to help protect the emotional well-being of your kids. It's crucial that they know their family is valued and that discrimination and hate are not okay.

Finally, finding community and support outside of your immediate family can be a great way to cope with societal stigma and discrimination. Whether it's befriending other queer families, joining local advocacy groups, or finding online communities, having a support network can offer a sense of belonging and help you feel less isolated.

I hope these perspectives are helpful in your journey as a member of a queer family. Remember that your family's love is valid and beautiful, no matter what others may say.


Hey there,

I'm a queer person who is not in a family, but I've witnessed the challenges that queer families can face. One aspect that can be particularly difficult for queer families is navigating the education system. Educational institutions can be hostile environments for LGBTQ+ individuals and families, which can be stressful and negatively impact student outcomes.

To help combat this, it's important to educate yourself on how the education system functions and what resources are available. Many schools and universities now have diversity programs and support groups for LGBTQ+ students, and it's essential to seek out and take advantage of these resources.

It's also important to advocate for your child within the education system. This might mean speaking with your child's teacher or guidance counselor to make sure they are aware of your family's dynamic and ensuring that your child is not singled out or bullied because of their family situation. Additionally, working with local and state school boards to advocate for LGBTQ+ inclusion programs can make a difference for future generations.

As a member of your community, you can also make a difference by supporting inclusive educational initiatives. For instance, attending and speaking out at school board meetings, voting for LGBTQ+ supportive candidates in elections, and signing petitions for inclusive education policies can help.

Overall, the education system can be a challenging environment for queer families, but having an understanding of the resources and advocating for yourself and your child can improve the experience. Remember, your family is just as valid as any other family, and it's important to make sure your child feels that way too.



I completely understand where you're coming from. As someone who is part of a queer family, I know how it feels to have to deal with societal stigma and discrimination. It can be really tough, especially when you want to protect your children from the negativity.

One thing that has helped me personally is being very vocal about my family and our love. When people try to make negative comments, I make sure to speak up and correct them. It can be intimidating, but it's also a great way to educate people and show them that queer families are just as loving and capable as any other family.

I also try to surround myself and my family with positive representation. Whether it's through books, movies, TV shows, or even social media, seeing positive representation of queer families can be really comforting and validating. When my kids see positive representation of families like ours, it helps them feel less alone and more accepted.

Finally, I've found that it's important to take care of myself and my mental health. Dealing with discrimination and prejudice can be exhausting, so I make it a priority to take time for self-care and to seek support when I need it. Whether it's through therapy, support groups, or even just spending time with loved ones who are accepting and supportive, taking care of myself helps me be a better parent and advocate for my family.

I hope this helps, and I wish you and your family all the best.


Hello there,

I am also a member of a queer family who has faced discrimination from society. It can be really hard to deal with, especially when it feels like you're constantly having to defend your family and your love for each other.

One thing that I have found helpful is to educate others about what it means to be part of a queer family. Sometimes people are simply uneducated about what it means, so I try to approach the topic with understanding and patience. I answer their questions and try to dispel any misconceptions they may have.

Additionally, it's important to be prepared to deal with discrimination when it happens. This means being familiar with your rights as an LGBTQ+ family and having a plan in place for how to respond to discriminatory behavior. Whether it's knowing who to contact in the legal system or having an escape plan for dangerous situations, being prepared can make dealing with discrimination a little bit easier.

Finally, I've found that it's important to build a support system within the LGBTQ+ community. It can be a source of strength to connect with others who have faced the same challenges and understand what you're going through. Whether it's through social media, events, or other LGBTQ+ resources, having a community to turn to can make all the difference.

I hope some of these strategies may be helpful to you and your family. Know that you're not alone in dealing with these challenges, and there are many resources available to help you.


Hi there,

As someone who has dealt with societal stigma and discrimination against my queer family, I can definitely relate to your situation. It can be really difficult to deal with, but there are some strategies that have helped me cope.

First and foremost, I've found it really helpful to connect with other queer families in my community. It's comforting to know that I'm not alone, and it's also a great way to find support and solidarity. There are often LGBTQ+ family groups or meetups that can be a great resource for finding community and support.

I've also found that being open and honest with my kids about our family and the discrimination we face has helped them understand and cope with it better. We've had age-appropriate conversations about prejudice and discrimination, and we've tried to empower them to stand up for themselves and others who may be facing similar challenges.

Finally, finding allies and supporters within our social circles and community has been really invaluable. Whether it's having friends and family members who actively support and advocate for our family, or finding groups and organizations that are allies to the LGBTQ+ community, having a support system has made a world of difference.

I hope this helps, and know that you're not alone in dealing with these challenges.

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