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What are some resources available for adoptive and foster parents who are experiencing burnout or stress?

Hi everyone,

I am an adoptive parent of two children and have recently been feeling overwhelmed with the daily demands of parenting. I love my children dearly, but sometimes I feel like I am running on empty and am struggling to keep up with everything. I am looking for some resources that can help me deal with the burnout and stress that comes with being an adoptive or foster parent.

Can anyone suggest any good books, websites, or support groups that have helped them in similar situations? I am open to any suggestions and am eager to find some ways to recharge and take care of myself so that I can be a better parent to my children. Thank you in advance for any advice you may have.

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Hi there,

As an adoptive parent, I can completely relate to the feelings of burnout and stress that come with the territory. One resource that has been incredibly helpful for me is a support group for adoptive parents that meets once a month. It's a safe space for us to share our struggles and triumphs, offer each other advice and empathy, and just know that we're not alone in our experiences.

Additionally, I've found that taking time for self-care is crucial in managing burnout. Whether it's taking a yoga class, going for a run, or even just taking a long bath, giving myself time to recharge and be alone with my thoughts has been invaluable. Don't be afraid to reach out to friends or family members for help with childcare if you need time to yourself.

Lastly, I highly recommend the book "The Whole-Brain Child" by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson. It offers practical strategies for helping children cope with emotions and develop resilience, which can be incredibly useful for adoptive or foster parents dealing with trauma-related behaviors.

Best wishes to you on your parenting journey!


Hello everyone,

As a foster parent who has been through periods of burnout and stress, I've found that having a healthy outlet for my emotions is incredibly helpful. For me, this outlet has been writing in a journal. It's an excellent way to process emotions and vent frustrations without fear of judgment. If writing isn't your thing, you might find that painting, playing music, or even some form of physical exercise can also be helpful.

Another resource that I recommend is finding a licensed clinical social worker or therapist that has experience working with foster or adoptive families. They can teach you coping skills and offer support when things inevitably get challenging. I recommend finding someone who has training in trauma-focused care, as they will be better equipped to help you navigate common challenges that come with fostering or adopting traumatized children.

It's also essential to have a good support system in place. Whether that's a group of close friends, family, or other foster or adoptive parents, having a group of people who can offer you help and support when you need it is crucial.

Lastly, I encourage parents to seek out resources provided by their state or county. There are often training sessions or classes available that can offer useful information and support. In my state, for example, there's a program where foster parents can sign up for free massages, which can be an excellent way to combat stress.

Overall, there are many resources available to adoptive and foster parents, and finding the right combination that works for you can make a big difference in your mental health and your ability to provide the best care for your child.


Hi everyone,

As an adoption caseworker, I have worked with many adoptive and foster parents who have experienced burnout and stress. One resource that has been helpful for many of them is taking classes or attending workshops on various aspects of parenting. These classes can help parents feel more confident in their abilities and offer them practical tips that they can apply in their daily lives. Furthermore, attending these classes provides parents with an opportunity to connect with other parents facing similar challenges.

Another resource that can be helpful is finding a mentor. The person will be someone with more experience than you and can offer guidance and support as you navigate through the complexities of parenting. A mentor can help you navigate the system, provide practical tips, and be a sounding board when you need advice.

Additionally, respite care can also be useful for parents who are experiencing burnout. It's essential to take breaks and recharge. Respite care can offer a short break that allows parents to take time off to care for themselves, remember who they are, and take care of their mental and physical health.

Lastly, I recommend reading "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, as it provides valuable insights into the effects of trauma on the body and offers smart strategies for coping and healing.

In conclusion, parenting, especially adoptive or foster parenting, is demanding, and burnout is unavoidable. However, finding resources that offer practical tips and emotional support can make the journey smoother. Remember, you are not alone, seek support when you need it.


Hey there,

As a foster parent, I know that the journey comes with its ups and downs. From dealing with bureaucracy to concerns about reunification, it can be challenging. However, one resource that has been indispensable in this journey is therapy. I joined a couple of support groups, but sometimes, one needs someone objective to listen, and therapy provided that outlet.

Another resource that has been helpful for me is an activity or hobby that allows me to do things I love or things that make me happy. Taking time out to do something fun, be it painting, hiking, or trying a new restaurant with friends, helps to relieve stress and focus on something other than parenting.

I also find it helpful to maintain a social circle with other foster parents. We share our experiences and learn from one another. This way, I don't feel isolated or like I am the only one going through specific challenges.

Lastly, I have found "The Connected Child" by Dr. Karyn Purvis to be a valuable resource. It is a highly informative book that provides insights into how children from traumatic backgrounds can be helped. It also provides proven strategies to help children who have encountered past trauma.

All in all, being a foster parent can be challenging, but finding the right resources can help make the journey a little less daunting.


Hey there,

As an adoptive parent of two children myself, I know how important it is to take care of oneself to cope with the demands of parenting. One resource that has been helpful for me is respite care. It's essential to take a break from parenting, and respite care allows me to do just that. If you're unfamiliar with the term, respite care is when someone else looks after your child(ren) for a short period, so you can take a break. It could be a trusted friend, family member, or a reputable organization that provides such service.

Another resource that has helped me is joining online support groups. Being able to connect with other parents going through the same experiences is comforting. It offers some sense of belonging and helps to reduce feelings of isolation. Besides, there are so many virtual support groups catering to every type of adoption or foster care experience.

Lastly, I've found that mindfulness meditation can help reduce stress levels. It offers a sense of calm and helps to focus on the present rather than worrying about the future or past. There are many apps to help guide meditation, such as Headspace, Calm, or Ten Percent Happier.

In conclusion, being a parent can be challenging, but there are many resources available to adoptive and foster parents to help manage stress and burnout. Just don't forget to take care of yourself.


Hi everyone,

As a foster parent, I know all too well the stress and burnout that comes with taking care of children that have been through trauma. One resource that has been particularly helpful for me is finding a therapist that specializes in trauma response. A therapist that's an expert in trauma can help you understand the behaviors of a child who's been through traumatic experience and teach you how to respond better to your child in a way that supports their healing process.

Another resource that has been particularly helpful for me is learning to create a daily self-care routine. I found that self-care is critical to combating burnout and maintaining a healthy mindset. It can be as simple as taking a walk, practicing yoga, or reading a good book. What's essential is to find something that works for you and do it regularly.

I also found that taking time to build a support system of other foster parents has been particularly helpful. These are parents who understand the unique challenges of fostering and can offer emotional support, advice, and share tips and best practices.

Lastly, there are many blogs and online resources for foster parents that offer information, support, and advice. Some of my favorite resources include The Chronicles Of A Foster Mom, Foster the Family, National Foster Parent Association, and Together We Rise.

I hope these resources can be helpful to you as you manage stress and burnout as an adoptive or foster parent. Remember that it's essential to take care of yourself and seek help when you need it.

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