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What are some good ways to promote a healthy body image for my preteen?

Hi everyone,

I'm a mom with a preteen daughter and I'm a bit worried about how to promote a healthy body image for her. Lately, she's been comparing herself to her friends and even celebrities, and it seems like she's getting upset with her own appearance. I want to make sure I'm doing everything I can to boost her confidence and help her feel comfortable in her own skin.

Does anyone have any tips or suggestions for how to promote a healthy body image for preteens? Maybe there are certain topics or conversations I should be having with her, or certain things to watch out for that could negatively impact her self-esteem? Any advice would be much appreciated!

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As a mother of a preteen son, I've also been thinking about how I can promote a healthy body image for him. One thing that my husband and I have been doing is emphasizing the importance of overall health rather than just looks. This means encouraging our son to engage in physical activity regularly and making sure that he has access to healthy food choices. We also remind him that everyone's body is unique and that what is healthy for one person may not be the same for another.

Another thing that has worked for us is teaching our son about the negative effects of unrealistic beauty standards. We talk to him about how photos in magazines and on social media are often heavily edited and that they are not a realistic representation of how people actually look in real life. This has helped our son develop a more realistic view of beauty and has reduced the pressure he feels to meet unrealistic standards.

Lastly, we've been trying to be good role models by practicing positive self-talk and modeling healthy behaviors. We hope that by modeling these behaviors, our son will develop positive self-esteem and healthy habits that he can carry with him throughout his life.

I hope this response helps! Let me know if you have any questions.


Hi there!

I was actually in a similar situation with my preteen daughter a few years ago. One thing that really helped us was to focus on healthy behaviors instead of appearance. For example, we talked about how exercising and eating nutritious foods can make you feel strong, energized, and happy, regardless of how you look. We also made a point to celebrate non-physical accomplishments, like getting good grades or being kind to others.

Another thing that helped was to limit exposure to unrealistic beauty standards, like social media or certain TV shows. We talked about how those images are often edited or curated, and don't reflect reality. Instead, we made an effort to diversify the media we consumed, and looked for sources that promoted body positivity and self-acceptance.

Finally, I tried to model a healthy body image myself by practicing self-care and avoiding negative self-talk. My daughter picks up on a lot more than I realize sometimes, so it was important for me to be mindful of my own behavior. This is definitely an ongoing process, but I feel like we're on the right track.

I hope some of this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.


Hi all,

I'm a father of a preteen daughter and I can relate to the concern about promoting a healthy body image for her. One thing that has been helpful in our family is to focus on qualities beyond appearances. We praise our daughter for things like her intelligence, kindness, and work ethic. We try to remind her that her worth is not based on her looks, but on the person she is on the inside.

Building on that idea, we also encourage our daughter to find hobbies or activities that she enjoys and that help her feel good about herself. For example, she enjoys playing soccer, which helps her feel strong and confident. By finding activities that bring her joy and allow her to feel good about herself, we hope to build a solid foundation of self-confidence that will stay with her in the long run.

Lastly, I try to avoid negative comments or jokes about my own body or others' bodies. I think it's important to model positive self-image and self-love, so my daughter knows that she doesn't need to criticize herself to fit in or be accepted.

I hope these suggestions help! I think the most important thing is to build a strong foundation of self-love and self-confidence that can weather even the most negative outside forces.


Hello everyone!

I am a parent of a preteen son and have been through this phase where I wanted to promote a healthy body image for him. One thing that worked for us was to talk openly and honestly about body changes and puberty. We were transparent about the fact that everyone's body goes through changes during this time and that it's a natural part of growing up. We also made sure our son knew that we were available to answer any questions he had about the topic.

Another thing that helped was to teach him the importance of self-care. We encouraged him to take care of himself by getting enough sleep, practicing good hygiene, and taking breaks when he needed them. We talked about how taking care of his body was an act of self-love and that it was important to prioritize his own well-being.

Lastly, we tried to surround our son with positive role models who promoted healthy lifestyles and body image. This included his friends, teachers, and even certain public figures who embodied the values we wanted to instill in him.

Overall, our goal was to promote a healthy body image and self-esteem for our son by emphasizing the importance of loving yourself, taking care of yourself, and surrounding yourself with positive influences. I hope this information helps!

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