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What are some good strategies for dealing with tantrums?

Hey everyone, I am a first-time parent of a toddler who is going through a phase of throwing intense tantrums. I find myself feeling lost and frustrated when dealing with them. It seems like no matter what I do, nothing works to calm my child down. I would love some advice on good strategies for dealing with tantrums. How do you handle your child's outbursts? Are there any techniques or tips that have been particularly effective for you? Thank you in advance for your help!

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Hi everyone,

I have a child who used to throw tantrums frequently. One strategy that worked for me is to stay consistent and disciplined when addressing the tantrum. I try not to reason or argue with the child during the tantrum, as it can prolong the situation. Instead, I calmly remind the child of the rules and how I expect them to act. Additionally, I do not give in to any unreasonable demands- it sets a precedent for future behavior.

Another thing I have found helpful is to know my child's triggers. Some children have difficulty dealing with transitions or unfamiliar environments. Being aware of what sets my child off has helped me prepare and prevent a tantrum from happening. I think it’s also essential to remember that each child is different, and what works for one may not work for another. It's important to remain observant and mindful when dealing with tantrums.

I hope this helps anyone undergoing similar issues. Cheers!


Hi there! I have a toddler who sometimes throws tantrums too. One strategy that has worked for me is to stay calm and not react emotionally to their outburst. I try to validate their feelings without giving in to their demands. For example, I might say something like, "I can see you're feeling really upset right now, but we can't have candy before dinner. Let's figure out a different way to help you feel better."

Another approach that has worked for me is distraction. I try to redirect my child's attention elsewhere by offering a different activity, toy, or snack. Sometimes changing the environment or scenery can help too.

Lastly, consistency is key. Children thrive on routine and structure, so I find that sticking to a set schedule and rules helps prevent tantrums from happening in the first place. Of course, there will always be moments where a tantrum is unavoidable, but hopefully these strategies can help diffuse the situation. Good luck!

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