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What are some gentle discipline strategies for dealing with bedtime battles or refusing to nap?

Hi everyone,

I'm a new mom and I'm struggling with bedtime battles and nap time issues with my 8-month-old baby. I find it really difficult to soothe her and get her to sleep. She cries a lot, clings to me, and refuses to lie down in her crib. It's exhausting and stressful for both of us. I don't want to resort to harsh disciplinary methods, but I also don't want to let her cry it out.

I'm looking for some gentle discipline strategies to help me deal with bedtime battles and refusing to nap. What are some tips and tricks that could help me in this situation? I'm open to any advice or experiences you might have. Thanks for your help!

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Hello there,

I understand your struggles with bedtime and naptime routines. As a mom of three, I have also dealt with these challenges. One thing that has helped me a lot in my experience is establishing a consistent bedtime for my children - this helped to ensure that their circadian rhythm was regulated and that they would become naturally drowsy around that time.

Apart from that, one method that worked very well for me when my children were being difficult is to redirect their attention - this involved engaging them in specific activities that would make them calm enough to fall asleep. I found that activities like singing lullabies or reading bedtime stories to them was an excellent way to calm them down and prepare them for sleep.

Another method that a friend of mine used is to use a reward system for good behavior. Whenever her children followed the bedtime routine or took their naps without fuss, they were rewarded with a small treat or a sticker - this acted as an incentive for them to comply.

It is important to remember that children have different needs and circumstances - the key here is to be flexible with your discipline strategies and always prioritize your child's comfort and wellbeing. Best of luck!


Hey there,

I completely empathize with the struggles of putting your baby to sleep. I have a 5 month old daughter who often refuses to take her naps. However, one thing that has helped me is establishing a soothing routine before nap time.

I begin by dimming the lights, playing some soft music and rocking my baby gently. I find that this helps to create a calming environment that helps my baby to relax and ultimately fall asleep.

Another technique that I have found effective is the 'Fading out' technique. This involves slowly withdrawing your presence as your baby drifts off to sleep until they no longer need you in the room. I have done this quite a few times with my daughter, where I would gradually lessen the rocking or patting until she eventually drifts off without any external stimuli.

Lastly, I try to stay positive and patient during the nap time battles. Infants often pick up on our moods and emotions, so I find that staying calm and composed helps to soothe my baby and ultimately makes the process a bit smoother.

I hope these tips help you, and good luck!


Hi there,

I know exactly how you feel when it comes to bedtime and naptime struggles. I have a 2-year-old daughter who has quite a bit of energy, and sometimes it can be challenging to get her to sleep.

One thing that has worked for us is having a calming bedtime routine. After dinner, we'll have some quiet time and read books, then it's time for a bath followed by getting into her pajamas. We have a routine of brushing her teeth, saying goodnight to everyone in the house, and then cuddling while she listens to some soft music.

Another thing that has worked for us is enforcing naptime boundaries. I remind my daughter that naptime is coming up and we need to get ready for it. I also give her plenty of notice that it's coming up so that she's not caught off guard. This sometimes involves turning off the TV or finishing up activities so she has time to unwind before sleeping.

Lastly, I try to be as patient as possible, and I don't rush the process. If she's struggling to settle down, I'll sit with her and talk softly, or just be present in the room, so that she knows I'm there if she needs me.

Hopefully, some of these strategies will work for you too. Good luck!


Hey there,

I can definitely relate to your struggles, as I have a 10-month-old daughter who goes through similar phases. One thing that has helped us is sticking to a consistent bedtime routine. This includes a warm bath, putting on cozy pajamas, and reading a favorite book. We try to do this at the same time every night, so our daughter knows it's time to wind down and get ready for bed.

Another thing that has helped us is giving our daughter some control over the process. We let her pick out a bedtime story and choose a stuffed animal to sleep with. This helps her feel more empowered and less resistant to the idea of going to sleep.

When it comes to nap time, we try to stick to a similar routine. We have a designated room where our daughter naps, and we make sure it's quiet and dark. We also try to time her naps based on her natural sleep patterns, rather than forcing her to stick to a strict schedule.

Overall, I think the key is to remain patient and consistent. It's tough, but try not to let your frustration show, as it can make it more difficult for your baby to relax and go to sleep. Good luck!


Hi there,

I can completely relate to the struggles of bedtime and naptime as I have been through this with my two children. One thing that helped us a lot was to establish a consistent sleep schedule. We found that having a routine that we stuck to every night and nap time made it easier for our kids to transition and know when it was time to sleep.

Another thing that worked well was creating a calming environment in their room. We used blackout curtains, a white noise machine, and a night light to make sure the room was dark, quiet, and comfortable. This helped our kids to feel more relaxed and fall asleep more easily.

As for discipline, we tried to avoid harsh tactics or punishment for refusing to nap or sleep. Instead, we tried to be patient and offer comfort and reassurance. We would sit with them and read a story or sing a lullaby until they fell asleep. We found that this helped to build trust and make them feel safe.

Overall, I think it's important to keep in mind that every child is different and what works for one may not work for another. It takes time and patience, but you'll find what works best for you and your child. Good luck!

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