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What are some effective ways to help my toddler cope with separation anxiety during bedtime?

Hi everyone,

I am a mom to a 2-year-old toddler who is experiencing separation anxiety during bedtime. Every time I try to leave the room after tucking him in, he starts crying and screaming for me to stay. It's really difficult for me to see him so upset, and I'm looking for some effective ways to help him cope with this anxiety.

I've tried reading him bedtime stories and playing soft music to make him feel calm, but it doesn't seem to work. I've also tried staying in the room with him until he falls asleep, but I don't want to create a dependency on me being there for him to fall asleep.

I'm hoping to receive some advice and tips from other parents who have experienced similar issues with their toddlers. What are some effective ways that you've used to help your child cope with separation anxiety during bedtime? Any guidance or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hi there!

I completely understand how you feel as I went through the same situation with my toddler when he was around the same age. What worked for us was a consistent bedtime routine.

We made sure to follow the same routine every night, which included bathing, brushing teeth, and reading a book together. This helped my toddler feel secure and comfortable.

Another thing that worked for us was using a transitional object, like a stuffed animal or blanket, that my toddler could hold on to for comfort. We made sure to introduce the object during playtime, so he formed a positive attachment with it.

Lastly, we tried implementing a "goodbye" ritual. We would say goodnight and give a kiss or "blow a kiss" before leaving the room. We also made sure to reassure our toddler that we would be there in the morning when he wakes up.

It took some time for my toddler to adjust, but with consistency and patience, he eventually became comfortable with bedtime routines and able to fall asleep peacefully. I hope these tips help you and your toddler too!


Hello parents,

I've been through a similar experience with my daughter, who had separation anxiety during bedtime. One thing that helped us was to gradually increase the time I spent away from her room.

I started by telling her that I needed to go downstairs to do some chores but would come back to check on her in a few minutes. I made sure to stick to my word and came back to check on her every few minutes.

Over time, I increased the time that I spent away from her room, and she gradually got used to me being out of the room for longer periods. I found that this method helped her build confidence and trust that I would always come back to check on her.

Another thing that worked for us was providing her with a special toy or blanket for comfort. This helped her feel secure and gave her something to hold onto while I was out of the room.

I hope these tips help other parents going through similar issues with their toddlers. Remember, it takes time, patience, and consistency to help them build confidence and overcome separation anxiety.


Hi fellow parents,

I went through the same thing with my 3-year-old toddler, and what worked for us was using positive reinforcement.

We created a reward chart, and for every night that our toddler went to bed without any issues or separation anxiety, she would receive a sticker on the chart. Once she filled up the chart with stickers, we would reward her with a small toy or a special treat.

At first, we had to rely on the chart a lot, constantly reminding her of the chart and the reward if she went to bed without any problems, but after a few weeks, it became second nature to her, and we didn't have to use it as much.

This strategy worked for us, but everyone is different, and what works for one child might not work for another. However, I suggest trying it out and seeing if it helps your toddler cope with separation anxiety during bedtime.

Good luck!


Hi there,

My son also had severe separation anxiety during bedtime, and it completely drained me out. What worked for us was acknowledging his feelings and explaining to him that it's okay to feel scared or anxious.

We would have a conversation and ask him what he was afraid of, and we'd validate his feelings by telling him that it's normal to feel that way sometimes.

We also used visualization techniques with him. We would ask him to close his eyes, breathe deeply and imagine pleasant things like flying in space or playing with his favorite toys. This helped him relax and take his mind off any sense of anxiety or fear.

Lastly, we added a dim night light in his room to help him feel more secure and less frightened about the dark. This worked well as it removed any fears he had associated with the eerie silence in the room.

With a combination of these tips, my son gradually started feeling less anxious and much happier at bedtime. I hope this helps others going through a similar experience. Remember, patience is key!

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