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What are some effective ways to handle my preteen's social withdrawal or isolation?

Hi everyone,

I'm a parent to a preteen who has recently started showing signs of social withdrawal and isolation. My child used to be very outgoing and playful, but these days they prefer to be alone in their room rather than hanging out with friends or family. I've tried talking to them about it, but they just clam up and say they're fine.

I'm worried that something might be bothering them or they might be going through a difficult time. I want to be there for my child and help them overcome their social withdrawal or isolation, but I'm not sure how to go about it.

Has anyone else experienced this with their preteen? What are some effective ways to handle this situation? I'm open to any suggestions or advice that you all might have. Thank you in advance.

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Hi there,

I wanted to share some of the things that have worked for me and my preteen child when it comes to social withdrawal. For starters, I make sure that my child has outlets for their stress and anxiety like regular exercise or some mediation.

Additionally, social media can be a great way to encourage socializing. My child has a close friend who lives in another country, and they keep in touch through social media, which helps my child remain connected and engaged with someone their age.

I also try to avoid pressuring my child to socialize, instead letting them take the lead in finding their comfort level. When presented with social situations, I encourage them but never force them.

Lastly, I would recommend getting your child to engage in community service activities as that can help your child interact with other people and feel good about giving back to society.

Remember, every child is different, so keep an open mind and stay patient. I found that spending quality time with my preteen child, like learning a new craft or watching a movie together, can help build trust and create opportunities to talk.
Good luck to you and your child.


Hi there,

I completely understand your concerns as I've gone through a similar situation with my preteen child. When my child started showing signs of social withdrawal, I tried talking to them about it, but they didn't want to open up. So, I decided to be patient and observant. I made sure to keep an eye on their behavior and schedule to see if there were any alarming changes.

Through my observation, I noticed my child was struggling with schoolwork, and it was causing them stress, which was why they were withdrawing. I immediately started helping them with their schoolwork, and slowly but surely, they started to open up to me. Once we started communicating, I could help with the problem, and their social withdrawal disappeared.

So, I suggest you observe your child's behavior if there are no sudden changes in their schedules or if there aren't any significant events happening in their life, then it is probably something they are not comfortable talking about. In that case, all you can do is be patient and offer support. I hope this helps!


Hi there,

I have also been going through the same situation with my preteen child recently. They have been withdrawing themselves from their peers and getting anxious around new people. I was concerned and didn't know how to help my child.

But then I decided to get my child to try out extracurricular activities that they enjoy. My child is passionate about art, so I enrolled them in a drawing class that they could attend once a week. The class helped my child focus on their passion and interact with other kids who shared the same interest. It also helped them gain more confidence and get more engaged in social activities at school.

In addition to that, I highly recommend spending quality time with your children as bonding can also help them open up and share their thoughts and feelings. Do fun activities together and ask them how they feel about things.

These methods have helped my child overcome social withdrawal, and I hope they can help you too. Remember to be patient and approach everything with love and kindness.


Hello there,

I just wanted to share a personal experience regarding my preteen child's social withdrawal. My child had been going through a tough phase in their life, and they were not comfortable talking about it. They were also struggling with low self-esteem and had a negative outlook towards socializing.

To help my child, I started talking to them about their likes and dislikes and tried to figure out their interests. I then tried to find activities that they would enjoy and rooms to express themselves, like writing, music, or art classes. This would give them a sense of purpose and accomplishment that could slowly build their confidence.

I also tried to provide a listening ear, making sure I was there to talk whenever they were ready. Just being there and showing your support can help a lot in these situations.

Also, creating a positive environment at home that reinforces positive values and behaviors can help. Encouraging family activities and keeping communication lines open can help the child overcome social withdrawal.

I hope these tips help you, and remember, there's no one-size-fits-all solution, so adjust them as per your child's needs. Good luck!


Hello fellow parents,

My preteen child also went through a phase of social withdrawal, and it was a very concerning time for me. However, through that phase, I have learned to be attentive and supportive to my child's needs.

One thing that I learned early on was not to force my child into social situations, rather let them find their comfort level. By giving them space to go at their own pace, they will gradually open up and feel more comfortable socializing.

Another thing that helped was being supportive and patient, rather than trying to fix the problem quickly. Encourage them to open up to their peers and offer them a listening ear whenever they feel like talking about their worries.

I have also observed that involving them in extracurricular activities based on their interests and hobbies has done wonders. My child developed a keen interest in photography, and it helped develop their social skills as they tended to gravitate towards other kids with similar interests.

Finally, it's essential to keep the lines of communication open between your child, their friends, and yourself. Encouraging open and honest dialogue is key. When you understand what's going on, you will be better equipped to provide the necessary support and guidance.

I hope these tips have helped in some way, and remember, every child is different, and there is no magic cure, but remain positive and keep supporting your child.


Hello everyone,

As a parent to a preteen child, I've struggled with social withdrawal, and what worked for us was fostering communication. It's vital to communicate with your child, listen to their feelings, and offer understanding and support.

One way to do this is by going on family outings or vacations, where the child can learn, enjoy and relax with the family. This can help open up communication channels as everyone is in a relaxed, enjoyable mood.

Another way that worked for us was enlisting the help of a therapist to help your child open up or gain new insights into whatever they might be struggling with. A professional can empower your child, and provide them with a safe space to explore and grow with their troubles and increase their self-esteem.

It's also essential to seek outside support from groups, such as a parent support group where they can learn and share helpful tips and advice.

Remember, social withdrawal is never easy, but it's crucial to remain patient, attentive and create a loving, nurturing environment. With time, patience, and understanding, your child can overcome their shyness and start enjoying their social life again.

I hope these tips helped!

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