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What are some effective ways to discipline my baby as they grow into a toddler?

Hi everyone,

I am a new mom to a beautiful 7-month-old baby and I am already starting to think about how I will discipline her as she grows into a toddler. I want to make sure that I am setting clear boundaries and rules while also being a loving and nurturing parent. I know that discipline is important for my child's development, but I am also aware that there are different ways to discipline that may work better for some children than others.

I would appreciate any advice or recommendations from experienced parents on what has worked well for them when it comes to disciplining their toddlers. Are there any particular strategies or techniques that you have found to be effective? When is the best time to start disciplining a child? And how can I make sure that I am not being too harsh or too lenient with my child?

Thank you in advance for your help!

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Hello everyone,

As a father of two young children, I have found that one of the most effective ways to discipline them is to model the behaviour I want to see. Children are always watching and imitating their parents and caregivers, so it's important to exhibit the behaviours we want our children to display.

Another important aspect is establishing clear rules and boundaries while soliciting their input. Age-appropriate rules that align with the child's expected behaviour can help them to understand what is expected of them. Establishing these rules and boundaries with the child's input can help build their sense of independence and autonomy, and they are more likely to follow the rules when they help create them.

It's important to remember that discipline does not mean punishment, but rather guiding the child to understand the difference between right and wrong. Consequences ought to be appropriate for their behaviour, perhaps removing a toy or game for some time. This will not only help guide them to learn right from wrong, but they will also develop good decision-making skills.

To summarize, modelling good behaviour, establishing age-appropriate rules with the child's input and consequences that fit their behaviour will help guide your child and minimize acting out. It takes time and patience, but with a gentle and firm approach, children learn to make good choices.


Hello everyone,

As a mother of three children, I have learned a lot about discipline and what works best for my family. One of the most effective ways to discipline my children is through communication. I talk to them, explain the consequences of their actions, and listen to them. It is important to understand that children are still developing and need guidance, not just punishment.

Another method I have found to be effective is to stay calm and consistent in my approach. Raising your voice, hitting or using fear tactics as a way of discipline can instill fear rather than teaching. Instead, I remain calm and consistent in my approach. I use age-appropriate punishments, such as taking away the iPad for two hours, and follow through with them. I make sure that consequences are relevant and make sense to the child so that they understand the lessons being taught.

Moreover, I have discovered that rewarding good behaviour is as effective as negative reinforcement. For instance, when my child shares a toy with their sibling or listens to instructions, I reward them with praise or special recognition. It helps to reinforce positive behaviour and encourages them to continue acting respectfully and compassionately towards others.

In conclusion, communication, consistency and positive reinforcement have been successful methods in disciplining my children. Although every child is different, it is important to find the approach that works best for our individual children and to always approach discipline with love and understanding.


Hi there!

As a parent of a 3-year-old toddler, I can definitely understand your concerns about how to discipline your child as they grow up. For me, one of the most effective ways to discipline my child has been through positive reinforcement. That means that I make sure to praise and reward my child when they exhibit good behavior, rather than only focusing on what they did wrong.

I've also found that setting clear expectations and consistent consequences for misbehavior has been helpful. For example, if my child throws a tantrum, I might give them a time-out or take away a toy, but I always explain why and remind them of the expected behavior. This helps my child understand the cause-and-effect and the importance of following rules.

Another key thing that has worked for me is recognizing that discipline is not punishment. It's important to communicate with your child and help them understand why certain behaviors are not acceptable, rather than just reacting in the moment. This can sometimes take more time and effort, but it's ultimately more effective in shaping your child's behavior in the long run.

Lastly, I think it's important to start disciplining your child early on, even as early as 6-9 months old. This doesn't mean you need to punish them at this age, but rather establishing routines and limits from the beginning will help the child understand the expectations as they grow up.

Hope this helps!


Hello there,

In my experience as a parent of a 4-year-old toddler, I've found that one of the most effective ways to discipline my child is to create a strong routine. Toddlers thrive on consistency and routine, so having a structured daily schedule helps them understand what they should be doing throughout the day and what is expected of them.

Furthermore, I have also found that giving choices is a great way to discipline a toddler. For instance, instead of simply telling them that they can't have something they want, offer them two other options that are acceptable. For example, if they want candy before dinner, offer them a choice between a slice of fruit or a healthy snack instead. The more autonomy you give toddlers, the more willing they are to accept rules and limitations without feeling like they are being punished.

Lastly, I've learned to be patient with my child and to choose my battles. It's essential to be strict on rules that are crucial, such as cleaning up their toys after playing, while being more relaxed about others. This approach helps prevent provoking tantrums and negative behavior and reduces unnecessary conflict.

In conclusion, by setting a daily routine, offering choices, and being patient and selective in rule enforcement, I have found a more successful approach to discipline that doesn't involve excessive punishments or strict enforcement.



I am a mother of two toddlers - a 2-year-old and a 3-year-old. I have found one of the most effective ways to discipline them is to use positive reinforcement, similar to User 1. When they behave well or complete a task, I praise them and reward them with a treat or a fun activity. It helps to reinforce good behaviour.

Another method I have found to be effective is the "time-in" method. When my child behaves badly, I will take them gently by the hand and lead them to a quiet corner of the room to sit with them. I explain to them why their behaviour is unacceptable and that I understand how they feel. We sit together until they feel better, and then we talk about how they can make better choices in the future. This approach has drastically reduced tantrums and acting out.

Lastly, I have found that setting firm but realistic boundaries is essential. For example, I tell my toddlers that we don't hit or throw toys, and if either happens, there will be a consequence. Then, I consistently follow through with fair punishments that are age-appropriate.

To conclude, positive reinforcement, time-in methods, and setting realistic limits have worked wonders for me when disciplining my toddlers. It takes time and patience, but with a consistent and loving approach, you will see positive results.

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