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What are some effective ways to address substance abuse or addiction issues with my preteen?

Hey guys, I'm really worried about my 12-year-old son. Lately, I have noticed some changes in his behavior and I suspect that he might be abusing drugs or alcohol. He has become more aggressive towards his siblings and he is always asking for money. I have tried talking to him about the issue but he always denies any wrongdoing. I'm not sure what to do at this point and I'm afraid that his addiction might get worse if I don't take action soon. Do you have any advice or tips on how to address substance abuse or addiction issues with a preteen? How do I talk to him about it without making him feel cornered? Thanks in advance for your help!

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Hello, I can understand how worried you are about your preteen as I have been there too. My 10-year-old daughter was addicted to prescription drugs and we didn't even know about it until she started experiencing withdrawal symptoms. It was a huge shock to us, but we immediately took her to the doctor and got her the help she needed. The doctor recommended that we enroll her in a youth addiction program and that was a game-changer. The program provided her with counseling and therapy, and she was surrounded by other kids who were going through the same thing. It helped her to feel less isolated and more understood. We also made sure to keep an open line of communication with her and let her know that we were there for her no matter what. It was a long road, but with patience and perseverance, she was able to overcome her addiction. I hope this helps and I wish you and your child all the best!


Hey there, I can totally relate to your situation as I have been there before. My 11-year-old daughter was also abusing drugs and alcohol and it was so hard to get her to admit it. I think the first thing you need to do is to get professional help. I took my daughter to a therapist who specialized in substance abuse and addiction and that really helped her to open up and face her addiction. Another thing that worked for us was to create a safe and nurturing environment at home. We removed all the drugs and alcohol from the house and made it clear to our daughter that there would be consequences if she continued to abuse these substances. Lastly, we talked to her about the risks and consequences of drug abuse and how it could affect her future. It was a long journey, but my daughter is now sober and doing much better. I wish you all the best in your journey to help your child.


Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but I'm glad you are taking steps to address it right away. Substance abuse is a serious issue that can affect anyone, regardless of age. I went through a similar experience with my 13-year-old son. It was tough, but we managed to get through it by being patient and understanding. One thing that worked for us was to have an open and honest conversation with him. We asked him if he was doing drugs or drinking and he finally admitted to it. It was a really hard conversation, but we made sure not to judge him, but rather to offer our support and let him know that we loved him no matter what. We also got professional help from a counselor who specialized in substance abuse. The counselor helped us to understand what our son was going through and gave us advice on how to help him. It wasn't an easy journey, but we stuck with it and our son is now doing much better. I hope this helps!


Hello, I can completely relate to your situation as my 11-year-old niece was also struggling with drug abuse. It was really tough for our family, but we took immediate steps to help her overcome her addiction. The first thing we did was to talk to her and ask her about what was going on. We were patient and understanding, and we listened to her without interrupting her. After that, we took her to a rehabilitation center where she received professional help. The center provided her with counseling and therapy and that really helped her to overcome her addiction. Another thing that worked for us was to be consistent and firm, we did not enable her behavior and made it clear that what she was doing was wrong. We also joined a support group for families of addicts which was also very helpful. It was a long and hard journey, but we did not give up on her, and now she's doing much better. I hope this helps and wish you all the best!

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