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Should I let my toddler lead the potty training process or should I take charge?

Hi everyone,

I am a mom to a 2-year-old boy and I am starting to think about potty training. I'm not sure whether I should let my toddler lead the process or take charge myself. I have read conflicting advice online and from friends, and I'm not sure what to do.

My son has shown some interest in the potty, but he is still very young and I don't want to push him too much. On the other hand, I know that some experts recommend taking a more active role in potty training to help children develop the necessary skills.

I am hoping to hear from other parents who have gone through this process and can offer advice based on their own experiences. Should I follow my son's lead and let him take the lead in potty training, or should I be more proactive and take charge myself? Any tips or ideas would be greatly appreciated!

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Hello everyone,

As a parent who also recently potty trained my 2-year-old daughter, I would suggest following your child's lead on this one. I found that by waiting until my daughter showed readiness signs, the process was much smoother for both of us.

I initially introduced the potty to my daughter, but did not push her to use it until she began showing an interest in it. This helped make potty training something she felt comfortable and confident in doing, and it was less stressful on everyone.

I would also advise waiting until you have a block of time to dedicate to the process. Potty training requires consistency and patience, so picking a time where other big life changes aren't happening may help the process go smoother. For us, it was over a long weekend where we could stay home and focus all our energy on potty training.

Ultimately, I believe that every child is different and will learn to use the potty in their own time. By following our daughter's lead and patiently waiting until she was ready, we were able to successfully potty train her without added stress. Good luck!


Hi there,

As a parent who recently potty trained my 2-year-old daughter, I would recommend taking a more proactive approach to the process. While it's important to follow your child's lead and let them express interest in the potty, I found that actively teaching and encouraging my daughter made the process much smoother and quicker.

I started by introducing the potty as a fun and exciting thing, with books and videos about using the potty. I also put her on the potty at regular intervals, such as after meals or before bedtime, to help establish a routine.

At first, my daughter was resistant and would often resist using the potty. But by remaining positive and encouraging, she eventually got the hang of it and started asking to use the potty on her own.

Of course, every child is different and what worked for my daughter might not work for everyone. But based on my experience, taking a proactive approach to potty training can be very effective. Good luck!

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