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My toddler is having accidents, what should I do?


I have a 3-year-old toddler who has been potty trained for a few months now. However, recently he has been having accidents during the day and even at night. I'm not sure what to do to help him get back on track with his potty training. He seems to be afraid of the toilet seat and doesn't want to sit on it anymore. I'm at a loss for what to do and any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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I went through a similar experience with my own child a few months ago. She was fully potty trained, but then started having accidents during the day and at night. Like your child, she seemed to be afraid of the toilet seat and didn't want to use it anymore. It was really frustrating for both of us, and I wasn't sure what to do at first.

What ended up working for us was taking a step back and starting over with the potty training process. We went back to using pull-ups and had her try to use the potty every hour or so, even if she didn't think she had to go. We also tried to make using the potty more fun and less scary, by putting stickers on a chart every time she successfully used the potty, and giving her small rewards for meeting certain milestones (like going a whole day without an accident).

It took some time, but eventually she got over her fear of the toilet seat and was able to fully potty train again. My advice would be to be patient and consistent, and don't be afraid to take a step back if needed. Good luck!



I understand your situation, and I would like to say that you should not worry too much as it is a common issue among toddlers. I have a 2-year-old who is still in the potty training phase, and he also has accidents now and then.

In my experience, what works best is to keep encouraging them and not make them feel bad for the accidents. We use positive reinforcement techniques such as giving him high-fives and telling him how great he is doing every time he successfully uses the potty.

Also, we found that keeping a consistent schedule for potty time helps a lot. We ask him if he needs to go often, and if he doesn't, then we remind him after a certain period. If we aren't at home and he needs to go, we make sure to have a portable potty or take him to the nearest bathroom.

Another useful tip is to make the potty process fun. We got a potty seat that had some designs on it and also let our little one choose which color toilet roll he wanted. Having a step stool so they can climb up to the potty themselves can also make it feel like more of an achievement for them.

Remember, patience is key with potty training. It takes time and consistency, but soon enough, your little one will be back on track.



Potty training can be a challenging time for both the child and the parent. My child went through potty training smoothly and achieved full potty training in a short period of time. However, when he started preschool, he began having accidents again.

We realized that the accidents were due to the change in routine and environment in preschool. Preschool is often an exciting but overwhelming experience for a child, and it can affect their potty training progress.

What worked for us was to talk to his preschool teacher and come up with a plan that would work for him. The teacher suggested that he be reminded to use the bathroom before transitioning to different activities and also that he should be allowed to visit the bathroom whenever he needs to during class time.

We also talked to him and reassured him that accidents were normal and that we were proud of him for trying his best. We reminded him to use the bathroom whenever he needed to, even at home, to reinforce the habit of using the bathroom regularly.

It took some time and patience, but we were able to get back on track with full potty training once again. So, my suggestion would be to communicate with your child's teacher or daycare provider and find out if there's any change in routine or environment that might be affecting your child's progress.


Hi there,

I understand how challenging it can be when a toddler starts having potty training accidents. My child went through a similar experience a few months ago. She was almost fully potty trained, but then suddenly started having accidents multiple times a day.

After consulting with our pediatrician, we were advised to rule out any medical causes that may be triggering the accidents, such as constipation or a urinary tract infection. Thankfully, everything was fine in that regard, but we did learn that sometimes accidents can be due to stressful events, such as starting preschool or moving to a new house.

So, we took a break from potty training for a few days and tried to reduce any sources of stress in my daughter’s life. We spent more time playing and reading books together, which seemed to help her relax.

After a few days, we went back to potty training, but this time we started with small steps, like having her sit on the potty for a few minutes at a time without the pressure of actually having to go. We also praised her for trying, even if nothing happened. It took time, but eventually, she started having fewer accidents and became more confident using the potty again.

In summary, what worked for us was to take a step back, identify any possible stress triggers, and slowly get back to potty training in small steps.


Hi there,

I had a similar experience with my child when he was 4 years old. He had been potty trained for about a year and suddenly started having accidents during the day and night. After talking to his doctor, we learned that it was a common occurrence and that it could be triggered by emotional stressors or anxiety.

We tried to identify any changes in his routine or emotional stressors that might have caused the regression in potty training. We learned that he was feeling anxious about starting kindergarten, and that was causing him to have accidents. We talked to him about the anxiety he was feeling, and we reassured him that it was okay to have accidents.

To help him feel more comfortable with using the potty again, we used positive reinforcement, and encouraged him to use the potty more frequently. We also made sure to give him privacy and not make a big deal out of accidents.

Finally, after a few weeks of encouragement and reassurance, he was back to being fully potty trained.

In summary, it's important to be patient and understanding when your child has potty training accidents. Talk to them, reassure them, and try to identify any underlying issues that may be causing them stress or anxiety. With time, patience, and positivity, your child will be back on track with potty training in no time.

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