Loading Kindness - Spinning Up Mommy Magic

While the Love Loads, Our Spinner Spins. Get Ready to Share, Support, and Bond with Like-minded Moms!

Popular Searches:

My toddler has a fear of the dark. What can I do to help him or her feel more comfortable at night?

Hi everyone,

I am a parent of a 2-year-old toddler who has recently developed a fear of the dark. This fear seems to have intensified in the past couple of weeks, and it's affecting his bedtime routine. He refuses to sleep alone in his room and wants me or my partner to stay with him until he falls asleep. Even then, he frequently wakes up in the middle of the night crying and scared.

I want to help my toddler feel more comfortable at night and develop healthy sleep habits. Any suggestions or tips on what I can do to alleviate his fear of the dark and help him feel more secure in his room would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

All Replies



I’d like to share my tips on helping your toddler feel more comfortable with the dark. My first suggestion would be to check the lighting in your child's room. If it's too dark, try adding a lamp or a night light. On the other hand, if the room is too bright, it can also contribute to their fear of the dark. Therefore, dim the lighting slightly to reduce anxiety.

Another idea would be to create a nighttime ritual with your child. This could include reading books, playing a quiet game or singing a lullaby. Whatever activity you decide, ensure it’s relaxing and calming.

Moreover, I would recommend giving your toddler a sense of control. Allow them to choose their nightwear or their stuffed animal companion for bedtime. This way, it gives them a sense of control over their bedtime routine, and they are likely to feel more secure.

Lastly, you can try showing your child that the dark is not as scary as they think. You could take them outside at night and show them the stars or let them decorate their own glow-in-the-dark items.

In conclusion, I hope these tips help your child to feel more comfortable with the dark. Remember to be patient, and soon enough, your child will be sleeping soundly through the night.


Hey everyone,

I’ve struggled with my 3-year-old daughter's fear of the dark and spent several sleepless nights finding solutions. One of the effective ways I discovered was using a comfortable night light that projected unique patterns on the ceiling. The projection distracted her from the darkness and helped her relax.

Besides that, we changed the daytime routine to promote more physical activities and incorporated relaxation techniques such as yoga and massage to calm her down in the evenings. This helped to tire her out and fall asleep faster.

Also, we ensured she felt safe and not alone by placing a family photo or a picture in a frame close to her bed. She often smiled at the picture before falling asleep, giving her more positivity vibes and providing a sense of security.

Finally, I would suggest playing a recorded story or music, which soothes them into sleep. You can find many soothing soundtracks, guided meditations, and stories on YouTube, Spotify, or other podcast apps.

In conclusion, the fear of the dark is normal and should be addressed with patience and understanding. I hope these tips work for you and your little one. Remember, be considerate, and they will eventually overcome their fear of the dark.



As a parent of a 5-year-old son who also had a fear of the dark, I can understand what you are going through. One thing that really worked for us was using white noise machines or soundscapes during bedtime. This helped to divert our son's attention from creepy thoughts to peaceful sounds. We particularly used the ocean wave ambiance, which helped to soothe him into a sound sleep.

Additionally, we also used guided meditation for kids at bedtime. We downloaded kid-friendly meditation apps that included stories designed to engage them, and it worked wonders. I believe this gradually helped my son to change his mindset and made him more relaxed before sleeping.

Furthermore, another thing that helped us was encouraging him to practice deep breathing exercises regularly. We would make it fun by pretending to blow out a candle or blowing up a balloon. This helped him to stay calm and gradually switch from scared to being relaxed.

I hope these tips can help you and your toddler. Remember, every child is different, so you might have to try various things before finding what works for you. Best of luck!


Hello everyone,

As a mother of a 3-year-old with a fear of the dark, I can understand the challenging situation. One thing that helped us to ease her fear was to allow her to participate in decorating her room. We crafted a fun and engaging project by which my daughter chose her favorite posters and drawings to hang on her bedroom walls. This helped to create a calming atmosphere and made her feel proud to be in her space.

Besides that, we used positive reinforcement as a way of acknowledging her bravery. We provided rewards such as stickers or small toys to reinforce positive behavior. She was thrilled to earn these rewards, and it made her more comfortable and confident in her abilities to overcome the fear of the dark.

Another useful technique we practiced was gradual exposure. We started by turning out the lights for a short time, then increased the timing gradually. This helped to reduce the intensity of the fear and eventually allowed her to feel more at ease in the dark.

In conclusion, I suggest communicating with your child and showing empathy for their fear. Find imaginative ways to make their room enjoyable and affirm the positive actions when expressing bravery. Incorporate these tips, be patient and loving and within no time, your child will overcome their fear of the dark.


Hi there,

I can totally understand your situation since I have gone through the same with my 3-year-old son. He had a fear of the dark that started to affect his sleeping patterns. What helped us was introducing a night light in his room. This provided a soft glow throughout the night making him feel more at ease when he woke up.

We also implemented a bedtime routine that includes storytime in bed, which helps him relax and become sleepy faster. Talking with him about his day and what he is grateful for also helped to improve his mood and develop a more positive attitude towards bedtime.

Another suggestion would be to allow your toddler to bring a favorite stuffed animal or blanket with them to bed. This can provide a sense of comfort and security, allowing them to feel more at ease at night.

I hope this helps and you find a solution that works for you and your toddler. Best of luck!


Hey there,

I had an almost similar experience with my 4-year-old daughter, who developed a fear of the dark. It was very hard to put her to bed, and she would wake up in the middle of the night screaming and crying. We did not want this to affect her sleep pattern and healthy development.

One of the things that helped was a new bedtime storybook that featured the character overcoming fear. This gave my daughter hope and ideas that maybe she too could overcome her fear of the dark. I would suggest you get a book that teaches children ways to deal with their fear.

Also, we allowed her to leave the door to her room partly open so that she could see some light from the hallway. This made her feel that she was not completely alone and had a sense of security in her room. Gradually, we started closing the door bit by bit until now she can sleep with her door completely shut.

Lastly, we reinforced to her that fear is a natural emotion that everyone experiences, and it’s okay to talk about it. We showed her how to take deep breaths and relax her body when feeling scared at night.

I hope these tips help your toddler overcome their fear of the dark. Remember, it’s just a phase, and with lots of patience and understanding, your toddler will soon feel comfortable sleeping alone.


Hi there,

I want to share some of the ways we helped our 4-year-old son overcome his fear of the dark. First, we talked about the fear in a clear and honest manner. We discovered that sometimes, simply explaining the unknown, caused his fear to lessen. We let him know that there is nothing dangerous or harmful in the dark, and it is normal to feel scared at times.

Additionally, we redecorated his room to create a more calming and comforting atmosphere. We incorporated his favorite color in the decor to foster a positive feeling, painted stars and moons on his roof to represent his favorite thing in the sky. We also added a few cuddly toys in the room to keep him company at night.

Having a consistent and predictable nighttime routine was also helpful. We followed the same pattern of going to bed for a long time, which rapidly helped him to settle down.

Lastly, we created some positive and affirming statements, which we recited together with our son before bed. These statements reinforced his bravery, helped him to feel supported and assured him that he had the ability to conquer the fear of the dark.

I hope these tips help your toddler overcome fear of the dark. Have patience as it's not always an immediate solution, and with time, they will learn to manage the fear independently. All the best!

New to Kind Mommy Community?

Join the community