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My toddler has a fear of going to the bathroom. What can I do to help him or her overcome this fear?

Hi everyone,

My 2-year-old toddler is currently having a fear of going to the bathroom. Whenever I try to take him/her to the bathroom, he/she starts crying and gets scared. It seems like he/she is experiencing some sort of anxiety.

I'm not sure where this fear is coming from, but I'd like to know what I can do to help him/her overcome it. I've tried talking to him/her calmly and reassuringly, but it doesn't seem to be helping much.

Is there anything else that I can do to help my toddler overcome this fear and start feeling comfortable when going to the bathroom? Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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Hi there,

I totally understand how you are feeling, as I had a similar experience with my toddler. She was absolutely terrified of using the toilet due to her prior experience with constipation and pain.

To tackle her fear, I started with a conversation about how every person uses the toilet and how it is a natural bodily function. I also used a children’s book about potty training to make it a fun storytime activity. We giggled about how funny it is to fart and poop, and she started to understand the concept of using a toilet.

One thing that also worked for us was distraction. I encouraged her to bring her favorite toy or book to the toilet, which not only distracted her from her fear but also made it a fun and interactive activity.

Another thing that helped us was maintaining a routine. I made sure that we established a fixed toilet time with incentives such as positive reinforcement when she is feeling comfortable enough to use it without being afraid.

Lastly, we talked about healthy food habits and how it’s essential to avoid foods that might lead to constipation, which also eased her fear of going to the restroom.

In conclusion, I hope that our experience might be helpful. It is important to remember that every child is different, but with a patient and positive approach towards potty training, it will become a breeze in no time!


Hi there,

I know how frustrating it can be to see your toddler struggling with fears and anxiety. My toddler went through a similar phase when it came to using the bathroom. They would always refuse and get scared, which was difficult for both of us.

What I found helpful was finding ways to make the bathroom less scary for my toddler. I started by bringing in some of his/her favorite toys or books to keep him/her distracted and relaxed. I also made it more comfortable by adding a small stool and a child-sized toilet seat.

Another tip that worked for my toddler was trying to establish a routine for bathroom trips. We would go as soon as we woke up or after meals, so my toddler knew what to expect and felt more in control of the situation.

Lastly, I would suggest being patient and positive with your toddler. Praise them for small successes and don't get frustrated if it takes some time for them to conquer their fear. With time and effort, your toddler will feel more comfortable and confident when using the bathroom.

Hope these tips help!


Hey there,

I completely understand what you're going through right now. My toddler had a similar fear and it was a challenging time for both of us. However, what worked for us was gradually desensitizing my child to the bathroom.

I started by just having my toddler sit on the toilet seat fully clothed, then gradually removed clothing items until he or she was comfortable enough with the actual process of using the bathroom. This eased my child into the routine and made it less scary.

Another helpful strategy that we used was watching videos or reading books about potty training. It helped to make the process seem less daunting and more fun. This also made it easier for my toddler to transfer what they saw to the bathroom.

Finally, I found that positive reinforcement was key. Celebrating every successful bathroom trip, and providing small rewards was a great way to encourage and motivate my child. It's amazing how much positive reinforcement can help in potty training.

In conclusion, there is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to dealing with a toddler's fear of using the bathroom, but I hope my personal experience and tips can help you in some way.

Good luck!


Hi there,

I understand how hard it can be when your toddler has a fear of going to the bathroom. My little one went through the same thing a few months ago, and it was really tough to know what to do to help.

What worked for us was to involve my child in the process. I allowed my toddler to pick out a special seat or stool for them to use in the bathroom, and we even picked out a fun picture to put up on the wall to distract them. This helped to take the focus off the fear and onto something positive.

I also found it helpful to be calm and patient when my toddler refused to use the bathroom. It's important not to force them, but let them know that it's a safe and comfortable space for them. Talking to them about why they are scared can also help you understand their fear and work towards addressing it.

Lastly, I found it helpful to offer rewards such as stickers or small treats after my toddler successfully used the bathroom. This provided them with motivation and gave them a sense of accomplishment.

Remember that it is a process, and it may take some time for your toddler to overcome their fear. Be patient and keep trying different strategies until you find one that works for you and your little one.

Hope this helps!


Hi all,

I can totally relate to the situation. My toddler experienced the same thing and it was a bit hard to go through. However, what worked for us was allowing our child to take control of the process.

We would just guide our toddler and let he or she dictate when he or she wanted to use the bathroom. We also made sure that they were comfortable with their environment - calm, peaceful and nothing intimidating. We tried to make them feel independent by letting them take off their own clothes and flush the toilet themselves.

At the same time, we also made sure that our child felt safe while using the bathroom by providing adult supervision or an accompanying person to the bathroom.

Moreover, we always have a positive attitude towards the whole process and reassure our toddler that we are proud of their small steps towards conquering their fear. We never used negative words or punishment as a way to solve the behavior.

To sum it up, every child is unique and requires an individual approach. But from my experience with my own child, providing a child-friendly and safe environment while giving them more control over the process can really make a difference in eliminating their fear of using the bathroom.

Hope this helps!

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