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My teenager is struggling with body image issues. How can I help them develop a healthy self-image?

Hi there,

I'm a parent of a teenager who is going through some tough times with their body image. My child has expressed discomfort about their weight, skin color, and overall appearance. They compare themselves to others and constantly seek reassurance from me and their peers. As a parent, I want to help my child develop a healthy self-image and I'm seeking advice on how to do so.

Any tips, resources, or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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Hey everyone,

I'm a teenager, and I can relate to your child's situation. I used to struggle a lot with my body image, and my parents helped me feel better about myself.

What worked for me was having an open dialogue with my parents about how I was feeling. I appreciated when they listened and didn't judge me, even if they didn't necessarily agree with what I said. They helped me feel that my feelings were valid and encouraged me to challenge my negative self-talk.

My parents also reminded me that everyone's body is different, and beauty comes in different shapes and sizes. So, instead of focusing on what I didn't like or what my body couldn't do, they helped me focus on my strengths and accomplishments.

Another thing that helped me was finding role models who had similar body types to mine, who I could look up to and learn from. Also, I started practicing yoga, which made me feel more connected and accepting of my body and helped change the way I viewed it.

So, as a teenager, all I can say is keep the communication lines open with your child, remind them that everyone is unique, encourage them to focus on their strengths, and help them find activities they enjoy that make them feel good about themselves.

Hope this helps.



My teenage daughter is going through a similar situation, and I agree with the earlier responses. In my daughter's case, I noticed that her body image issues were exacerbated by the unrealistic expectations set by social media. Therefore, I made it a point to discuss the "reel vs. real" about social media with her. We talked about how social media portrays an unrealistic and often misleading view of people's lives and bodies.

We also encouraged our daughter to practice self-affirmations every day. We made her write down things that she loves about herself, including physical attributes and other personal qualities. Whenever she starts to feel low about herself or her body, we remind her of this list.

Lastly, I took an active interest in her hobbies and passions. This served as a reminder to my daughter of what really matters and showed her that there is more to life than looks. She became more confident in herself and her abilities, which significantly helped her develop a healthier self-image.

In conclusion, I think it's essential to educate our kids on the reality of social media, practice daily self-affirmations, and encourage them to pursue their interests outside of being concerned for looks. It’s a long journey, but with continuous effort, everyone can learn to love and accept themselves the way they are.


Hi there,

I faced similar problems with my teenage son who started feeling conscious about his weight and skin color. Initially, we tried to come up with dietary plans and exercise routines, but I soon realized that his behavior patterns and mentality towards body image needed an intervention. I started to educate him about body positivity, explaining that everyone's bodies are different and that there is no "perfect" body.

We also had to make sure to eliminate negative talk about body image from our home, and I made a point of complimenting my son on more than just his body appearance. It's so important to remind our kids about their strengths and accomplishments that aren't just physical. This way, they learn to place value on accomplishments and internal qualities rather than looks alone.

Another thing that helped us was to remind our son about the media's impact on self-image. We often talked about how photos in magazines and movies are heavily edited or are only showing one idealized view of beauty. I encouraged my son to follow body-positive social media accounts that promote self-love and acceptance.

At first, my son resisted me, but soon enough, the message started sinking in. Now he's much more comfortable with his body and has accepted that it's okay to be different. My main takeaway is that building a healthy self-image doesn't happen overnight, so it's important to keep the conversations open and keep uplifting your child.

Hope this helps.


Hi there,

I can relate to your situation as I have also dealt with body image issues during my teenage years. One thing that helped me develop a healthier self-image was finding a physical activity that I enjoyed and felt confident in. For me, it was dancing. This not only boosted my self-esteem but also allowed me to focus on what my body is capable of doing rather than how it looks.

Another thing that helped me was practicing self-care and self-love. This can involve simple things like taking care of your hygiene, treating yourself to something you enjoy, or talking kindly to yourself. It takes time, but it's important to actively work on changing negative self-talk and replacing it with positive affirmations.

It's also important to have open and honest conversations with your child about their concerns and feelings. Listen to them without judgment and offer support and encouragement. Encourage them to focus on their strengths and interests, and remind them that everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way.

I hope this helps and wish you and your child all the best in your journey towards a healthier self-image.

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