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My gifted child is struggling with motivation and procrastination, what can I do to help them stay on track?

Hi everyone! I have a 10-year-old child who is highly gifted and talented. They excel in academics, music and sports, but lately I've noticed that they are struggling with motivation and procrastination. Despite having a lot of potential, they tend to put things off until the last minute and often miss deadlines or fail to complete tasks. As a parent, I'm worried about their future and want to help them stay on track. I've tried motivational talks and positive reinforcement, but it doesn't seem to be effective. Are there any proven strategies or techniques that I can use to help my child overcome this hurdle? I would appreciate any advice or insights on this matter. Thanks in advance!

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okuneva.dianna

Hello! I completely understand the struggles of having a gifted child who is struggling with motivation and procrastination. One thing that worked for me was helping my child understand their learning style. As a visual learner, my child found it hard to engage with textbook content. By incorporating visual aids, such as videos or images, the learning process became much more engaging and enjoyable. Additionally, my child struggled with getting started on tasks, so I introduced the "Five-Minute Rule". This rule entailed working on the task for a minimum of five minutes and then taking a break. This was helpful because once my child was engaged in the task, it became easier to continue working past five minutes. Lastly, I found that modeling good work behavior was essential. I created my own to-do list and schedule, and my child saw the value in having a plan and following through with it. I hope this information helps and good luck!

lawson.brekke

Hi! As a parent of a gifted child who has also been through a similar situation, I can relate to your concerns. I found that setting clear expectations and creating a structured routine helped my child stay motivated and focused. It's important to communicate openly and establish a mutual understanding of the goals and expectations for their work. Also, try to break down larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps to reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed. Additionally, helping my child find their interests and passions and finding ways to integrate that into their academic work has been a great motivator for them. Lastly, be patient and compassionate with your child as they learn to navigate these challenges. Keep trying different strategies till you find what works best for your child. Good luck!

mquigley

Hello everyone! I have a gifted child who has also struggled with motivation and procrastination. One strategy that significantly worked for us was setting realistic expectations. My child had a tendency to overcommit and take on too many projects, which led to burnout and a decline in motivation. By working together, we set realistic goals and made a clear plan of how to achieve those goals. This helped my child to avoid feeling overwhelmed and allowed them to see what they could realistically handle. Another thing that worked was breaking down the larger tasks into bite-size chunks with definite timeframes. This helped my child develop momentum towards completing the task, which in turn boosted their motivation. We also introduced a plan to reward themselves upon completion of a task. This was particularly effective because it gave my child a sense of control and ownership of their progress. Lastly, we incorporated more breaks during study sessions, which gave my child time to recharge and prevent burnout. Overall, these strategies were effective, and I hope they can be of help to you too.

sylvan.greenholt

Hello, I understand where you're coming from. I believe that every child is different and the motivational factor for one may not be the same as the other. My child also struggled with motivation and procrastination despite their giftedness. We tried all the conventional methods such as setting goals, rewarding effort, and breaking down tasks into smaller steps to simplify it. However, these techniques did not seem to work with my child. After trying different things, what worked for us was changing the way we approached the task. For instance, instead of forcing them to complete it, we gave them the option to choose the task they wanted to work on first from a given list of options. Secondly, we changed their environment to eliminate all forms of distraction. We ensured they had a designated and quiet workspace and eliminated nearby electronic gadgets that could be distracting while working. Lastly, we focused on enhancing their intrinsic motivation rather than extrinsic motivation. We praised their hard work, initiative, and creativity rather than focusing on the high grades they obtained. By rewiring our approach and applying less conventional methods, our child has been able to stay on track much easier.

jaylin.kunze

Hi there! I'd like to share my experience with a gifted child who struggled with motivation and procrastination. One of the most effective things I did was to provide a more meaningful reason to complete a task. Instead of just seeing it as homework, we discussed the long-term benefits of completing a task, such as it could lead to better academic or career opportunities. Another thing we did was to incorporate movement into study sessions. We took frequent breaks and did some physical activity. This gave my child a sense of renewal and energy, and they were able to return to the task with a fresh perspective. Along with that, we made it a point to celebrate small wins on the way to the goal, such as completing a challenging assignment or improving on a test score. Finally, I encouraged my child to ask for help when needed. It's important to have a support system and know that it's okay to ask for help. I hope this helps in some way, and I wish you the best of luck!

katelyn73

Hi there! As a parent of a gifted child who also struggled with motivation and procrastination, I found that incorporating fun activities into their routine helped to keep them engaged and motivated. For instance, instead of solely focusing on academic work, I introduced my child to different hobbies such as painting, gardening, or photography. These activities helped to break the monotony of academic work, and my child found joy in exploring various interests. Additionally, I learned to focus on the positive rather than the negative. Whenever my child accomplished something, regardless of how small, we celebrated or acknowledged it. I found this to be a great morale booster for them. Moreover, we worked on developing routines and setting up dedicated workspaces to help with focus and productivity. Lastly, I had to learn to be flexible with my child's schedule and approach. We constantly evaluated what was working and what wasn't, made changes where necessary, and tried different strategies to find what was effective. In conclusion, I learned to have a more holistic approach to motivation and sought to keep things fun, simple, and flexible.

jokon

Hello there! I completely understand your concerns and your approach towards motivating your child. As a parent of a gifted child, I too had to deal with similar issues. I found that introducing my child to goal-setting helped them stay motivated towards their work. In addition to that, we started involving ourselves more in extracurricular activities which helped break up the monotony of academic work. It's important to help them focus on the process more than the end result. I also found that showing appreciation for their effort instead of the "A+" grade they received helped to shift their mindset from an outcome-oriented approach. Moreover, I spoke to their teachers and worked with them to find ways to challenge my child intellectually. One of the key things that worked for them was providing them with appropriate reading material and challenging scholarly blog articles that they could use to further their readings on specific topics. I hope this helps! Keep experimenting and stay patient with your child.

benedict62

Greetings! I understand the struggles that come with supporting a gifted but unmotivated child. One tactic that personally worked for me was using external accountability. I helped my child identify someone they could be accountable to other than me. This person could be a coach, mentor or even a friend. If the child was passionate about music or sports, I introduced them to a teacher who was willing to take a personal interest in their progress. Through regular evaluation and feedback, my child had a sense of accountability to someone other than me, which helped to keep them on track. Another tactic we tried was introducing deadlines. We worked on creating a timeline for the larger tasks, then broke it down into smaller sub-tasks, with deadlines for each sub-task. This worked well because my child was more successful when they had clear next steps and a sense of focus. Lastly, I continuously reminded my child of their strengths, how far they had already come, and that they were capable of achieving their goals. I hope this helps in some way, and do not hesitate to reach out if you need any more information.

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