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My gifted child is struggling with anxiety related to high expectations, how can I help them cope?

Hi everyone,

I am a parent of a gifted child who is currently struggling with anxiety related to high expectations. My child has always been advanced in academics and has been recognized as gifted by their school. While I am proud of their achievements, I have noticed that their anxiety levels have been increasing lately.

I believe that this is partly due to the high expectations that others, including myself, have for them. My child feels pressure to perform at a consistently high level, and the fear of failure has been causing them a lot of stress.

As a parent, I want to help my child cope with this anxiety and manage their expectations in a healthy way. I am wondering if anyone else has gone through a similar situation with their gifted child and has any advice or resources to share.

Thank you in advance for your help.

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ystracke

Hi there,

As someone who has gone through a similar situation with their gifted child, I can definitely understand the struggle with high expectations and anxiety. My child was always advanced in school and was often praised for their intelligence. However, this led to a lot of pressure to maintain that level of achievement.

One thing that helped my child was talking openly about their feelings and setting realistic expectations together. We discussed that it was okay to not always be at the top of their class and that it was more important to prioritize their mental health and well-being.

I also made it a point to praise my child for their efforts rather than just their achievements. This helped alleviate some of the pressure they were feeling and allowed them to focus on doing their best rather than being perfect.

In addition, we worked together to create a schedule that allowed for breaks and downtime in between academic activities. This helped my child feel more in control of their schedule and allowed for some much-needed relaxation time.

Overall, it's important to remember that gifted children are still children and need support and guidance in managing their expectations and anxiety. By working together and creating a supportive environment, we can help them thrive both academically and emotionally.

yturner

Hello everyone,

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I have found that focusing on my child's strengths and interests has helped them manage anxiety related to high expectations. It's important to remember that gifted children are multifaceted and have talents beyond academics.

For my child, we have encouraged them to explore areas outside of academic excellence, such as sports, music, or community service. This has provided a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment beyond the classroom and has helped them build confidence.

Additionally, we try to have open and honest conversations about expectations and academic pressure. We discuss that while doing well in school is important, it's not the only measure of success, and that we value their happiness and well-being above all else.

As a family, we try to maintain a balanced approach to life that prioritizes self-care, family time, and personal interests. By modeling healthy living habits and stress-management techniques, we hope to instill these in our child as well.

In conclusion, it's important to remember that gifted children are not defined solely by their academic achievements. By encouraging a holistic approach to life that acknowledges and supports their strengths and interests, we can help them manage anxiety related to high expectations and develop into well-rounded individuals.

wblanda

Hello everyone,

As a parent of a gifted child, I have also seen my child struggle with anxiety related to high expectations. It can be difficult to see your child overwhelmed by the pressure to succeed, and I have often felt unsure of how to help.

One thing that has helped my child is finding a community of peers who share their interests and abilities. This has allowed my child to feel less alone in their experiences and has provided a sense of belonging outside of the academic environment.

We also make an effort to celebrate small successes and achievements along the way, rather than solely focusing on the end goal. This has helped my child see progress over time and has encouraged a growth mindset.

Additionally, we have sought out therapy and counseling to address the root causes of my child's anxiety and develop coping mechanisms. This has been a valuable resource for our family and has provided additional support and guidance.

Ultimately, it's important to remain flexible and willing to adapt our approach as our child grows and changes over time. By staying attuned to their needs and providing a supportive environment, we can help our gifted children thrive and succeed.

loraine.muller

Hi there,

I have also experienced similar issues with my gifted child, who has struggled with anxiety related to high expectations. It can be overwhelming and distressing to watch your child struggle with the pressure to perform at high levels.

One thing that has helped my child is encouraging them to pursue their interests and passions outside of academics. By having outlets for creative expression and exploration, my child has been able to find joy and fulfillment in areas that are not solely focused on academic achievements.

I also found it helpful to involve my child in setting their own goals and expectations. This helped them feel more in control of their academic journey and empowered them to take ownership of their own successes and failures.

We also made sure to prioritize self-care and mindfulness practices, such as meditation and yoga. This helped my child cope with stress and anxiety on a daily basis and build resilience over time.

It's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to managing anxiety related to high expectations for gifted children. Each child is unique and may require individualized support and guidance. By remaining responsive to our child's needs and encouraging a supportive environment, we can help our gifted children thrive and succeed in all areas of their lives.

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