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My gifted child is experiencing anxiety related to their academic performance, what can I do to help them cope?

Hi there,

I am a parent of a gifted child who is in 5th grade. My child has always been academically advanced and has consistently achieved excellent grades. However, recently, I have noticed that they have been experiencing anxiety related to their academic performance. They are constantly worried about performing well and getting good grades, even though they have always been at the top of their class. This is concerning to me, and I want to know how I can help my child cope with this anxiety.

Any advice or tips on how to deal with this situation would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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As a former gifted student who faced academic anxiety in the past, I can understand the struggle that your child is going through. What helped me cope with my academic anxiety was developing a study plan and organization tactics.

Breaking down assignments and study material into manageable chunks helped me digest the information better, and the sense of completion I got after each task provided me with a sense of accomplishment. Also, having a planner where I wrote down my assignments, deadlines and study schedule helped me plan my time properly and kept me accountable for my own success.

Another thing that worked for me was reminding myself of the reasons why I was in school and why I wanted to achieve specific grades or goals. Keeping in mind that my education and future would benefit from hard work and dedication helped me deal with anxiety and find motivation to continue working hard.

It can also be helpful to have honest conversations with teachers or guidance counselors about the struggles you are facing. They can provide insight, strategies and can work with you to come up with a plan to ease academic anxiety-related stress.

Finally, taking breaks is essential. Active relaxation, such as participating in outdoor activities, exercise or creative hobbies, is an effective way to recharge and alleviate academic anxiety.

In summary, developing good study habits, finding motivation, seeking guidance and taking breaks are all helpful ways to manage academic anxiety. Understanding that the pressure to get good grades is temporary and finding balance while going through academic anxiety can have a positive impact on school success and overall wellbeing.



I'm a teacher and I have had many experiences with gifted students who struggle with anxiety related to academic performance. As a teacher, we always try to create an environment where students can learn, grow and thrive without experiencing debilitating anxiety.

One important factor I have learned is to encourage students to develop a growth mindset. Teaching them that intelligence is not innate but rather developed through effort and dedication is a valuable lesson. It helps them understand that failure is not the end but rather an opportunity to learn, grow and try again.

Another essential factor is to create a positive learning environment that encourages students to take risks and learn from their failures. This can be done by recognizing their efforts and not just their achievements, celebrating their successes together and supporting them when they experience challenges.

As a teacher, I also encourage students to practice mindfulness exercises like breathing or relaxation techniques. This promotes self-awareness and can help students manage and reduce their academic anxiety.

Lastly, it is important to create an open-door policy where students feel comfortable talking to their teachers about their fears, concerns, and academic anxieties. Knowing that they are not alone in facing these challenges is essential in creating an environment where self-confidence can thrive, and learning can flourish.

In conclusion, as a teacher, my advice is to focus on creating an environment that nurtures and supports gifted students' intellectual, social, and emotional growth. This can go a long way in ensuring they can manage and overcome academic anxiety.


Hi there,

I can definitely understand what you're going through as a parent of a gifted child facing academic anxiety. My child also went through a similar phase where they were constantly worrying about their grades and academic performance. What has worked for us is to create a supportive, nurturing environment at home, where their anxiety is acknowledged and addressed.

To help our child cope with their anxiety, we also encourage them to talk to their teachers and seek guidance from a counselor or therapist. These professionals have a wealth of experience in working with kids who are gifted and can help provide coping strategies for academic anxiety.

Another important aspect I have learned is to keep a close eye on our child's workload and provide ample time for relaxation, especially when facing tougher exams. Adequate rest is crucial for a child's overall well-being, and it also helps reduce anxiety levels.

We also found it beneficial to encourage our child to develop a passion for something outside of academics, such as sports, drama or music. This helps to instill a sense of self-worth that can extend beyond academic performance.

Most importantly, creating an environment where your child can safely voice their concerns, fears and emotions without judgement can do wonders. As parents, it is important to listen actively, pass on encouraging and nurturing feedback and reassure our child that their anxiety does not define their worth as a person.

I hope these tips help you and your child manage academic anxiety. Remember, we all have the innate ability to cope and overcome this challenge with the right mindset, support, and encouragement.


Hi there,

As a parent of a gifted child myself, I can definitely relate to your concerns. My child has always been academically advanced as well, and while it's great that they're doing well, it can also be a source of stress and pressure for them. What has helped my child cope with their academic anxiety is talking openly and honestly with them about their fears and concerns. I encourage them to focus on the process of learning rather than just the outcome or end result.

Another tip that has worked well for us is to remind them that failure and mistakes are normal and a part of the learning process. Encouraging them to try and fail is something we celebrate at home. Celebrating their willingness to take on new challenges can help alleviate some of their academic anxiety. Practicing gratitude has also been a positive influence on our child's outlook. It's important to nurture their self-efficacy and help them distinguish between their own identity and their performance in school.

Lastly, it's also important to make sure that your child is taking breaks and not overextending themselves academically. As a family, we focus on balance and wellness. They are encouraged to participate in sports or extracurricular activities and take breaks from their busy academic schedules.

I hope these tips help you and your gifted child cope with their academic anxiety. Remember that anxiety is common among gifted children, but there are many ways to help them manage it.

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