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My child is struggling with anxiety and stress related to their giftedness, what can I do to support them?

Hi everyone,

I am a parent to a highly gifted child who is struggling with anxiety and stress related to their abilities. My child is extremely intelligent and excels in many academic areas, but this has resulted in them feeling overwhelmed and feeling like they need to constantly perform at their best. They often put a lot of pressure on themselves and this has led to feelings of anxiety and stress.

I want to be able to support my child as much as possible, but I am not sure where to start. What are some ways I can help my child manage their stress and anxiety while still nurturing their giftedness? Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

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Hi there,

I can definitely understand the concerns of a parent whose gifted child is dealing with anxiety and stress. From my personal experience, finding a healthy balance between schoolwork and other activities has been very helpful in managing anxiety.

It's important for gifted children to feel that they aren't solely defined by their intelligence or academic work. Encourage your child to engage in activities outside of school to help them unwind and find enjoyment outside of academics. This could be sports, volunteer work, or creative hobbies.

Additionally, you can try setting realistic expectations and goals together with your child. It's important for them to understand that perfectionism isn't healthy or necessary. Encouraging them to take breaks and step back when feeling overwhelmed also does wonders.

Lastly, tracking my child's progress and celebrating milestones has been essential in managing their anxiety. This has allowed me to better understand their strengths and weaknesses, as well as keep them motivated towards their goals.

I hope these tips help you better support your gifted child in dealing with anxiety and stress. Wishing you and your child all the best.



I can certainly relate to the challenges of parenting a gifted child who struggles with anxiety and stress. From my own experience, one effective way to support your child is to focus on developing their emotional intelligence and resilience.

Encouraging your child to practice mindfulness and relaxation techniques can help them manage their anxiety and stress levels. You can also help your child build their emotional intelligence by discussing their feelings and validating their experiences. This allows them to become more aware of their emotions and better equipped to manage them.

Teaching your child problem-solving and decision-making skills can also help them feel more in control and confident in their abilities to manage stress. Setting achievable goals and small milestones allows the child to gain a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Lastly, make sure to celebrate your child's strengths and accomplishments, and acknowledge their efforts rather than just the end result. It's important to cultivate a positive mindset and create an environment where the child feels supported, encouraged, and unconditionally loved.

I hope these suggestions help, and I wish you and your child all the best in overcoming the challenges of giftedness-related anxiety and stress.



I understand the difficulties and stress you are facing with your gifted child. In my experience, one of the most effective ways I helped my child deal with their anxiety and stress was by challenging the stereotype that being gifted equates to being successful in every single aspect of life.

We worked together to redefine and reshape what being successful looks like. This includes balance and self-care as being a vital part of fulfillment, as well as acknowledging that mistakes are normal and can lead to growth opportunities.

It's also important to understand that expectations from school or peers can add additional pressure to the gifted child, especially if they are expected to fulfill the stereotype of being perfect. By discussing your child's concerns and communicating with their school, educators, or peers about their needs, it can help reduce the amount of additional pressure placed.

Providing opportunities for socialization and opportunities to build on their strengths can also assist in reducing stress and anxiety. This was achieved through regular play-dates, mentoring sessions with older students, or programs within the interests of my child.

I hope these tips can assist you and your child in navigating through the difficulties related to giftedness-related anxiety and stress. Remember, it's okay not to have everything figured out right away! Just take it one day at a time.



As a parent to a gifted child with anxiety and stress, I empathize with your concerns. It can be tough to watch your child struggle with these feelings. One thing that helped my child was finding a supportive learning environment where their giftedness was fostered through challenge and growth as opposed to constant performance pressure.

We also worked on building emotional intelligence and taught them practical coping mechanisms. This included breathing exercises, journaling, spending time in nature, and tapping into their creative side through art or music. Going away on a weekend family trip was especially helpful as it offered an opportunity for my child to unwind and relax.

Lastly, we made sure to keep communication lines open to support our child. Our goal was to provide a safe space for my child to speak about their struggles without judgment or pressure. We were also consistent in attendance while they worked with a therapist, which helped us all better understand the stress triggers and work on a plan to address them.

I hope these ideas are something you can work with and help your child in managing their anxiety and stress.


Hi there,

As a parent to a gifted child who also struggles with anxiety and stress, I can relate to your concerns. One thing that has helped my child is finding other like-minded peers through activities such as gifted programs or clubs. This has provided a sense of community and support, as well as an outlet for their abilities and interests.

Additionally, mindfulness exercises have been helpful for my child in managing their stress and anxiety. Practicing deep breathing and positive affirmations, as well as taking breaks from work and engaging in self-care activities, have all proven to be effective methods.

It's important to also communicate with your child about their feelings and validate their experiences. Let them know that it's okay to feel overwhelmed and that you are there to support them.

Lastly, finding a trusted therapist or counselor who specializes in working with gifted children can also provide additional support and guidance.

I hope these suggestions are helpful and wish you and your child the best.

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