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My child is having trouble with executive functioning skills, what strategies can I use to support them?

Hi everyone,

I am a concerned parent of a 9-year-old who has been facing difficulties with executive functioning skills. My child struggles with planning, organization, time management, and task initiation. I have noticed that these weaknesses are interfering with their academic performance, and it is becoming increasingly frustrating for them.

I am looking for some strategies to support my child in developing their executive functioning skills. I understand the importance of these skills in their daily life and academic success. I would appreciate any advice, tips, or recommendations from other parents or professionals who have experience dealing with similar issues.

Thank you in advance for your help.

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Hi there,

My child also struggled with executive functioning skills, specifically focusing on tasks and initiating tasks. One strategy that was helpful for us was breaking down bigger tasks into smaller, more manageable parts. This allowed my child to feel less overwhelmed and made it easier for them to start the task.

We also found that visual aids, such as calendars and checklists, were helpful in improving their organization and time-management skills. Every morning, my child would review their planner and see what tasks needed to be completed that day. This helped them maintain a routine and stay on top of their responsibilities.

Another strategy that worked for us was providing incentives for completing tasks. For example, if my child finished all their homework and chores for the day, they would be able to have some extra screen time or choose a special treat for dessert. This motivated them to stay on task and complete their work efficiently.

It's important to remember that every child is different, and what works for one child may not necessarily work for another. However, I hope these strategies can provide some ideas for other parents who are navigating issues related to executive functioning skills.

Best of luck to all the parents out there supporting their children!


Hi there,

I have a 10-year-old son who has also struggled with executive functioning skills. One of the strategies that worked for us was teaching him how to break down tasks into smaller steps. This helped him to stay focused and not feel overwhelmed by daunting tasks.

We also found that using visual organizers, like charts, maps, diagrams, and color-coding, helped him to retain and work on tasks more effectively. By organizing paperwork and decluttering, it provided him with clear directions and minimized confusion.

Another helpful strategy was to develop a positive working environment to support productivity. This involves eliminating distractions like the TV, phone calls, and ambient noise. I found that some Bach flower remedies helped improve concentration and overall focus.

Lastly, another helpful strategy was to promote self-reliance skills. For example, I taught him how to pack his school backpack and ensure he has all the needed supplies ready before school starts. These skills, like time management and organizational skills, will continue to help him long into the future.

I hope these strategies will be beneficial to other parents going through a similar experience. Remember, finding what works best for each child might take some trial and error, but it's worth it in the end. Every child can be successful with the right tools and strategies.


Hi everyone,

I want to share my personal experience with supporting my child's executive functioning skills. I noticed my child had difficulties with prioritizing tasks, so I started to prioritize their tasks for them. After a few weeks, we started working together to create lists of tasks for the day together, which helped to develop key organizational and planning skills.

Another strategy that worked for us was to use clear and concise language when giving instructions. For example, instead of using lengthy words, we used simple sentences to ensure the message is clear and understood. This helped my child focus on the instructions and increased their confidence in performing task-oriented activities.

We also found it effective to provide breaks in between activities. Regular breaks helped my child refocus, reduce stress, and maintain their energy levels, which improved their ability to learn and remember information.

Lastly, it's essential to reinforce positive habits; the use of rewards has been effective in creating positive habits. Rewards help to motivate and keep a child on track with tasks, which creates a better learning environment for your child.

I hope these strategies are helpful to other parents. Remember, every child is different, and it's essential to identify what works best for your child and to be patient while implementing these strategies.


Greetings everyone,

I have witnessed my child struggle with executive functioning skills and found several strategies to be useful in improving their skills. Firstly, we focused on mindfulness techniques to develop self-awareness and self-regulation skills. Through breathing exercises and mediation, my child learned how to calm their emotions and stay focused on the task at hand.

Another important strategy was to incorporate learning methods that match my child's learning style. For instance, we started using visual aids to help organize information and break down complex topics. This allowed my child to simplify information and develop their problem-solving skills.

Thirdly, we worked on building time management skills by helping my child create a schedule for each day. This schedule put their homework, playtime, and other important activities all in one place. This helped improve their independence and decision-making skills while developing their sense of responsibility.

Finally, I emphasized keeping communication channels open by talking to my child regularly on their progress and challenges they face. Focusing on the positives and seeking help when needed can keep them motivated and engaged.

I hope my experiences are useful to other parents dealing with similar challenges. It's important to remember that children grow and learn uniquely, and it's up to us as parents to support them in ways that meets their individual needs.


Hi everyone,

I am a mother to a child who has struggled with executive functioning skills. One strategy that helped was the use of checklists. My daughter would often become overwhelmed with the number of tasks she had to complete, and a checklist helped her organize her thoughts and prioritize her tasks. We used pictures and colors to make it more appealing.

Another strategy that we found effective was the use of technology. There are numerous mobile applications designed to help children with executive functioning skills issues. This includes apps to help with organization, time-management, planning, and focus. We made our children aware of these apps and regularly incorporated their use into our routine.

We also noticed that giving my child enough downtime was essential. Children with executive function skill issues face difficulties in focusing for prolonged periods. Hence, it's crucial to schedule free time allowing them to engage in activities they enjoy.

Encouraging physical exercise and fresh air have been crucial in improving my child's executive function. We encourage after-school activities such as soccer, basketball, and running around, which helps improve focus, attention span, and cognitive abilities.

In conclusion, every child is unique, and it's essential to find a combination of strategies that work best for your child. I hope my experience is helpful to other parents. Remember to be patient with your child, offer support and encouragement, and celebrate even small successes along the way.


Hello everyone,

I can relate to this concern as my child has also faced difficulties with executive functioning skills in the past. One strategy that has helped us significantly is creating a structured routine. Establishing a routine allowed my child to have a clear expectation for every day and helped them allocate time appropriately.

Another strategy that we have found beneficial is embedding some physical activity in between study sessions. It helps improve focus and breaks the monotony of studying for long hours. In addition, to improve my child's organizational skills, we created a common space for studying, which always remains clutter-free.

Furthermore, it's essential to help our children stay aware of the time, especially if they tend to get distracted easily. In our case, we encourage our child to use a timer or a delay timer with chimes when on breaks, and at the end of the break, they know it's time to go back to their studies.

Lastly, it's essential to keep a healthy and balanced diet to prevent inflammation, fatigue, and other conditions that impair cognitive functions. Incorporating diverse food groups in your child's diet, including fruits, vegetables, fiber, and protein, boosts the brain's executive functioning, thereby improving learning and attention.

I hope these strategies can help other parents out there dealing with similar concerns. Remember that every child is unique and may respond differently to various strategies, so it's essential to adapt and modify them accordingly to meet your child's needs.


Hello all,

I'm happy to share about my experience with supporting my son's executive functioning skills. My son was diagnosed with ADHD, and I realized that I needed to provide him with specific strategies to develop these functions effectively.

One strategy that helped my son was the use of timers. We encourage the use of timers because it assists with keeping track of time and staying focused. We use timers to divide activities into small segments to keep my son engaged and prevent burnout.

We also found that establishing clear communication was critical in our journey. It enabled my son to express himself better and communicate his needs. We encourage asking questions about what he needs to improve. We celebrate and highlight his strengths in combination with improvement points.

Additionally, taking frequent breaks for movement and exercise helps improve focus and impulsivity. It gets blood flowing and helps strengthen the child's body and mind.

Finally, we found positive affirmations helpful. The environment of a struggling child can feel quite negative and defeating. Giving positive feedback, and reminding him of previously successful experiences, reinforces his ability to perform tasks and be successful in the future.

I hope my experience is useful to other parents. Remember, patience, love, and encouragement go a long way when supporting your children.

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