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My child is experiencing discrimination from other children because of their cultural background. How can I help them build resilience and confidence?

Hi everyone,

I'm a worried parent of a child who's been experiencing discrimination from other kids because of their cultural background. It's really been taking a toll on their self-esteem, and I'm looking for ways to help them build resilience and confidence.

My child has always been proud of their culture and heritage, but lately, they've been coming home upset about comments and actions from their classmates that make them feel like an outsider. I want to help my child navigate these situations and build the resilience they need to handle them.

I'm hoping to connect with other parents who have been in a similar situation and have found ways to support their children, as well as any professionals who can offer guidance on helping kids cope with discrimination. Any advice or resources would be greatly appreciated.

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Hello there,

I can understand what your child is going through as I have experienced similar bullying due to my cultural background. One thing which has helped me to build resilience is focusing on my strengths and passions. Encouraging your child to pursue what they love to do, be it a hobby or an interest, can help them feel more confident in themselves.

Additionally, it is important to empower your child with knowledge about their culture and heritage. Reading books and watching movies or documentaries related to their culture can help them build up their self-esteem and give them a sense of belonging.

Furthermore, instilling an attitude of empathy in your child can go a long way in helping them cope with the social, emotional, and mental challenges they may face. Talk to your child and encourage them to see things from another person's point of view. This can help them understand that discrimination is not their fault, but rather it stems from ignorance on the part of the other children.

Lastly, ensure that your child knows that they can come to you and express what they're going through. Show them that you're there and available to listen to their concerns without judgment. Your support and encouragement can provide the strength and resilience that they need to overcome these tough times.

Take care, and I hope this helps.


Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that your child is going through discrimination at school. As someone who has faced similar challenges, I know how overwhelming and painful these experiences can be, and I sympathize with both you and your child.

When I was in a similar situation, I found that it helped to focus on things that made me feel strong and confident. Encouraging your child to explore different hobbies and interests that bring them joy and fulfillment can be an effective tool for building self-esteem.

Another approach is to help your child develop a positive and confident body posture. By standing up straight, making eye contact, and smiling more often, they can project greater confidence and self-assurance. Research suggests that body posture can play a significant role in how others perceive us and how we perceive ourselves.

In addition, teaching your child how to respond assertively to bullying or discrimination can give them a sense of power and control over the situation. Teaching your child how to assert themselves in a healthy manner can help them set boundaries and regain control by addressing the behavior without stooping to the level of their aggressors.

Finally, it may be beneficial to seek guidance from a mental health professional if your child continues to struggle with the effects of discrimination. Counseling can provide them with a safe space to process their emotions and seek guidance on building the resilience they need to thrive in the face of adversity.

Wishing you and your child all the best as you navigate this challenging situation.


Hey there,

I'm sorry to hear that your child is going through this. As someone who has been through this experience as a child themselves, I can definitely relate. I was constantly bullied and felt excluded from social situations because of my cultural background.

However, what helped me the most was finding a group of people who shared similar experiences. This can be achieved by finding a community group where your child can meet and interact with people from similar backgrounds as them and also share their feelings about the challenges they might be facing. In my case, I joined a group of kids from my culture and we often hang out, share stories, and enjoy cultural activities together.

If possible, I would also recommend exposing your child to other cultures and languages. This can be done through books, movies, and even travel, which will help them build a broader understanding of the world and appreciate different cultures. It can also help to foster inclusivity and empathy in them.

Finally, keep providing emotional support and encouragement to your child. Remind them of their strengths, and make sure they know that they have someone to talk to if they ever need help or support. It can be tough going through these situations, but it's important to remind them that they're not alone.

Hope this helps!



I'm so sorry to hear that your child is going through this. As someone who has experienced discrimination firsthand, I can imagine how hard this must be for both of you.

One thing that helped me in similar situations was learning how to stay calm and respond positively to the negative behavior of others. Encouraging your child to stay calm and not react impulsively to negative comments and actions from their classmates can go a long way in handling these situations.

Another useful strategy could be to help your child build self-esteem by focusing on their positive attributes, such as their talents, skills, or achievements they have made till now. Praising their accomplishments and celebrating their uniqueness can help them maintain a positive self-image.

Another possible strategy could be to connect with other parents who have children with similar cultural backgrounds. Such connections could offer your child a sense of belongingness to a larger community while also giving you a trusted group of people to share your concerns with.

Lastly, encourage your child to become an ally for others who may face similar discrimination, which can provide a sense of purpose and meaning. This will build them up as a supportive and empathetic individual and help in developing leadership by encouraging others to do the right thing.

I hope those suggestions help, and I wish you and your child all the best.



I'm sorry to hear about your child's experience facing discrimination from their peers. As someone who faced similar challenges in school due to my cultural background, I can understand how this can cause a lot of emotional distress and affect self-esteem.

One thing that helped me was to focus on building positive relationships with my classmates who showed acceptance towards my culture. I made friends with kids who respected diversity and learned about other cultures. Such relationships helped me create a sense of belonging.

It might also be helpful to teach your child techniques for managing anxieties or any negative thoughts that they might be having. This could be by learning relaxation activities like deep breathing exercises or mindfulness techniques, which can positively impact their emotional well-being when facing difficult situations.

Encourage your child to develop coping mechanisms and communication skills to deal with these situations in the long term. For example, responding with empathy and patience, asking appropriate questions, and trying to educate their peers on the importance of diversity can be very helpful in changing the perception of classmates.

Finally, keep communicating with your child, and listen to their feelings and concerns. Offer as much support as possible and remind them that they're not alone in this. Also, celebrate their little victories as they move through this difficult situation, which will boost their confidence.

I hope these suggestions help your child build resilience and confidence amid these situations.



I'm so sorry to hear about what your child is going through. It can be incredibly challenging to navigate discrimination at any age, but especially as a child. While I don't have personal experience with this issue, I have been studying ways to build resilience in children and wanted to offer a few suggestions.

First and foremost, it's important to foster a sense of emotional intelligence in your child. This can include teaching them how to identify and manage their emotions, and how to respond to others who may not treat them kindly. One tactic that may be helpful is engaging them in role-playing exercises, where they can practice assertiveness and boundary-setting in a safe and supportive environment.

It's also important to connect with and build relationships with caring, supportive adults in the school or community. Teachers, coaches, and counselors can be invaluable in providing guidance and resources to children who are facing discrimination or bullying. Make sure that your child knows who they can turn to in these situations and that they feel supported and loved.

Finally, it can be helpful to seek out professional support. Depending on the severity of the situation, therapy or counseling can be helpful in building resilience and coping skills. A trained professional can help your child develop strategies for dealing with discrimination while building their confidence and self-esteem.

I hope that these suggestions are helpful, and I wish you and your child all the best.


Hi there,

I'm really sorry to hear that your child is going through this. As someone who struggled with discrimination in school, I know how difficult it can be to build resilience and confidence under these circumstances.

One strategy that worked for me was finding a creative outlet. For instance, I started writing stories about characters with different cultural backgrounds and explored diversity in my storytelling. It allowed me to channel my frustrations and create stories that showed the importance of standing up against racism and discrimination.

Another suggestion I would offer is finding a diversity advocate if one is available in your community. A diversity advocate can offer strategies and resources to empower your child to speak out and engage in actions that can promote cultural understanding among their peers.

Additionally, I would suggest encouraging your child to stay physically active, as this can improve mood and overall mental health. Exercise can also help in focusing away from the personal crisis and can set up endorphins that will benefit them during these trying times.

Lastly, remind your child to be proud of who they are and their cultural background. Encourage them to learn more about their culture, its history, and its unique qualities which can instill a sense of pride and confidence.

I hope that these strategies are helpful to you and your child. Please stay strong, and I wish you both the best of luck.


Hi there,

I can definitely relate to your situation as my child has also experienced discrimination from other kids due to their cultural background. It's heartbreaking to see them come home upset, but I've found a few things that have helped them build resilience and confidence.

One thing that has been helpful is making sure they have a strong connection to their culture, which can give them a sense of pride and belonging. We've made an effort to expose them to cultural events, foods, and traditions, and we emphasize the importance of their heritage.

We've also talked to our child about the fact that discrimination and racism are not okay, and that it's important to stand up for oneself and others who may be facing similar challenges. Encouraging them to speak out against discrimination and to seek support from teachers, counselors, or other adults in the school community has also been helpful.

Finally, we've worked to build up their self-esteem and confidence by reminding them of their strengths and qualities that make them unique and special. We also encourage them to pursue their passions and interests outside of school, which can help them feel confident and successful in other areas of their life.

Hope some of these suggestions are helpful to you!

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