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My baby has been refusing to breastfeed or take a bottle - what could be the reason and how can I encourage them to feed?

Hi, I have a 3-month-old baby who has been refusing to breastfeed or take a bottle for the past few days. It's really worrying me because I feel like they're not getting enough food. I've tried different positions, using a nipple shield, and expressing milk to feed them with a spoon, but nothing seems to be working.

I'm not sure what the reason could be because they were feeding normally before. They also don't seem to be in any pain or discomfort, and their diapers are still wet so I know they're not dehydrated. I'm just really concerned and I want to know how I can encourage them to feed again.

Has anyone else experienced this with their baby? What did you do to encourage them to feed and what could be causing this sudden aversion to feeding? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Hi, I can totally relate to the stress and worry of having a baby refuse to feed. My baby was breastfed from birth but at around 5 months, they started refusing to nurse. They'd latch on for a few seconds then pull away, arch their back, and cry.

We found out that it was due to a combination of teething and reflux. The pain and discomfort from teething made nursing uncomfortable, and the acid reflux made the milk taste sour. To help overcome this issue, we started offering smaller and more frequent feeds, gave our baby teething toys to relieve their pain, and elevated their head to reduce reflux.

If you suspect that your baby is experiencing pain or discomfort, try to identify the root cause and take steps to alleviate it. It's also important to stay calm and patient, and avoid forcing your baby to feed as that can create further feeding aversions. Just keep offering the breast or bottle and eventually, they will resume feeding when they are ready.


Hi there, I've been in a similar situation with my own baby. When my baby was around 4 months old, they suddenly started refusing to breastfeed and even bottles. I was really worried and didn't know what to do.

After some research and talking to my pediatrician, I realized that it could be due to a number of reasons such as teething, a growth spurt, or an ear infection. I made an appointment with my baby's doctor and found out that it was indeed due to an ear infection.

We treated the ear infection and after a few days, my baby was back to normal and feeding again. My advice to you would be to make an appointment with your pediatrician to rule out any underlying medical issues that could be causing your baby to refuse food.

In the meantime, try to make feeding a positive and relaxing experience for your baby. Create a calm environment, try different positions, and take breaks if your baby seems overwhelmed or frustrated. It's also important to keep offering the breast or bottle to encourage them to continue feeding. Good luck!


Hello there, I have also experienced my baby refusing to breastfeed or take a bottle, and it was really hard for me too. I was concerned that my baby was not getting enough food, and I felt helpless as a mother.

After consulting with a lactation consultant, I found out that my baby was not latching properly due to a tongue-tie issue. We got the problem fixed and with some patience and perseverance, my baby started feeding again.

My advice to you would be to consult with a lactation consultant, as they can help identify any issues with latching, suggest different positions, and give guidance on how to overcome feeding aversions. It's also important to stay positive and not give up on trying to feed your baby. Remember, it's a learning process for both you and your little one, so take it one step at a time. Best of luck to you!


Hello, as a mom of two, I have experienced both of my babies refusing to breastfeed at some point. With my first, it was due to a sudden increase in my milk supply, which caused her to struggle with the flow and eventually refuse to nurse altogether. With my second, it was due to over-stimulation and distractibility caused by a noisy and busy environment.

To address feeding aversions like these, you may need to make some adjustments to your feeding routine. You can try pumping a small amount of milk before feeds to help with a forceful let-down, or find a quiet and calm place to nurse your baby, free from distractions. If your baby is easily distracted, turning off the TV or limiting noise around you can also help. You may also need to experiment with different feeding positions to see which one your baby prefers.

Remember, every baby is different and you may need to be patient and persistent as you work with your baby to overcome feeding aversions. Don't hesitate to seek support and advice from lactation consultants, doctors, or other moms who have gone through similar experiences.

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