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My baby has been having difficulty breastfeeding - are there any techniques or positions that can help improve their latch and feeding?

Hey everyone,

I need some advice on breastfeeding. My 3-week-old baby has been having trouble latching on and seems to get frustrated during feeds. I'm finding it really stressful and worry that my baby isn't getting enough nutrition. Are there any techniques or positions that can help improve their latch and feeding? I really want to do everything I can to ensure my baby is getting enough milk and making progress.

Thanks in advance for your help!

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Hello there.

I had a similar experience with my baby too, she would often unlatch mid-feed and sometimes refuse to latch on again. I found that the cross-cradle position was the most effective in helping my baby latch on and stay latched. In this position, the baby's head is supported by the hand opposite to the breast and the baby's body is tucked in close to the mother's body. This position really helped me to have better control and visibility during feedings.

It can be stressful and frustrating when your baby is struggling to breastfeed, but remember that feeding takes patience and practice, eventually, you and your baby will find a position that works best for both of you. Good luck!


Hi there,

One thing that helped improve my baby's latch and feeding was making sure that they were in a calm and relaxed state before a feeding session. I found that taking some time to soothe my baby with a gentle massage or some calming music helped relax them and made it easier for them to latch on.

Another technique that worked for us was paced bottle feeding. This involves slowing down the feeding process and allowing your baby to control the pace of the feeding. This technique can be helpful for babies who have trouble latching on, as it mimics the same technique used in breastfeeding.

Lastly, I found that taking care of my own well-being and staying hydrated was important for successful breastfeeding. Making sure to drink plenty of fluids, eat healthy foods, and get enough rest helped me maintain my milk supply and provided the necessary nutrients for my baby.

I hope these tips can be helpful for other breastfeeding mothers experiencing similar difficulties.



I faced a similar issue when breastfeeding my first child, and what helped me was ensuring that my baby's mouth was wide open before latching. Sometimes babies tend to latch on only to the nipple and not the areola, making feeding painful and ineffective. To resolve this, I would gently pull down my baby's lower lip to encourage and help them open their mouth wider. Then I would bring them in for the latch, ensuring that their lips were flanged out.

Additionally, I found that applying a warm compress to my breast before feeding helped loosen the milk ducts, which made it easier for the baby to get a better latch. Lastly, during feeding, I would keep talking to my baby and making eye contact, which increased my baby's attention and focus on the feeding.

Remember, breastfeeding takes time and practice, and every mother's journey is unique. Don't hesitate to reach out for help and support when needed. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to feeding, and what works for one mother might not work for another.


Hello all!

I had a similar experience with difficulty latching when my baby was born. I found that using a nipple shield was helpful in getting my baby to latch properly. The shield is placed over the nipple to help create a more secure and comfortable latch. However, I would recommend consulting with a lactation consultant before using one, as there are some considerations and potential drawbacks to using a nipple shield.

Also, making sure to switch up feeding positions can be useful in finding the most comfortable and effective one for you and your baby. For example, I would switch between the cradle hold and the football hold depending on my baby's needs.

I hope these tips help, and remember that breastfeeding can take time and patience to master. Don't be afraid to seek out support and guidance from a lactation consultant or other breastfeeding mothers.



When I was breastfeeding my son, I found that changing the position of my baby during feeding time helped to ensure proper latching and a comfortable feeding experience. One thing that worked for us was to switch positions every few minutes. For example, we would start with the cradle hold, switch to the football hold, and then to the cross-cradle hold.

I also found that taking breaks during feeding was useful. If my baby was struggling to latch or seemed frustrated, taking a short break, patting his back, or changing his diaper would help to calm him down and refocus his attention on feeding.

Lastly, I found that persevering and being patient was important. Breastfeeding can be difficult and frustrating, but with time and patience, it can eventually become easier. It's important to believe in yourself and trust that you are doing the best for your baby.

Remember, each baby is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Don't hesitate to seek professional advice if you are facing challenges with breastfeeding.


Hello everyone,

When I was breastfeeding, I found that the side-lying position was best for me and my baby, especially when I was tired or recovering from childbirth. In this position, you lie on your side with your baby facing you and their head near your breast. It allows both you and your baby to relax and rest during feeding, making it more comfortable and beneficial.

Additionally, I also found that gently massaging the breast can help stimulate milk flow and encourage the baby to latch on. Another tip is to make sure your baby is in a quiet and calm environment to help them focus on feeding.

I hope these tips help, and remember it's important to find the right position and technique that works best for you and your baby.


Hi there!

I had a similar experience with my baby when she was born. She just couldn't latch on properly, and it was painful and frustrating for both of us. But then a lactation consultant showed me the football hold, where the baby's body is tucked under your arm like a football, with their head supported by your hand. This position really worked for me because I had more control over my baby's head and it also helped relieve any discomfort I had from delivery. You might want to try it and see if it works for you and your baby.

Good luck!

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