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How do you handle discipline and behavior issues with your children while staying at home?

Hi everyone,

As a stay-at-home parent, I'm finding it increasingly challenging to handle discipline and behavior issues with my children. With schools closed and extracurricular activities canceled due to the pandemic, my kids are cooped up at home all day, and their energy and frustrations are starting to manifest through disruptive behavior, tantrums, and arguments.

I want to make sure I'm handling their behavior in an appropriate, effective way, but I'm struggling to figure out the best approach. What tools, strategies, or techniques have you found to be successful in creating a positive and disciplined home environment? How do you maintain consistency and enforce boundaries without losing your temper or feeling overwhelmed? Any tips, advice, or personal experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you in advance!

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yhaley

Hi there,

I completely understand the struggle of discipline and behavior problems with kids, as a parent myself, and it can definitely be difficult to handle at times. One of the techniques that I have found to be useful is taking a step back and analyzing the situation. It's essential to understand that every child is different, and what works for one may not work for another.

Another important factor is creating an environment that fosters good behavior. In my case, I've tried to create a space that's conducive to learning and exploring while still minimizing chances of accidents or messes. I make sure everything's in place, and that generates a sense of responsibility in my kids.

Also, establish rules and make sure they're understood! For instance, setting an electronic time limit for my kids, and after that period, they can't use gadgets until the next day. This rule ensures the kids don't spend all day glued to their screens and promote better sleep habits.

Lastly, stay calm and focused! In stressful situations, it's easy to lose your temper, but it's essential to remain calm and collected to be more effective when trying to handle it. Listening to your child's feelings and concerns can help your kids feel understood and validates their emotions.

I hope these tips help you manage your children's behavior and discipline. Remember that it's a process of trial and error, and with persistence and patience, you can find what works best for you and your family.

ernser.cole

Hello!

Discipline and behavior management can be incredibly challenging, and I can relate to that as a parent. One of the strategies that worked for me was focusing on prevention rather than reaction. I found it helpful to identify certain triggers that led to problematic behavior, such as hunger or tiredness, and take steps to avoid them proactively.

In addition, I tried to incorporate fun, engaging activities into our daily routine, such as baking or doing crafts, which helped to channel my kids' energy into something positive and creative. Being present and involved with their activities also made them feel more seen and appreciated, and that's always a plus in my book.

Creating a clear and consistent system of rewards and consequences is also essential in promoting positive behavior. For example, I've used a sticker chart in the past where my kids earn a sticker for each task or chore they complete, and after a certain number of stickers, they earn a small prize. This method also promotes positive reinforcement rather than just reacting to negative behavior, and the kids have something to look forward to.

Finally, don't hesitate to set boundaries and stick to them. It's easy to fall into the trap of being overly permissive, but this can lead to confusion and frustration for everyone involved. Clear guidelines and rules help define expectations and give children a sense of structure, which can ultimately lead to more harmonious living and fewer behavior issues.

I hope these tips help in dealing with behavior issues at home. Remember, parenting is a learning process, and what works for one family may not work for another - but being patient, consistent, and positive goes a long way towards shaping behavior and fostering a happy and healthy home environment.

bernardo.wintheiser

Hey there,

Dealing with discipline and behavior issues can undoubtedly be a challenge for parents, especially during these difficult times. What has worked for me is empowering my children to make better choices by catching them when they're good and rewarding them.

Instead of punishing them when they make a mistake, I try to explain the reason and the consequence behind the mistake, and give them the opportunity to make things right. I also try to encourage my kids to take responsibility for their actions by emphasizing that their choices will always have consequences, both positive and negative.

Moreover, making use of positive language while communicating with my kids helps to keep the conversation calm and focused on solutions rather than blame or fault-finding. I try to make them feel comfortable enough to open up about their feelings by letting them know that they can talk to me about anything, even if they think I won't like it.

Last but not least, taking some time to practice self-care can help parents stay more patient and less reactive in stressful situations. It could be something as simple as reading a book or soaking in the bath, but taking care of yourself goes a long way in managing the intense feelings and exhaustion that come with parenting.

I hope my experience is helpful and gives a fresh perspective on how to approach discipline and behavior issues with kids. Remember, every child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another, so be patient, adaptive and consistent in your approach, and eventually, you will get there!

yschmitt

Hi there,

As a fellow stay-at-home parent, I can definitely relate to the challenges you're facing in terms of discipline and behavior with your children. One thing that I've found helpful is establishing a routine that includes designated times for activities like homework, playtime, and chores. This helps to create structure and stability for my kids, which in turn helps to reduce disruptive behaviors and arguments.

Another strategy that works well for me is focusing on positive reinforcement instead of punishment. When my kids behave well or complete a task, I try to make a point of praising and rewarding them in some way, whether it's with verbal encouragement or a small treat. I've found that this approach helps to reinforce good behavior and encourages them to continue making positive choices.

Finally, it's important to communicate with your children and establish clear expectations and consequences for any misbehavior. This can be challenging, especially if you're feeling overwhelmed or frustrated, but setting clear boundaries and expectations can help reduce overall conflict and create a more peaceful home environment.

I hope these tips are helpful, and I wish you the best of luck in finding the strategies that work best for you and your family!

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