Loading Kindness - Spinning Up Mommy Magic

While the Love Loads, Our Spinner Spins. Get Ready to Share, Support, and Bond with Like-minded Moms!

Popular Searches:

How do I respond to negative comments or discrimination against my queer family from others, including teachers and other parents at my child's school?

Hi everyone,

I am a parent of a child who has two moms. Recently, we have been receiving negative comments and discrimination from other parents and even some teachers at our child's school. It's been really tough for our family, and we're not sure how to address it.

We've tried talking to the school administration, but it hasn't seemed to make much of a difference. We don't want our child to be exposed to such negativity, and it's frustrating that we're being treated unfairly just because of our family structure.

Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you.

All Replies



I'm so sorry to hear about the negative comments and discrimination that you and your family have been facing from teachers and other parents at your child's school. As a queer parent, I, unfortunately, understand how challenging and hurtful this experience can be.

One thing that has helped me during similar situations is maintaining dignity and actively seeking support. It's crucial to center on the peace and safety of your family, take prioritizing reasonability, and communicate assertively when correcting misinformation.

It can be challenging to navigate conversations concerning LGBTQ+ people; however, treating people with kindness, respect, and honesty can often result in people seeing your humanity, regaining your dignity through vulnerable emotions, and a critical consideration can help them understand that your family is no different from theirs.

Furthermore, try to advocate for your family to your school administration, and seek support from other non-queer parents whom you have built an alliance in the school. Refrain from isolating yourself and be united with other LGBTQ+ parents to create a collective voice for change.

Finally, It's worth raising awareness on diversity and inclusion among parents through organizing campaigns or starting a support group encouraging inclusion of LGBTQ+ people within the school community.

Above all, never forget that you and your family deserve love, respect, and acceptance, and any negative comments or behavior from others should not break your spirits.



I'm so sorry to hear about the discrimination you and your family are facing at your child's school. Unfortunately, we still live in a world where discrimination against queer families is common, and it can be hard to know how to respond.

In my own experience, I've faced similar problems with some family members who didn't understand or agree with my sexual orientation. It was tough to deal with at first, but over time, I learned how to respond, and that helped me to be more confident in my identity.

One of the most important things I did was to educate myself about queer issues and history. This helped me to feel more grounded in my identity, and when people made negative comments or showed discrimination, I was better able to respond calmly and confidently.

Another thing that helped was to surround myself with other queer people who were supportive and affirming. Having a strong community of friends - both queer and allies - helped me to feel less isolated and gave me a sense of belonging.

With regards to your situation with your child's school, it may be helpful to look into legal protections and support resources for queer families in your area. Knowing your rights can help you to advocate for yourself and your family more effectively.

Ultimately, it's unfortunate that you have to deal with discrimination, but it's important to remember that it's not your fault, and you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Keep standing up for yourself and your family - your voices matter, and you are making a difference.



I'm sorry to hear about the discrimination you and your queer family are facing, especially from teachers and other parents at your child's school. Unfortunately, we live in a society where homophobia still exists, and this can make life challenging for queer families.

I haven't had a similar experience myself, but I am an educator that believes in inclusivity and diversity. From what I have seen so far, talking to the school administration is a good move if the discrimination is coming from them or if they are not addressing the issue. However, if the negative comments and discrimination are coming from parents, it could be trickier.

In such cases, you could start by trying to educate other parents on LGBTQ+ issues by organizing a PTA meeting where you can raise awareness on the importance of inclusivity and why discrimination affects every child regardless of their family structure. You could also contact local support groups and invite their representatives to the school to speak with the parents.

Another option could be to involve your child in extracurricular activities where they will meet other children from diverse backgrounds. This way, they can build meaningful friendships and feel more accepted, even if some other children's families do not support your family.

It is vital that your child feels safe and loved, and you have the right to demand that from the school. I hope this advice helps, and I urge you not to give up the fight for inclusivity and diversity.

Remember, change takes time, and it's a collective effort.



I'm sorry to hear that you and your queer family are experiencing discrimination and negative comments from others, especially teachers and parents at your child's school. That must be really tough to deal with, and I can imagine that it's affecting your family's daily life.

I have a similar experience as my child's school is in a conservative community. My child has two dads, and we have faced discrimination from some parents and even some teachers. It's a sad reality that some people are intolerant of anything different from their beliefs.

In our case, we started by talking with the school administration and expressing our concerns about the negative comments and discrimination. However, we didn't see much change. So, we decided to reach out to other queer families in the area and joined a supportive community for our child.

We educated ourselves and our child about our rights and the importance of LGBTQ+ visibility. We attended public events, became vocal about our experience, and advocated for inclusivity in our child's school. Our efforts paid off, and the school administration finally started to listen and work towards creating a safe and inclusive environment for all families.

My advice to you would be to stay strong and continue advocating for inclusivity. Surround yourself with supportive queer families and allies and educate yourself about your rights. Keep speaking with the school administration and raise your voices to make a change.

Hopefully, things will improve, and your family will be treated with the respect and dignity you deserve.

New to Kind Mommy Community?

Join the community