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How do I know if my toddler is holding in their pee or poop during potty training?

Hello fellow parents,

I have a 2-year-old toddler who I am currently potty training. While she has made some progress, I am worried that she may be holding in her pee or poop during the process. I have noticed that she sometimes crosses her legs or makes a face as if she needs to go, but then refuses to use the potty when I suggest it.

I am not sure if this is normal behavior during potty training or if I should be concerned that she is holding in her bodily functions. I want to make sure that I am not putting too much pressure on her or causing any harm by continuing with the potty training.

Has anyone else experienced this with their toddler during potty training? How do I know if she is holding in her pee or poop and what should I do to help her overcome this? I appreciate any advice or tips that you can offer. Thank you.

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harber.clark

Hi parents,

I went through a similar struggle when potty training my son, and I found that he was holding in his pee or poop because he was afraid of making a mess. I think he was worried about the cleanliness and hygiene of the potty and didn't want to cause any mess, which is quite common in toddlers.

To resolve this, we involved him in the cleaning process. We showed him how we clean the potty and involved him in the activity, in which he was tasked with putting the used diaper in the dustbin or wiping the seat with a wet cloth. This made him understand that it was okay to make a mess, and that we were there to take care of it. It also instilled a sense of responsibility, and he began to take the potty seriously.

Another thing that worked with our son was making him feel comfortable and less vulnerable. We let him remove his pants and underwear completely and have a more open and relaxed position where he could poop better. We also raised the height of the stool he sat on and made sure that his feet were not hanging, as it helped him feel much more comfortable and take care of business efficiently.

Overall, my advice would be to identify why your child is holding in their pee or poop and try to find creative and reassuring ways to help them overcome the problem. Be patient and gentle while encouraging them to make potty training an enjoyable experience.

slebsack

Hello,

I had a similar experience when potty training my son not long ago. He would often hold in his pee or poop and cross his legs when we suggested the potty. And it was challenging to figure out whether he was simply being stubborn or was uncomfortable using the potty.

We quickly realized that our son was not ready for the process and it was a bit too early for him to understand the signals to use the potty. Therefore, we decided to pause the training for a few weeks and started again when we saw some clear signs of readiness from him.

When we started the second time, we ensured that he had adequate fluid intake but slowly reduced it as time went by. We encouraged him to let us know when he wanted to go, so that it wouldn't seem like we were imposing the potty on him. We also kept the atmosphere light and fun while he sat on the potty and read some books along with him while he sat on it.

It was indeed a more relaxed experience the second time, and he caught up pretty quickly, and all the previous struggles melted away in just a few weeks.

So if you suspect that your child may be holding in their pee or poop, it may be time to take things slow and have a break before resuming the process. Relax, and it will all work out eventually.

sadams

Hi there,

I went through something similar with my son when we were potty training him. I noticed that he would hold in his pee or poop and would try to avoid going to the toilet even when he clearly needed to. It was a tough process, and we had to stay patient and vigilant with him to make sure he didn't cause himself any discomfort or harm.

One thing that helped us was to keep a close eye on his behavior and try to make sure he didn't get too anxious or afraid of using the potty. We also made sure to show him plenty of encouragement and praise when he did go successfully, which helped him feel more comfortable and confident with the process.

Another tip that worked for us was to keep him on a regular potty training schedule with designated bathroom breaks throughout the day. This helped him learn that going to the toilet was a normal and routine part of his day, and he was less likely to hold in his pee or poop if he knew he was going to get an opportunity to go soon.

Overall, I would say that it's important to stay patient and consistent when potty training your toddler, and try to be in tune with their behavior and needs throughout the process.

Hope this helps!

kilback.wyatt

Hello everyone.

During our potty training journey, we also went through a phase where our son was holding in his pee or poop. Initially, we assumed that he was not ready and gave him a break from the training, but when we resumed it, he still held in his pee and would cry when we suggested using the potty.

After some observation, we discovered that it was the size of the toilet seat that was scaring him. It was just too big and he felt like he might fall in. So we got him a seat and potty that was just the right size for him, and he felt much more comfortable using it.

Additionally, we began to be more creative in the encouragement we gave him. We made a chart on the wall and marked it with stars each time he used the potty successfully. He loved counting the stars once he got more than five and was happy to show the chart off to visitors.

Finally, we tried to be more consistent with the timing; we would take him to the bathroom every thirty minutes. It was automatic, and it became easier every day. With time, we gradually increased the time intervals and he became less scared of the bathroom and started using the adult toilet.

In conclusion, my advice would be to look out for the underlying cause of the holding in pee or poop, and try to find a solution that works for your child. It may not be the same reason we found for our son, so stay patient and keep looking until you find the root cause.

hoeger.nickolas

Hello everyone,

When potty training my daughter, I also noticed that she would hold in her pee or poop, and it became a bit of a concern for me. After researching, I discovered that it was because of her fear of the flushing sound and the water disappearing. She thought that she was losing part of herself, and it scared her, leading to her holding in her pee or poop.

One thing that worked for us was to explain the flushing mechanism to her in a loving and encouraging tone. We used diagrams and books aimed at her age level, and we gradually increased her familiarity with the flushing process. Over time, the flushing sound became less scary for her.

Another solution that worked was keeping the scene light and funny while using the potty. We would sing silly songs, dance around, and sometimes make funny faces or voices, which made her feel relaxed and enjoyed the potty process.

In conclusion, it is essential to understand the root cause of why your toddler is holding in their pee or poop during potty training. It could be anything from toilet fears to not being ready for the training, so a keen observation is necessary to identify the issue. Also, maintaining a light environment and keeping the experience fun and enjoyable for your toddler by introducing games, songs, and books can help relieve their fears and anxieties.

ebba92

Hey parents,

During my little one's potty training journey, I also noticed that he would hold in his pee or poop which did raise some concerns. But eventually, I found out that it was because he was too busy playing or doing any other activity, and then he would forget to use the bathroom.

To resolve this, I started using a reminder alarm on my phone set at intervals of two hours. When the alarm would go off, it would signal my toddler that it was time to use the potty. It may sound weird, but he loved the sound of the alarm and would get excited to go to the potty when it rang. This turned out to be an effective tool in letting him know when he needed to go.

Also, we showed him the correct way to use the potty so that he could understand what he needed to do. We gave him clear instructions on how to use the potty and showed him how it's a necessary part of his routine. He liked to be in control of things, and we let him maintain that control by allowing him to push his pants down and sit on the potty.

Lastly, we encouraged him to communicate with us about how he felt when his bladder or bowel was full, which worked really well in letting him be more responsible in using the potty. In the end, he learned to listen to his body cues more carefully and knew when he needed to go to the bathroom.

I hope these tips help any parent going through the same process. Remember that patience is key when it comes to potty training toddlers.

pdaugherty

Hello,

When potty training our daughter, we also noticed that she was holding in her pee or poop, and we were worried about her health. However, after doing some research, we found that this is a common practice in children during the potty training process.

One thing that worked for us was changing up the environment of the toilet. We decorated the bathroom with colorful stickers and a bunch of toys that she could play with while she sat on the potty. She really enjoyed playing with all the toys, and even when she didn't need to go, she would sit there for a while because she liked the environment. She also loved singing and dancing and listening to music, which gave her an excellent opportunity to be distracted while using the potty.

We also taught her to relax while using the potty by reading to her or telling her stories, which worked wonders in calming her down and reducing her anxiety.

Finally, we discovered that a flushing sound and the sight of her waste going down the toilet was fascinating to her. So we started making flushing sounds every time she went on the potty to make her feel more comfortable and confident. This fun idea worked out exceptionally well, and it became an exciting routine for her during potty time.

In conclusion, I would advise fellow parents to look for ways to make the toilet environment more appealing to their toddlers, use toys, music, and stories to distract them, and always stay positive and loving throughout the process.

nbotsford

Hey, everyone.

I went through potty training my daughter a few months ago, and I absolutely understand your concerns regarding your toddler holding in their pee or poop. During the initial phase, my daughter was also pretty hesitant about going to the toilet, and I noticed that she often crossed her legs or would try to hold in her pee, which made the situation even more difficult.

To combat this issue, we made sure to reward her every time she used the potty successfully. We would give her a small treat, like a sticker or a piece of candy. This helped her feel encouraged and positive about the potty training process.

In addition, we gradually increased her fluid intake over time. The idea behind it was to train her bladder and make her more comfortable with the sensation of needing to pee. We also kept her near the potty always and made her sit on it after mealtimes, and water breaks.

Meanwhile, we maintained a great healthy relationship with her and made the potty routine fun rather than something she feared.

Potty training is a tricky process, and every child has their own pace of learning. So, stay patient and keep trying. It is worth it in the end.

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