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How do I help my toddler cope with changes in routine?

Hi everyone,

I have a 2-year-old son who seems to struggle with changes in routine. He gets upset and sometimes has tantrums when we deviate from his usual daily schedule. This can be difficult for me as a parent as I'm not always sure how to handle these situations. I want to help my son cope with changes in routine so that he can learn to be more flexible and adaptable. I'm wondering if anyone has any experience or advice on how to approach this issue with a toddler. Any tips or strategies would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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Hi everyone! I have a 5-year-old daughter who also struggled with changes in routine. What worked for us was creating a safe space for her to go to when she was feeling overwhelmed or upset. We called it her "calm down corner."

This was a designated spot in our home where she could go to when she was feeling anxious or stressed. We filled it with her favorite toys, books, and stuffed animals, and encouraged her to use it whenever she needed a break.

We also utilized visual aids like picture charts to help her understand changes in routine. We found that showing her in a visual way what to expect, helped her understand better and made her feel more secure.

In addition, we made sure that we allowed ample time for transitions between activities. For example, when it was time to leave the park, we would give her a five-minute warning, so that she had time to prepare herself before we left.

Lastly, we tried to stay calm and positive ourselves. Kids are quick to pick up on their parent's energy, so It's important to stay calm and positive even when we're experiencing difficulties.

I hope these tips help! Remember that every child is unique, and it's important to find strategies that work for your family. Don't be afraid to try different things and be patient throughout the process.


Hi everyone! As a parent of a 4-year-old daughter, I understand how challenging it can be when kids struggle with changes in routine. One thing that has helped us is to be proactive in our communication with her. We try to give her as much information as possible about any changes that might be coming up.

For example, we recently had to move to a new house, which was a big change for our daughter. We talked to her about the move weeks in advance, explaining the process and answering any questions she had. We also took her with us to see the new house several times, so she could start to get familiar with it before we moved.

We also try to be flexible within our routines. This means that if there is something coming up that will disrupt our usual schedule, we try to adjust it to make things easier for our daughter. For example, if we have to go to the doctor's office in the morning, we might let her sleep in a bit later and adjust our usual morning routine so that she doesn't feel too rushed.

Lastly, we celebrate small wins when our daughter adapts well to changes. For example, when we had to change her bedtime routine to accommodate our new house, we made a special point of praising her for being so flexible and for adjusting so well to the change.

I hope these tips help! Remember that every child is different, and it's important to find strategies that work for your family.


Hi everyone! I'm a parent of a 3-year-old son who used to struggle with changes in routine, but we found a way to manage it. One thing that has helped us is to make changes slowly and gradually. We don't make big changes all at once. Instead, we introduce small changes and give our son time to adjust before making bigger ones.

For example, our son used to have difficulty transitioning from playtime to mealtime. So we started to give him warning signs, like "10 more minutes," and "5 minutes left." This made the transition easier and gave him time to mentally prepare for the change.

Also, we make sure to maintain some consistency within the routine. This means that we keep some parts of the routine the same, such as mealtime, bedtime routine, and bath time. This helps our son feel more secure and helps him understand that even though some things may change, there are still things that stay the same.

Lastly, we try to keep things positive! We praise him for being adaptable and for handling the changes so well. This motivates him and makes him feel proud of himself and he's more likely to be open to changes in the future.

I hope these tips help! Remember that every child handles changes differently, and it's important to be patient and understanding throughout the process.


Hello everyone! I'm a parent of a 2-year-old son who also struggled with changes in routine. What helped us was using social stories to prepare him for changes. Social stories are short stories that show a child what will happen in a particular situation. They can be customized to fit the child's needs and are designed to promote understanding, positive behavior, and social interaction.

For example, if we were planning on visiting family or friends, I would create a social story that would show my son what to expect. The story would illustrate who we were visiting, what we would do there, and what toys or activities he could expect to find. This way, he would be familiar with the surroundings when we got there and would not feel so overwhelmed.

In addition, we would also try to keep as much consistency as possible. We found that having specific routines and maintaining them helped our son feel secure and comfortable. Even if there were slight deviations from the routine, sticking to the schedule kept him prepared and confident.

Lastly, we found that giving our son choices helped him feel less stressed when change occurred. For example, when packing for a trip, we would ask him to choose what toys or books he wanted to bring. This gave him a sense of control and made the transition easier.

I hope these tips help! Remember that all children are unique and what works for one might not work for another. Be patient, flexible, and stay positive!


Hi there! I faced a similar situation with my 4-year-old daughter. She struggled with changes in routine and would often become anxious and upset. However, I found that creating visual schedules and timelines helped her cope with changes in routine. I would make a chart that would show her the activities we were going to do and how they would be different from our usual routine.

We would also talk about the changes and why they were happening. I found that explaining the reason behind the changes helped reduce her anxiety and gave her a sense of control. For example, if we were going to a different park than usual, I would explain that the park we usually went to was closed or busy, but that we had found a new park that looked like fun.

We also practiced mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and visualization to help her calm down when she was feeling overwhelmed. This helped her focus and stay present in the moment, and it gave her the tools to manage her emotions.

Overall, I found that being patient, empathetic, and proactive in preparing for changes in routine helped my daughter cope better. It's important to remember that every child is different, so what works for one child may not work for another. It's all about finding what works best for your child and your family.


Hi there! I totally understand where you're coming from. My 3-year-old daughter also struggles with changes in routine, and it can be quite challenging as a parent. What has worked for us is to slowly introduce changes and prepare her ahead of time. For example, if we know we're going to have to leave the house earlier than usual, we will start talking about it a few days in advance and gradually adjust her schedule so she's not too thrown off.

Another thing we do is to stick to a general routine or schedule, but be flexible within that routine. For example, we always have a set bedtime routine, but sometimes we'll switch up the order of the steps or add in something new, like a special story, to keep things interesting. This way, our daughter still has some structure and predictability, but also learns that sometimes there can be small changes.

Lastly, we acknowledge and validate her feelings when she does get upset or has a tantrum. We'll say things like, "I know it's hard when things are different, but we have to do this today. Let's try our best to have fun anyway!" This helps her feel heard and understood, and also teaches her that it's okay to feel frustrated or upset sometimes.

I hope these tips help you and your little one. Hang in there, and remember that it's all a learning process!


Hello there! I faced the same situation as a parent of a 3-year-old son. He struggled to adjust to changes in his routine and would get fussy or throw tantrums. What worked for us was to involve him in planning the changes. This helped him feel like he had a say in what was happening and gave him a sense of control.

For instance, if we planned to go out for the day, I would ask him what he wanted to do or where he would like to go. It could be as simple as choosing his outfit for the day or picking his favorite toy to bring along. This helped him feel more comfortable with the changes and made the transition easier for him.

We also tried to keep as much consistency as possible within a day. This meant sticking to the usual meals and nap times, even though the surrounding activities may be different. This helped him feel secure and have some sense of familiarity in his day-to-day life.

Lastly, we would prepare him for changes by talking about them in advance. We would explain the reason for the change, and what to expect. This helped him develop a better understanding of the situation.

I hope these tips help! Remember that parenting is a learning process and it's okay to make mistakes. The key is to try different strategies and see what works best for your child.

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