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How do I help my toddler adjust to a new sibling?

Hi everyone,

I have a 2-year-old toddler and I am expecting a new baby in a few months. I am concerned about how my toddler will react and adjust to having a new sibling. I want to make sure that my toddler doesn't feel neglected or left out when the new baby arrives.

I have read some articles online about preparing my toddler for the new baby, but I would love to hear some personal experiences and tips from other parents who have gone through this before.

How did you help your toddler adjust to a new sibling? What worked well and what didn't? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you!

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Hey there,

When I was pregnant with my second child, my first child was just 1.5 years old. I was worried about how he would handle having a new sibling. Here are some of the things that worked for us:

1. Practice with a doll: My son loved playing with his dolls, so we bought him a doll that he could practice caring for, just like a real baby. We would play with him, pretending that he was taking care of his baby sibling, changing diapers and feeding her. This made him feel involved and excited about having a new baby in the house.

2. Be mindful of how you introduce the new baby: When we brought our baby home, my husband carried her in, so that I could greet our son with open arms. We made sure to give him a big hug and kiss and let him touch the baby gently to introduce them both.

3. Allow plenty of bonding time: I found that my son was most receptive to the new baby within the first few weeks. During this time, we made sure that he had plenty of opportunities to bond with his new sibling, reading books together, snuggling or just talking to her.

4. Keep your routine: This may be more difficult with a new baby to care for, but try to keep as much of your regular routine as possible, so that your child feels secure in their home.

5. Get help: Having someone that can help with your toddler can make a big difference for everyone's sanity. Consider asking a family member, friend or nanny who can spend time with your toddler while you care for the baby.

Overall, understanding that it is a big change for your child and making sure to give them plenty of love and attention is key. Remember that it may take some time for them to get used to the new baby, but with patience, they will come to love and appreciate their new sibling.

Best of luck!



First of all, congratulations! Having a new addition to the family is always exciting, but it can be a challenging time for your little one. I have two children, and when we had our second child, our first was four years old. Here are some tips that helped us make a smooth transition:

1. Spend quality time with your toddler: Before the baby arrives, spend some time alone with your toddler, doing things they love to do. This will reassure them that they are still special to you and help them prepare for the upcoming change.

2. Get your toddler involved: Let your toddler help you prepare for the baby's arrival, such as choosing clothes or toys, setting up the crib or packing the hospital bag. This will make them feel included and like an important member of the family.

3. Prepare for their arrival: We made sure to have some new books, toys or games for our first child to play with while we were busy with the baby. This helped him feel like he had something special to look forward to.

4. Teach them how to interact with the baby: Before we brought the baby home, we talked to our son about how he could help take care of his little sibling by gently holding and patting the baby. This made him feel responsible and involved.

5. Be patient: Your child may feel jealous or upset in the beginning, and this is entirely normal. Reassure them that they are loved and valued, and give them extra attention when they need it.

Remember that adjusting to a new sibling is a big change for your toddler, and it may take some time for them to feel comfortable. With patience and love, your little one will soon adjust to the new addition and become the best sibling ever!

Best of luck!


Hey there,

I can completely relate to your situation as I also have two children, and my older child was 4 years old when the baby arrived. Here are some strategies that helped us make the transition a little easier:

1. Prepare them for what's coming: Kids like predictability, so we tried to give our older child some idea of how things would change when the baby arrived. We talked to him about how newborns cry, sleep a lot and need a lot of attention.

2. Let them help and feel involved: We included our older child in the preparation for the new arrival, such as preparing the nursery or choosing baby clothes. We made sure he had some control over what was happening.

3. Read books about siblings: This helped our older child understand what to expect, and how to interact with and care for the new baby. It also provided a great way for us to talk about his feelings and concerns.

4. Create special time for the older child: Just like the others have suggested, we made sure that we spent some special one-on-one time with our older child. We made it a tradition to have a special parent-child day every weekend and spent quality time together.

5. Adjust expectations: Although we hoped that our older child would love having a newborn sibling, we knew that it would be a big adjustment for him. We adjusted our expectations and gave him the extra attention he needed.

6. Reinforce positives: We praised our older child for being a great big brother and made sure to acknowledge any positive interactions he had with the new baby. This reinforced good behavior and made him feel like he had an important role in the family.

I hope these tips are helpful for you, and keep in mind, every child is different so you may need to adjust your approach to match their personality and temperament.

Best of luck!


Hey there,

Congrats on your new arrival! I can completely relate to your concerns as I also went through this when I had my second child. It was a bit challenging, but we were able to get through it smoothly with these tips.

Our approach to it was a bit different from the first response, but it worked for us. We simply talked to our child about the expected change and what we expected from him. He was three years old then, and it worked well for us.

Here are some tips that worked for us:

1. Involve your toddler in preparing for the new arrival: As suggested in the first response, show your child some ultrasound pictures, let them listen to the baby's heartbeat and ask them to help you prepare the baby's bedroom. This way, they will feel like active participants and be excited about the new baby.

2. Be honest: At this age, toddlers understand more than we think. We told our child that life with a baby would be different from what he was used to, and he may need to share his toys and my attention.

3. Prepare for their arrival: We made sure our toddler had a gift from the baby waiting for him when he visited us at the hospital. It made him feel even more excited about the new arrival.

4. Teamwork: We had our toddler help out with the baby's care as much as he could. For example, he was allowed to hand us a diaper or bottle when it was needed. This helped him feel like we were all working together.

5. Maintain routines: Although things may change a bit, try as much as possible to stick to your toddler's usual routine. This will provide them with a sense of stability that they will need during this change.

Remember to keep your expectations realistic; your toddler may need time to adjust to the new environment, so be patient and supportive of them.

I hope this helps, and I wish you the best with the new bundle of joy!.


Hi there,

I can also relate to your situation as I have two children, and my older child was 5 years old when the baby arrived. Here are some tips that helped us make the transition smoother:

1. Involve siblings in the prenatal care: We brought my older child to some doctor's appointments and let her listen to the baby's heartbeat. This made her feel involved, and she loved being able to hear the baby's heartbeat.

2. Prepare your older child for the arrival of the sibling: We talked to our oldest about what to expect when the baby arrived, such as the baby crying, sleeping a lot or needing a lot of attention. This helped her get an idea of what to expect once the baby arrived.

3. Arrange for family and friends to help: We organized for family and friends to help us once the baby arrived. This gave us the flexibility to have one-on-one time with our older child. It also helped her feel supported and loved by her extended family.

4. Have them help with newborn duties: Our older child loved helping with small duties as we took care of the baby. For example, she would help us get the diapers or help hold the baby while we settled down.

5. Praise them for being a great sibling: We made sure to praise our oldest for being such an amazing big sister. We consistently cherished her and recognized her for being a great help and a fantastic older sibling.

Every child is different, but some of these tips may help you make the transition a smoother ride for your family. The most important thing is to constantly communicate with your children and reassure them that the new baby does not diminish their importance in the family.

Best of luck!


Hey there,

I went through a similar situation about two years ago when I had my second child. My first child was 2 years old at the time, and I was very worried about how she would adjust to having a new sibling. Here are some things that helped us make it a successful transition:

1. Involve your toddler in the daily routine: Don't make too many changes to your child’s daily routine. Instead, involve them in the new routine where it makes sense, like bringing you a diaper when you're changing the new baby.

2. Give your toddler a sense of ownership: My older child would often hold her little sister's hand or play with her toys, and I never stopped her. Allowing your older child to feel like they have ownership in the baby is essential for their bonding experience.

3. Have patience with your older child’s reactions and emotions: Children have a whole range of emotions and reactions to new experiences. Sometimes my older child would act out, and I would remind her that it was normal to feel unsure or anxious about having a new sibling.

4. Always praise your older child: Giving your older child ample praise and recognition for their accomplishments is important. They are taking on new and exciting responsibilities, and they should always be recognized for that.

5. Make time for some one-on-one time: As mentioned previously, spending designated time with your older child makes a big difference. Have your spouse, a family member or friend take care of the baby for a couple of hours while you spend quality time with your oldest.

Every child is different, and what worked for one may not work for another. Remember that it takes time for everyone to get used to the new dynamic, so don't stress too much. Stay focused on the positives, and always give your older child the attention and recognition they deserve for being an amazing sibling.

Good luck with the new arrival!


Hi there!

I went through the same thing when I was pregnant with my second child. My first child was also 2 years old at the time. Here are some things that worked well for us:

1. Involve your toddler in the pregnancy: We would talk to our toddler about the baby in my tummy and let her feel the baby move. We would also show her ultrasound pictures and let her talk to the baby.

2. Read books about new siblings: We found some great children's books about becoming a big sister/brother and would read them to our toddler before bed. This helped her understand what was happening and what to expect.

3. Get a gift from the baby: We had our toddler pick out a special toy for the new baby and in return, we got her a special toy from the new baby. This helped her feel like she was a part of the process and excited about the new arrival.

4. Spend quality time with your toddler: After the baby arrived, we made sure to spend one-on-one time with our toddler every day. We would read books, play games or go outside. This helped her not feel left out and showed her that she was still loved and important to us.

5. Be patient: It may take some time for your toddler to adjust to having a new sibling. Be patient and understanding of their emotions. We found that our toddler would sometimes act out, but we would just try to talk to her and figure out what was wrong.

I hope that helps! Good luck with your new arrival!


Hello there,

When I was planning for my second child, my first child was three years old. I was worried about how he would react to the new arrival, and whether he would feel neglected or jealous. Here are some things that helped us make the adjustment as smooth as possible:

1. Keep talking to your child: Before the baby was born, we talked to our son about what was happening, how the baby was growing in Mommy's belly, and what he could expect when the baby arrived. We tried to answer all his questions and involve him in the process as much as we could.

2. Give them jobs to do: My son loved helping me with simple tasks and chores, so we made sure to give him little jobs he could handle once the baby arrived. For example, he would help me get the baby's clothes or diapers, or bring a burp cloth when needed. This gave him a feeling of responsibility and involvement.

3. Spend some one-on-one time: After the baby arrived, we were busy taking care of the newborn, but we made sure to set aside some time for just my first child and me. We would read a book together, play a game, or just cuddle. This special time helped him feel loved and cared for.

4. Be patient and understanding: Our child was used to being the center of attention, so it was only natural that he would have some jealous or frustrated feelings. We tried to be patient and understanding, and to reassure him that he was still our little prince.

5. Involve the child in baby care: As time passed and the baby grew, we were able to involve our older child in more complex baby care, such as rocking or singing to the baby or helping with bathtime. These interactions helped them bond and develop a close relationship that lasts to this day.

Remember that every child is unique, and some may take longer than others to adjust to a new sibling. But by staying positive, engaging with your older child and making them feel loved, you will be laying a foundation for a healthy sibling relationship that can last a lifetime.

Good luck!

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