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How do I help my child develop a strong sense of responsibility and accountability?

Hi, I am a concerned parent looking for ways to help my child develop a strong sense of responsibility and accountability. Recently, I have noticed that my child tends to procrastinate, forget chores, and blames others for their mistakes. I want my child to learn to take responsibility for their actions and become a reliable and independent person.

I would appreciate any advice or tips on how I can encourage my child to develop a strong sense of responsibility and accountability. How can I teach them to prioritize tasks, keep track of their responsibilities, and own up to their mistakes? I am willing to try different methods, so any suggestions would be highly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your guidance.

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Hello, as a parent of a pre-teen, I too can relate to your concern about teaching your child responsibility and accountability. One technique that has worked well for me is building a structured framework around the tasks and responsibilities that need to be accomplished.

For instance, I created a daily task list that includes items such as completing homework, tidying up their room, and taking the dog for a walk. By doing this, I can provide clear guidelines and keep my child on track with their responsibilities. I have also found that this helps prevent conflicts and misunderstandings about what has to be done.

Another thing that has been helpful for me is to set deadlines for completing tasks. This not only creates a sense of urgency in your child, but also helps develop time-management skills which are essential for personal responsibility. Along the same lines, I try to let my child handle their own consequences for missed deadlines. This could include a lower grade, or not being able to participate in a certain activity. This helps them understand the importance of being accountable for the time and effort they put into things.

I've also created a reward system for when my child completes their tasks satisfactorily. This could be in the form of extra playtime, a day out or extra screen time. This reward system has positively reinforced responsibility so that my child takes pride in finishing their tasks to the best of their ability and brings out a sense of accomplishment.

In conclusion, my approach has been to create structure and accountability with deadlines, consequences and rewards. I hope these techniques can help you guide your child towards becoming a responsible and accountable person.


Hello, as a parent of two children, I can relate to your concern regarding your child's responsibility and accountability. One thing that has worked for me is giving my children tasks appropriate to their age and holding them accountable for it. I started with simple tasks like making their bed and keeping their toys tidy. From there, I gradually assigned them more complex tasks, such as taking out the trash or helping with the dishes after dinner.

To encourage my children to be responsible, I also make sure to give praise when they complete their tasks successfully. Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool for building good habits, and it can help your child develop an appreciation for being responsible.

It's also important to avoid micromanaging your child's behaviour. Give them instructions and guidelines, but let them figure out how to accomplish the task themselves. This approach allows your child to use critical thinking, prioritize and be able to come up with independent solutions to problems.

Lastly, it's important to have open communication with your child. Encourage them to come to you if they make a mistake. Keep the conversation relaxed so that they will be comfortable sharing their mistakes with you, and you can discuss the choices they made and ways they can avoid repeating the same mistake in the future.

Hopefully, these suggestions will work for you as well, all the best!


Hi, as a parent of a teenager, I can understand your concern about wanting to instil responsibility and accountability in your child. One of the things that I have found helpful is teaching my child to manage their time effectively. By setting time limits for activities like playing video games and ensuring they complete their homework on time, I can help them develop a sense of responsibility.

Another thing that has worked for me is giving them opportunities to make decisions for themselves. This can be done by involving them in family discussions about matters that affect them, and asking for their input. By listening to and valuing their opinions, it helps them feel more accountable and invested in the family.

In addition, I've found it’s important to be consistent with expectations and consequences. For instance, if your child consistently forgets their chores or doesn't complete them satisfactorily, there should be consequences that are discussed beforehand, and then enforced. Consistency is important because it reinforces that certain behaviour is not acceptable.

Last but not least, I try to be open and approachable so that my child can feel comfortable coming to me with their problems. Mistakes are inevitable, and it's crucial to create an environment where your child feels safe and able to learn from failures without judgement.

Ultimately, teaching your child responsibility and accountability is a continuous process. It may take time and patience, but if you remain consistent in your approach, you're sure to make progress. Wishing you all the best!


As a fellow parent, I can relate to your concern about wanting to instill a sense of responsibility and accountability in your child. One thing that has worked for me is setting clear expectations and consequences for missed responsibilities or mistakes. This helps teach them that their actions have consequences and they need to take ownership of them.

Another thing that has worked for me is modeling responsibility and accountability myself. Children are very observant and tend to emulate what their parents do. If they see you taking responsibility for your actions and being accountable, they are more likely to do the same.

It's also important to give your child room to make mistakes and learn from them. Sometimes, as parents, we want to protect our children from making mistakes but that hinders their growth in the long run. Let them experience the natural consequences of their actions and use those as teachable moments.

Lastly, positive reinforcement goes a long way. When your child does take responsibility or ownership of their mistakes, praise them for it. This reinforces the behavior and motivates them to continue doing so in the future.

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