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How do I handle tantrums and meltdowns in a gentle way?

Hi everyone, I'm a new mom and my two-year-old daughter has started throwing tantrums and meltdowns. I'm finding it difficult to handle her outbursts in a gentle way without resorting to yelling or physical punishment. I want to know how to handle her tantrums and meltdowns calmly without hurting her emotionally or physically. Any tips or advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance!

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Hello! As a parent of a three-year-old son, I have dealt with my fair share of tantrums and meltdowns. One approach that has worked for us is to establish a calm down area in our home. This is a designated spot where my son can go to regulate his emotions when he starts to feel overwhelmed or needs some time alone.

The calm down area is equipped with calming items such as stuffed animals, sensory toys, books and soft blankets. We model using this space when we start to feel stressed or frustrated by taking a few deep breaths, and invite him to participate.

Sometimes, we just need to take a moment and breathe or redirect the energy of the situation. For example, if he is having a meltdown about not wanting to take a bath, I might suggest we play with some bath toys or read a story and revisit the bath in a few minutes.

Additionally, letting him know what to expect can also bring him comfort, so we often work to establish a routine. This helps him to feel in control and know what to expect. We also acknowledge his effort in using the strategies we teach him when he calms down from a meltdown, praising him for being in control of his emotions.

In summary, establishing a calm down area, using visuals routines and praising good behavior have all helped us to handle my son's tantrums and meltdowns in a gentle way.


Hi! I can completely relate with you as I have a four-year-old son who still throws tantrums and has meltdowns every now and then. It can be difficult to handle these situations gently but what has worked for me is to stay calm and not react to his outburst. I either try to ignore it if it's not that serious or go to him and ask him what's wrong.

Sometimes it's a case of frustration or hunger or simply being tired. Once I have understood the reason for his tantrum, then I speak to him calmly and try to make him understand why I am not able to give him what he wants at that point in time. I do it in a gentle and patient way.

I also try to distract him by engaging him in something else that he enjoys doing. For instance, drawing, reading or simply playing with his toys. I have found that this works most times and it helps him to calm down naturally.

In summary, staying calm, understanding the reason for his tantrum, and distracting him with something he loves doing are my top tips for handling my son's tantrums and meltdowns gently. I hope this helps.


Hello! I can definitely relate to your situation. I am a preschool teacher and I deal with tantrums and meltdowns on a regular basis. One thing that has helped me through these situations is connecting with the child.

Sometimes, all the child needs is someone to listen and understand them. I try to get down to their level, look them in the eye and listen to them without interrupting. Once they are done, I validate their feelings and let them know that I hear them.

Another thing I do is to give them choices. Providing them with options gives them a sense of control and can help prevent outbursts. For example, instead of telling them to stop playing with a particular toy, I'll ask them to either keep playing or keep the toy aside.

In addition, I try to anticipate their needs and address them beforehand. For example, I might offer a snack or a drink before they get too hungry or thirsty. This can help prevent meltdowns from happening in the first place.

Lastly, I appeal to their logical side. Children tend to respond positively to reasons and explanations. If I need a child to do something, I explain why it's important and how it benefits them. For example, I might explain how washing their hands prevents germs from spreading and makes them healthy.

I hope these tips help! All the best!


Hi there! I can completely relate to your situation as I also have a two-year-old son who throws tantrums from time to time. What has worked for me is taking a deep breath and trying to stay calm during his outburst. I try to understand his needs and if it's something I can compromise on, I do that. If not, I try to distract him with something he enjoys doing, like reading a book or playing with his toys.

I have also found that giving him a sense of control can help prevent tantrums. For instance, I ask him if he would like to wear the red shirt or blue shirt, or if he would like to eat his snack now or after finishing his activity. This makes him feel like he has a say in what happens next.

Lastly, I try to validate his emotions and let him know that it's okay to feel upset or frustrated. I empathize with him and reassure him that I am there for him. This has helped reduce the frequency and intensity of his tantrums.

I hope this helps, and remember to be patient with yourself and your daughter - we're all learning as we go!

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