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How do I handle potential differences in sleep preferences or habits between me and my partner while co-sleeping with our baby?

Hello everyone,

I have a question regarding co-sleeping with our baby. My partner and I have been sharing the bed with our 3-month-old baby since his birth. While it has its benefits, I am noticing potential differences in our sleep preferences and habits that sometimes disrupt my sleep.

For example, my partner snores loudly and moves around quite a bit in his sleep, which sometimes wakes me up. Additionally, he likes to keep the room extremely cold, which I find uncomfortable. I am concerned that these differences might negatively affect our sleep and, consequently, our baby's sleep.

I would appreciate any advice or tips on how to handle these potential differences in sleep preferences or habits while co-sleeping with our baby. Thank you in advance.

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Hello everyone,

I can completely understand the struggle of co-sleeping with a partner whose sleep preferences are different from yours. When I was co-sleeping with my baby and husband, I also faced similar issues.

One thing that worked for us was adjusting our sleeping positions. Initially, we used to sleep flat on our back, but my partner had sleep apnea and he snored a lot, which made it very difficult for me to get a good night's sleep. Therefore, I suggested that we try sleeping on our sides. Sleeping on our sides not only reduced the snoring but also made it easier for me to breastfeed our baby during the night without disturbing either of them.

Additionally, we made some modifications to the bedroom as well. We started using blackout curtains to keep the room dark and cool, which helped us all sleep soundly. We also invested in a good quality mattress that was supportive and comfortable for all three of us.

Lastly, we developed a routine that worked for us. Establishing an evening routine for the baby, such as a bath, a story, and a lullaby, helped him settle down for the night. We also set up a fixed schedule for feeding him during the night so that we could take turns and get undisturbed sleep.

Overall, it's important to find a routine and sleeping arrangement that works for your family. Being open and honest with your partner about your sleep preferences can go a long way in resolving any issues that might arise.


Hi there,

I can relate to your concerns about co-sleeping with a partner who has different sleep habits. My husband snored quite loudly pre-COVID and we usually slept in separate rooms because of that. However, since the birth of our baby, we have been co-sleeping and it has not been an easy transition.

One thing that has helped us is using earplugs. I put in earplugs before bed and it helps me block out my husband's snoring. However, I make sure that I can still hear our baby's cries in case he needs anything.

Additionally, we compromised on the room temperature as well. My husband wanted it colder than I did, but we found a temperature that works for both of us. We also use warm blankets to keep ourselves cozy.

Communication is key in situations like these. Make sure you talk to your partner about how their sleep habits might be affecting you and work together to find a solution that works for both of you. It might take some time and experimentation, but you'll eventually find what works best for your family. Good luck!



I also co-slept with my partner and our baby for a while, and it took a bit of time for us to adjust to each other's sleep preferences. My partner is a particularly heavy sleeper and occasionally would roll over onto our baby, which made me feel quite anxious at first.

To help with this, we eventually made the switch to side-sleeping. I found that I was much more aware of where everyone was, and it made it easier to comfort our baby without disturbing my partner. In terms of temperature, we've settled on a medium temperature that suits us both, and invested in a good duvet that keeps us both warm and comfortable.

That said, it can be really difficult to get quality rest when you're co-sleeping, particularly if you're feeling stressed or anxious. I would recommend making an effort to take some time for yourself when you can - for example, by taking a nap during the day if baby is sleeping, or by doing something relaxing before bed like reading or taking a bath.

Remember that it's totally normal to have different sleep preferences, and that it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your relationship or parenting skills. With a bit of experimentation and openness, you'll find a routine that works for everyone.


Hi there!

I can completely relate to the struggle of co-sleeping with a partner who has different sleep habits than you. My partner and I are currently co-sleeping with our baby, and initially, we too faced similar challenges.

One solution that worked for us was adjusting our sleeping positions. My partner is a restless sleeper, and he has a habit of moving around a lot during the night. Initially, this used to disrupt my sleep, but eventually, we realized that sleeping in different positions helped. I sleep on one side of the bed with our baby, and my partner sleeps on the other side. Thus, it helps us to sleep comfortably without disturbing each other’s sleep.

We also set some ground rules for ourselves. For example, my partner knows that he needs to be cautious while moving or getting up from the bed, as he can wake us up with his movements. Additionally, I made a small adjustment to my sleepwear to help me sleep better. I started wearing earplugs to bed, which helped me block out any noises that used to keep me awake.

Lastly, I found it useful to establish a sleep routine for the baby. Babies tend to sleep better when they have a predictable schedule, so we made an effort to create a nighttime routine that helped our baby to wind down before bed.

Overall, it’s essential to be patient and work together to find a sleep routine that works for both you and your partner. By adjusting our sleeping position and establishing a sleep routine for our baby, we learned to sleep better and co-sleep peacefully.



I have also faced the same issues while co-sleeping with my partner and our baby. Our sleeping patterns and preferences were quite different, which sometimes resulted in disrupted sleep for both of us.

To tackle this, we tried a few things which worked, and some which didn't. One thing that worked wonders for us was buying a king-sized bed, which provided enough space for all of us and helped us sleep without disturbing each other's sleeping patterns.

We also tried using white noise to help us fall asleep, which was quite helpful. We found that it helped to mask the sounds of my partner's snoring and made it easier for me to fall asleep.

However, what worked best for us was dividing the sleeping responsibilities. My husband would take the first half of the night shift, and I would take the second half. That way, we both got undisturbed sleep for a few hours, and were able to feel more rested and refreshed.

It can be difficult to find what works for you but keep experimenting until you find a solution that works. Remember that it's important to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about your sleep preferences and try and find a solution that works without causing any discomfort.



Co-sleeping with a partner and a baby can be challenging, especially when both of you have different sleeping preferences. I faced the same issue while co-sleeping with my partner and our baby, and here's what worked for us.

First, we had to learn to compromise. We decided to set the room temperature at a level that was comfortable for both of us. It took some time to find the perfect temperature, but we eventually figured it out by using a small space heater on my side of the bed and a fan on my partner's side.

Secondly, we worked on reducing noise levels in the bedroom. My partner is a light sleeper and any noise would wake him up. We started by eliminating any noisy devices in the room and bought a white noise machine that helped to reduce background noise and create a soothing environment for our baby to sleep in.

Lastly, we also created a sleeping arrangement that worked for us. We invested in a co-sleeping crib that was attached to the bed, so our baby could sleep beside us, but on his own space. This helped us all to get some space to ourselves during the night while still being close.

Overall, finding ways to compromise and creating a comfortable and quiet environment helped us adjust to each other's sleep preferences over time. Co-sleeping with a baby and partner can have its challenges, but with patience and communication, it can work out great.

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