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How do I handle my toddler's clingy behavior and need for constant attention?

Hey there,

I have a 2-year-old daughter who is constantly clinging to me and demanding my attention. Even when I'm in the same room as her, she wants me to hold her or play with her. It's becoming overwhelming and exhausting for me, as I can't seem to get anything done around the house. I also feel guilty that I'm not able to give her the attention she wants all the time.

I'm looking for advice on how to handle her clingy behavior and encourage her to be more independent. Are there any tips or strategies that have worked for other parents in a similar situation? I would appreciate any insights or suggestions that you may have.

Thank you.

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Hey OP,

I understand how challenging it can be to handle a clingy toddler who needs constant attention. What worked for me was to keep my child engaged in some sensory play activities like water play, kinetic sand, and finger painting. These types of activities are not only great for development but can keep your toddler busy for a good amount of time.

Another thing that helped was creating a designated play area that was specifically designed for my child. This way, they had their own space to explore and play freely. When they wanted some attention, they knew to come out to where I was, and I could give them the attention they needed.

Lastly, I found it helpful to give my child a sense of responsibility by giving them small tasks to do, such as picking up toys or helping with simple household chores. This not only helped them feel like they were contributing, but it also gave them a sense of independence.

Remember to be patient and understanding, as your toddler is still learning and growing. With some experimentation, you'll find what works best for you, your child, and your family as a whole.


Hi there,

I can totally relate to this as I am also a parent of a toddler who demands a lot of attention. One thing that I found to be really helpful was to set up a cozy area that my little one could retreat to when they needed some downtime. This area had a few books, stuffed animals, and some soothing music playing in the background.

Another strategy that I found useful was to incorporate my child into things that I was doing around the house. Something as simple as having them help me sort laundry by color or putting away toys in their designated spot can help them feel like they are contributing and help them feel a sense of independence.

Lastly, I made sure that I spent some quality one-on-one time with my little one every day, even if it was just for a few minutes. We would read a few books or play a simple game and it brought us closer and gave them the attention that they craved.

Remember, each child is unique and what works for one may not work for another. Keep trying different strategies and be patient, as this phase will pass before you know it!


Hey OP,

I also have a toddler who craves a lot of attention and is quite clingy. What worked for me was to create a safe space where my child could play independently while I was doing something else. I filled a playpen with a few toys and left the gate open so they could play in there whenever they wanted. This way they could see me and know I was nearby, but still play on their own.

Another thing that helped me was making sure my child was getting enough attention from others. Sometimes, a change in scenery and a fresh friendly face can make all the difference. I started taking my child to playdates, enrolling them in a parent-cooperative preschool, and even hired a part-time nanny to give them someone else's undivided attention.

Lastly, I found it useful to always have something on hand to keep my child occupied. You could carry some books, toys or a game that they enjoy playing in your purse or bag. It could be helpful especially when you're out running errands or waiting for an appointment.

It's a phase, and it passes quickly. Remember to take deep breaths, stay patient and enjoy your little one while they are still little!


Hey OP,

I completely understand where you're coming from. I've been through the same thing with my son. What worked for me was setting up activities for him that he could do independently while I was busy with household chores. These could be simple activities like coloring or playing with stacking blocks.

You could also try setting up a routine with your toddler, where you dedicate specific times of the day for focused playtime with them. This could help them feel more secure and give them a sense of structure to their day.

Lastly, it's important to remember that being a parent can be overwhelming and it's okay to take a break when you need it. Don't feel guilty for taking a breather and letting your child play independently or with someone else for a little bit.

Hope this helps!


Hi OP,

I can relate to how draining it can be when your toddler demands so much of your attention. One thing that worked for me was to incorporate my toddler into the activities that I was doing around the house. For example, they could help me with folding laundry or setting the table for dinner.

I also found it helpful to set boundaries and limits with my toddler, so that they understood that I couldn't always be available to play or hold them. This could involve explaining to them that you need to make dinner or take a work call, and that you will play with them afterward.

In addition, it's important to take time for yourself and prioritize self-care. When you're feeling refreshed and energized, it can be easier to engage with your child and give them the attention they crave.

Hang in there, it's a challenging phase but it will pass!


Hey OP,

I empathize with your situation as I have a two-year-old who also demands a lot of attention. What worked for me was setting up a predictable routine throughout the day, so she knew what to expect and when to expect it. It may take some trial and error, but once you have a routine in place, your toddler will understand when it's playtime and when it's not.

Another thing that helped me was introducing her to sensory activities. I would put some sensory bins together or add some sensory elements to her activities like adding finger paint, sand or water. This helped her engage with the activities for longer periods of time, and also gave her something to do independently.

Lastly, it's crucial to have some mom-time. Having someone watch your toddler for a few hours or even having them join a playgroup can be quite helpful. It gives you an opportunity to recharge and de-stress.

Keep trying different strategies and see what works best for you and your toddler.

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