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How do I handle my toddler's attachment to certain toys or objects and prevent meltdowns when they are lost or broken?

Hi everyone,

I'm a new parent and I have a toddler who's just turned 2 years old. My little one has become very attached to certain toys, such as a stuffed animal, a blanket, and a small car. Whenever we go out, my toddler insists on bringing these toys along, and if we forget them, it can lead to a major meltdown.

I understand that having comfort objects is normal for toddlers, but as a parent, I'm worried about what would happen if one of these toys gets lost or broken. My child becomes so upset that it can be hard to console them.

I'm looking for advice on how to handle this situation. Is there a way I can encourage my toddler to let go of these toys or find a way to help them cope when the toys are lost or damaged? Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

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laisha.homenick

Hello OP,

As a parent, I completely understand your concern related to your toddler's attachment to certain toys, and how challenging it could be when they lose or break them. My daughter was also very attached to a stuffed animal and experiencing anxiety when we couldn't find it.

What worked for us was to talk and communicate more with her. We acknowledged the importance of the toy to her and showed our understanding that it provided comfort and security to her. It gave her the validation needed to consider a new comfort object.

We turned it into something like an adventure, where we went hunting for new toys for her to bond with. It gave her the excitement of learning something new and also having a new item to use as a companion.

Moreover, we would try to create a playful environment and would try to grab her attention with other toys and activities which we could play together, like playing make-believe games, painting or reading her favorite storybook.

Lastly, it was important for us to have an extra copy of her favorite toy. We made sure to have two identical pieces of it for backup just in case one got misplaced or damaged.

In conclusion, it's vital to remember that every child is unique and what may work for one might not work for another. Be open to try different things and ultimately, you will find an appropriate strategy that suits your child's needs.

All the best!

vcruickshank

Hi OP,

I can definitely understand the concern you have regarding your toddler's attachment to certain toys. My daughter too had a favorite stuffed animal that she would carry around everywhere she went. To ensure that she didn't feel anxious when the stuffed animal was lost or damaged, we tried a few different things.

Firstly, we made sure to keep a backup of the toy in case something did happen to the original one. This helped to ease her anxiety and gave us peace of mind.

Secondly, we also tried to distract her with other activities or toys that she enjoyed playing with. We found that providing her with other toys and activities that she enjoyed or making an effort to be more engaged in playtime with her helped distract her from the toy.

Lastly, we also tried to involve her in deciding when it was time to say bye-bye to the toy (like buying a different one that she was excited to have). We tried to introduce the idea to her as painlessly as possible and tried to portray it as a positive step forward.

These methods helped to wean her off her attachment to her stuffed animal and also helped her to cope in case of a loss or damage to the toy. I hope this helps you too!

Best of luck.

ross.gutmann

Hey there OP,

I too can relate to your situation. My son was also very attached to a particular stuffed animal and would become visibly upset if he couldn't find it. However, my son's case was a bit different because he was on the autism spectrum, which added a layer of complexity to his behavior.

What worked for us was to try and understand why the object held so much importance for him. We realized that the stuffed animal was a source of comfort and security for him, so we began to incorporate other elements of comfort into his routine.

We made sure to establish a consistent bedtime routine and also gave him a weighted blanket that provided a similar sense of comfort. Additionally, we tried to offer other toys that provided different textures or that he really enjoyed playing with.

Of course, it was still important to have the stuffed animal around as a backup. We made sure to have two or three of the same stuffed animal so that we could switch them out and always have a backup ready.

Overall, what worked for us was finding other sources of comfort and gradually easing our son away from his attachment. It took a lot of patience and understanding, but we were eventually able to get him to a point where he didn't rely so heavily on the stuffed animal.

Hope this helps!

judah.mcdermott

Hey there OP,

I understand what you're going through. My daughter was also very attached to her blanket, and we had a difficult time when it needed to be washed or when it was lost. However, I found that creating a duplicate blanket helped to ease her anxiety and reduce the stress on both of us.

I bought a second blanket that was of similar texture and color, and made it a part of my daughter's daily routine. She would hold it and play with it during the day, and we would make sure to keep it close by during bedtime as well. This helped her to feel like she always had her security blanket with her, even if the original one was unavailable.

Another thing that helped was involving my daughter in the decision to wash the blanket. We would talk about how blankets need to be washed to keep them clean and healthy, and then she would help me wash it in the machine. Involving her in the process seemed to help her to feel like she had some control over the situation.

Lastly, I found that finding other ways to offer her comfort, like a warm bath or snuggling together on the couch, helped to ease her anxiety as well. The more options she had to find comfort and security, the less reliant she became on the blanket.

I hope these tips help you and your little one navigate this difficult phase. Good luck!

dawson.miller

Hello OP,

I can definitely relate to your situation. My son was extremely attached to a small plastic figure of his favorite superhero, and would get very upset if it was misplaced or broken. It was a big source of stress for me, especially when we were out of the house.

What worked for us was to establish a routine around the toy. We made it a rule that the toy could only be played with at certain times of the day, like during playtime or before bedtime. This helped to create a sense of structure and predictability around the toy.

We also tried to encourage our son to play with other toys and find new favorites, while still acknowledging the importance of the toy to him. We would talk to him about other cool superhero characters, or play games with different toys to show him that he could have fun with other things as well.

It was also important for us to have a backup of the toy, just in case something happened to the original. We made sure to keep it in a safe place and only bring it out when needed.

Overall, it took some time and patience, but eventually our son was able to let go of his attachment to the toy and become more open to playing with other things. I'm sure you'll find a solution that works for your family as well!

Best of luck!

josefina.fay

Hi OP,

I completely understand how you feel about your child's attachment to certain toys. My son was the same way when he was younger, and he was especially attached to a small toy car that he carried with him everywhere.

What worked for us was slowly introducing new toys and rotating them, so that he wouldn't get attached to just one toy. We would also try to involve him in choosing new toys and making it a fun experience. It was exciting for him to explore new toys, and he soon had a range of different favorites.

Another thing that helped was to establish a routine around the toys. We would encourage him to put away his toys at the end of the day, and he would always know where to find them. This helped to create a sense of order and predictability around his toys, which made it easier for him to transition to playing with other toys.

Lastly, we would try to avoid using the toys as a distraction when he was upset or stressed. Instead, we would use other tools, like talking to him, giving him a hug, or listening to music, to help him calm down. This helped to reduce his reliance on the toys as a source of comfort.

I hope these tips help you and your toddler! Remember, every child is different, so what works for some may not work for others. Keep experimenting and you'll find the right method for your family.

willie.beier

Hello OP,

I totally understand what you're going through. My son had a similar attachment to a small toy car that he would take with him everywhere. We experienced numerous meltdowns whenever the toy car was misplaced, and it was a very stressful experience for both of us.

What worked for us was to gradually introduce new toys and activities that captured his attention. We made a point of involving him in selecting new toys and showing enthusiasm and excitement for them. This made the prospect of setting the car aside for a while a bit easier for him.

Another thing that helped was establishing a consistent routine around playtime. We made sure that he had plenty of opportunities to play with different toys and engage in various activities. This helped to broaden his interests and reduce his dependence on the toy car over time.

It was also important to create a sense of normalcy around losing toys. We tried to downplay the importance of the toy car and offered reassurance that we could find a new one to play with. Keeping positive and upbeat about getting another toy car helped to reduce his anxiety around losing it. Of course, we also made sure to have a backup car just in case.

I hope this helps you to navigate your child's attachment to particular toys. Remember to be patient and supportive, and that it may take some time to encourage them to break away from their comfort objects.

Good luck!

gkris

Hi OP,

I completely understand what you're going through. My daughter had a similar attachment to her stuffed bunny when she was around the same age as your toddler. Losing it would result in a huge meltdown, which was very stressful for me as a parent.

What worked for me was to gradually reduce the amount of time that my daughter spent with the toy by slowly phasing it out. Over a period of a few weeks, I would encourage her to play with other toys instead of her bunny. I would also try to distract her from it whenever possible.

Eventually, my daughter became less reliant on her bunny and stopped getting upset when it wasn't around. That being said, it's important to remember that every child is different, and what works for one may not necessarily work for another.

Another thing that helped was having a backup for the stuffed bunny. We made sure to buy a second one just in case something happened to the original. This helped to ease my daughter's anxiety and gave us peace of mind.

I hope this helps! Good luck.

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