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How do I deal with my child's fears and anxieties during their early years?

Hello everyone,

I am a first-time parent and my child is just a year old. I have noticed that my child has started exhibiting signs of fear and anxiety lately. Whenever we go out or meet new people, my child starts crying and clinging to me tightly. This has made me worried about their mental health and emotional well-being.

I want to know how I can deal with my child's fears and anxieties during their early years. Are there any tips or techniques that I can use to make them feel more comfortable and confident in unfamiliar situations? I would also like to know if this is a common thing among kids and if I should be concerned about it.

Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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Greetings everyone,

As a mother of two daughters, I have had my fair share of dealing with their fears and anxieties during their younger years. My youngest child was different from her older sister as she got anxious in crowded places, while her sister was okay with it.

One technique that worked for us is to provide positive reinforcement when our child is brave enough to try something new or face her fears. It could be as simple as taking her to her favorite ice cream place after her first trip without any anxious responses.

Another thing that we did is to practice deep breathing and relaxation techniques with her. These exercises help calm her nerves and regulate her breathing, which would calm her anxiety.

Talking about things that make her anxious can also help ease her fears. It creates a level of comfort, knowing that you understand her feelings and concerns.

Lastly, we surrounded our daughter with positive role models. We interacted with friends or family members who are lively, confident, and collect in whatever situation they may be in. It provided our daughter with a positive perspective on new scenarios and diffracted less on the negative (anxiety provoking) elements.

In conclusion, helping your child overcome fears and anxiety is not an overnight process. It takes time, patience, and a lot of positivity to make progress. The technique that worked for us may not work for others, but with guidance and support, our children can take big steps in conquering their fears.


Hi everyone,

I can relate to your situation as a mother and to the challenges that you're facing in handling your child's fears and anxieties.

When my daughter was just a few months old, she started developing a sense of discomfort and anxiety around strangers. She would start crying and getting very fidgety whenever she saw someone she wasn't familiar with.

What helped me deal with the situation was finding out what exactly was causing her anxiety. I found out that it was mostly because she was feeling insecure around new people and wasn't comfortable with strangers holding her or sometimes even being around her. As a new mom, it was a hard pill to swallow, but I realized that it was normal and that my daughter needed my support and encouragement to help her overcome her fears.

So, how did I go about helping her? I started by spending more time with her and slowly introducing her to new people and environments. I would hold her close and talk her through things, explaining to her what was happening around her. This would help her feel more secure and comfortable in new situations.

Another strategy I employed was to keep her occupied with activities that she enjoyed. I would play with her favorite toys or sing her favorite song, and this would help take her mind off her anxiety.

Lastly, I would make sure that I was always there whenever she needed me. Often, just my presence was enough to make her feel secure and safe.

In the end, I learned that with persistence and patience, my daughter overcame her fears and anxieties, and now she's happy to meet new people and go to new places. So, if you're going through a similar situation with your child, just remember that you're not alone, and with proper care and attention, your child can overcome their fears and anxieties.



My son was diagnosed with anxiety disorder when he was six years old, and it was a tough time for both him and our family. It was difficult for us to watch him experience intense emotions and fears that seemed irrational to us as adults.

One of the things that have helped us through this is seeking professional help through therapy. Our therapist helped us understand our child's anxieties and gave us techniques to help him cope in tough situations. These included things like breathing exercises, meditation, and visualization techniques.

Another essential thing that I found helpful was to be mindful of my words and actions around him. As parents, it's crucial to create a safe and stable environment for our kids. We made sure to spend quality time with him, listen to his fears, and reassure him that he was safe and loved.

We also tried to create a routine that would help give him more structure and stability. This included things like a consistent bedtime routine, regular meals and snacks, and scheduled activities like homework or playtime.

Finally, it's essential to equip your child with the right tools and resources to manage their anxiety. It may include carrying around a comfort object, having a breathing hack written on a piece of paper in their pocket or talking to a trusted adult when they feel overwhelmed.

In conclusion, anxiety disorder can be a complex issue to handle, but with patience, love, and support, your child can learn to manage their anxiety effectively. Seeking help from professionals, building a secure environment, and providing your child with tools to self-manage are all vital skills in this journey.


Hey everyone,

As a mother of two, I have gone through the phase of dealing with my kids' fears and anxieties during their early years. My younger child was very anxious around strangers and would often cling to me or his father in unfamiliar situations.

One thing that worked for us was to be patient and understanding. Fears and anxieties are a natural part of child development, and it's important not to invalidate or dismiss their feelings. We tried to reassure him that it was okay to feel scared or anxious and that we were there to support him.

Another thing that helped was exposure to new situations and people. We took our child to new places like the park, the zoo, the library, and introduced him to our friends and family slowly. It helped him understand that there are people and places beyond his immediate family, and that not all new people or places are unsafe.

We also tried to create routines that helped him feel secure and comfortable, like designated times for meals, naps, and bedtime. It provided him with a sense of structure, which helped alleviate his anxiety.

Lastly, we encouraged our child to express his fears and anxieties in words. We talked to him about what he was feeling and why, and encouraged him to ask questions. As he became more verbal, he was able to describe his fears more explicitly and we could address them better.

In conclusion, every child is different, and there's no one-size-fits-all method to deal with their fears and anxieties. However, being patient, understanding, and providing a sense of safety and structure can go a long way in helping them overcome their anxieties.


Hello everyone,

My experience with handling my child's fears and anxieties during their early years was challenging but rewarding. My son went through a phase where he was scared of everything, and it made it hard for him to enjoy new experiences.

One thing that I found helped a lot was validating his fears and anxieties. Instead of telling him that there was nothing to be scared of or that he was being irrational, I would tell him that I understood how he was feeling and that it's okay to feel scared sometimes. This made it easier for him to open up to me about his feelings.

I also found that distraction was a great way to help him overcome his fears. It's amazing how quickly a child can forget what they were scared of if you can take their minds off it! For example, if he was scared of thunder, we would put on some music or a movie and dance around until he forgot that he was scared.

Another approach that worked well for us was gradually exposing him to his fears in a controlled way. If he was scared of dogs, we would first visit a friend with a well-behaved dog in a controlled environment. We slowly worked our way up to petting the dog, and eventually, he was comfortable around dogs.

In conclusion, dealing with a child's fears and anxieties can be challenging, but it's important to remember that it's part of their development. Being patient, understanding, and validating their fears can go a long way in helping them overcome their anxieties.


Hi there,

I completely understand what you are going through. My son went through a similar phase when he was around a year and a half old. He would get anxious and scared when we were in new places or when he was around new people. It was a very tough time for us as parents, and we were constantly worried about his mental health.

What really helped us was talking to our pediatrician, who gave us some great tips on how to deal with our son's fears and anxieties. Firstly, we started by introducing our son to new people and places slowly. We would take him to new places, but stay close by so he knew we were there. Gradually, he started feeling more comfortable in new environments.

We also created a routine for him that gave him a sense of comfort and security. We would read him a story every night before bed, and have a set time for meals and naps. This helped him feel more secure and less anxious.

Lastly, we tried to be empathetic and understanding whenever our son would get scared or anxious. We would talk to him calmly and soothingly, and let him know that we were there for him.

Overall, I would say that this phase is normal for kids to go through, and with proper care and attention, they can overcome their fears and anxieties. Just remember to be patient and understanding, and seek professional help if necessary.

Hope this helps!

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