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How can I teach my child to have a positive body image and avoid unrealistic beauty standards?

I am a mother of a 6-year-old daughter and I am worried about her growing up with unrealistic beauty standards and negative body image. I remember struggling with these issues myself as a teenager and I don't want my daughter to go through the same thing. I want her to feel confident and comfortable in her own skin regardless of her physical appearance. How can I teach her to have a positive body image and avoid unrealistic beauty standards?

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As someone who has struggled with body image issues my entire life, I completely understand your concern. I think one of the best things you can do as a parent is to model positive body image behavior yourself. When your child hears you speaking positively about your own body and engaging in healthy habits like exercise and healthy eating, they are more likely to internalize those messages.

Another thing that has helped me is to talk openly and honestly with my daughter about body image and beauty standards. Let her know that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and that it's important to focus on being healthy and happy rather than conforming to a certain ideal.

Encourage your daughter to engage in physical activities that she enjoys rather than forcing her to do something you think will help her achieve a certain body type. Additionally, avoid talking negatively about others' bodies or appearance in front of your child as this can reinforce the idea of an ideal body type and contribute to negative body image.

Finally, be sure to celebrate your daughter's accomplishments and talents rather than solely focusing on her appearance. This can help her develop a strong sense of self-worth beyond her physical appearance.


I am a father of two young daughters, and as a parent, it's important to remember that a child's body image is often shaped by their surroundings. In other words, it is important to surround your child with positive influences, inclusive communities, and strong role models so that they may learn to love their bodies regardless of their shape or size.

One thing that has helped my daughters is instilling confidence in them through daily affirmations. Every morning, we start the day with self-affirmations, telling each other that we are beautiful, brave, and strong, and that we can achieve whatever we set our minds to. We also try to focus on our health and wellbeing rather than on our physical appearance.

Additionally, we have much loved children's books about self-love, self-acceptance, and body positivity. These types of books can help children to understand and appreciate their bodies, helping them develop a positive body image.

Lastly, I try to be a good role model for my daughters by showing them that I take care of myself, which includes getting enough rest, eating right, and engaging in regular exercise. This way, they see that self-care should be an essential part of their lives, rather than something reserved for special occasions.

Teaching kids to appreciate who they are and what they have to offer the world is essential in this fast-moving society. It's important to create a mindset that focuses on health, self-acceptance, and inner strength, which will help our children build resilience and confidence for years to come.


As someone who has struggled with negative body image and disordered eating in the past, I believe that it's vital to teach children the importance of self-care beyond the physical realm.

One thing that has helped me transform my relationship with myself is focusing on self-care that nurtures my mind, body, and soul. This includes things like journaling, practicing yoga or meditation, spending time in nature, and prioritizing rest and relaxation.

By teaching children to prioritize self-care, we can help them to understand that their physical appearance is just one aspect of who they are as a person, and that taking care of their mental and emotional well-being is just as important.

We also need to teach children about the harmful effects of diet culture and encourage them to embrace their natural bodies. This includes debunking myths surrounding certain foods and the idea of "good" vs "bad" foods, and emphasizing the importance of intuitive eating and listening to their bodies.

As a parent, it's important to lead by example and practice self-care ourselves. This way, our children can see that self-care is an essential part of a healthy and happy life, regardless of their physical appearance.

Ultimately, by encouraging children to prioritize self-care and embracing their natural bodies, we can help them develop a positive body image and a healthy relationship with themselves that will last a lifetime.


As a psychology student, I have learned that it is essential to teach kids critical thinking skills when it comes to media and advertising. Children are often exposed to images and messages that perpetuate unrealistic beauty standards, and it's crucial that they learn to think critically and question what they see.

I've found that it's helpful to watch TV shows and commercials with my younger siblings and teach them how to identify media messages that promote beauty standards that may be unrealistic. For instance, we talk about how makeup and filters change the way people look in pictures, and how media images can be manipulated in a way that does not reflect reality. This helps children develop a more realistic understanding of beauty and reduce the impact that negative messages can have on their self-esteem.

It's also essential to have honest conversations with your children about the beauty industry and the profit-driven messages behind it. This way, children can understand that beauty standards are often driven by the industry's desire to sell products rather than a true reflection of what's needed to be healthy and happy.

Overall, teaching children to be media literate and critical thinkers can help them to resist unrealistic beauty standards and appreciate their bodies for what they are. Most importantly, helping kids understand that they are worthy and valuable, regardless of how they look, will go a long way in promoting a positive body image.


I am also a mother of a 9-year-old daughter, and I completely agree with User 1. In addition to what's been suggested, one more thing that worked great for us was watching TV shows and movies with strong, powerful female role models that look like her. Watching TV shows that celebrate diversity and positive body image reinforces a positive message for children, especially girls.

I also try to refrain from making any comments about her body and clothes. Instead, I focus on how healthy she looks and how her sports activities are making her stronger. Encouraging her towards sports and exercise is always amazing.

Lastly, I am teaching my daughter not to be influenced by the opinions of others when it comes to her physical appearance. I want her to understand that everyone is different and that everyone's bodies are different, and to love herself regardless of her appearance.

Engage your child in open communication and let her know that looks are not the most important thing in life. Instead, your behavior, attitude, and actions go way beyond your outer appearance.


As a dance teacher, one thing that I emphasize to my students and their parents is promoting positive body image by creating a culture of inclusivity and diversity. Dance can often be associated with rigid beauty standards, but it doesn't have to be that way.

We strive to create a positive learning environment where children of all shapes, sizes, abilities, and backgrounds feel welcome and valued. We celebrate the unique qualities in each of our students, and we do not prioritize bodies over talent, hard work, and passion for dance.

Encouraging teamwork and competition in a supportive and positive manner is also key to building self-esteem and positive body image. We teach our young dancers that they are not in competition with each other but rather that they can learn from and support each other.

Another thing that has helped is emphasizing the joy that comes from movement and the sense of accomplishment in mastering new skills. Our students learn to appreciate their bodies for their strength, flexibility, and endurance, rather than solely focusing on how they look in dance attire.

Finally, we try to reinforce the idea that physical appearance does not define a person's worth or abilities. We highlight the unique talents and gifts that each of our students bring to our dance community, which helps build positive self-esteem and a healthy body image.

Through dance, we can encourage children to develop a positive body image by focusing on the joy of movement, inclusivity, respecting diversity, and valuing individual talent and abilities.


As a parent of a teenage daughter who has struggled with body image issues, I believe it's important to encourage children to have a healthy relationship with food. This means teaching them to listen to their bodies and eat when they are hungry and stop when they are full.

We try to refrain from any diet talk or food-shaming in our family, and we provide a variety of foods that are both nourishing and enjoyable. We also encourage our daughter to cook and bake with us, emphasizing the importance of having fun and experimenting with new things in the kitchen.

In addition, we practice mindful eating as a family, which involves paying attention to the flavors and textures of our food, and eating slowly and deliberately. This helps us to appreciate our food more and helps our daughter to develop a healthy relationship with food.

We also emphasize the importance of regular exercise that is fun and enjoyable, focusing on activities that our daughter loves and making sure that she doesn't feel pressured to exercise as a way to change her body.

Lastly, we encourage our daughter to surround herself with positive influences, whether it be friends who are supportive and inclusive or social media accounts that promote healthy body image and self-love.

By teaching our daughter to have a healthy relationship with food and exercise, and surrounding her with positive influences, we hope to promote a positive body image that will last a lifetime.

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