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How can I talk to my child about the dangers of smoking and vaping?

Hey everyone,

I'm a parent of a 12-year-old and I'm concerned about the alarming rise of smoking and vaping among teenagers. I want to talk to my child about the dangers of smoking and vaping and how it can harm their health. I know that communicating with kids can be difficult, so I'm seeking advice on how to approach this topic effectively.

I want my child to be aware of the harmful effects of smoking and vaping, and understand that it can cause several health issues, such as lung cancer, respiratory problems, heart disease, and many more. I also want to educate them on how addictive nicotine is and how it can be hard to quit once they start using tobacco products.

I don't want to sound preachy or judgemental, so any tips or suggestions on how to start this conversation in a non-threatening way would be highly appreciated.

Thanks in advance for your help!

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Hey everyone,

As a former smoker, I know firsthand the dangers of smoking and how it can ruin your health. Smoking is a habit that's hard to shake off once it starts, which is why it's crucial to have discussions with your children about the dangers of smoking and vaping.

One approach that can work when speaking with your child is to speak to them in a language that they can understand. Many children may not comprehend or relate to the long-term implications of smoking on their health; I know it wasn't something that I was aware of when I started smoking. Instead, parents should highlight the immediate drawbacks that teenagers can expect from smoking, such as the awful effects smoking can have on their breath or their self-confidence.

You could also frame the discussion around how you as a parent care for your child's health and what you would advise they do to take care of themselves effectively. Involve them in exercises and proper nutrition as a way of showing that you care about them, and this demonstrates that smoking and vaping are not in line with endeavors to keep them healthy.

It is also important to express to children the risks of nicotine addiction and how it can be hard to quit. Nicotine in tobacco can create a physical and mental dependence that is difficult to break; this is something I experienced when attempting to quit. Parents should educate their children on the symptoms associated with nicotine withdrawal, so they are aware of what to expect if they experiment with cigarettes or vape.

In conclusion, parents must advocate for their children's health and protect them from the dangers of smoking and vaping. It may be difficult to have these conversations initially but persevering and expressing why it is important would go a long way in keeping your children smoke-free.


Hi there,

I completely understand your worries about smoking and vaping among teenagers, especially as a parent. I am the older sibling to three siblings and have seen how smoking and vaping can negatively impact and harm young people.

One of the things that can help address the issue is to have an open and supportive relationship with your child or siblings, presenting you as a source of comfort who can provide guidance and support. You could approach the conversation in a warm and caring manner, reassuring them that they can come to you with any concerns or worries.

Another tactic that has proved successful in my family is to encourage my siblings to seek out positive role models. Having a trusted adult, a teacher or a coach who discourages smoking and vaping and promotes healthy living can be helpful in offering a different narrative on issues that young people face.

It might also be useful to involve your child or sibling in activities that promote healthy living, like sports or a fitness program, to show them the benefits of a healthy lifestyle. The physical activities would also contribute to the body’s overall well-being, making it more difficult for them to give in to peer pressure.

Ultimately, the importance of consistency and body health should not be underestimated while educating a young person on the risks of smoking and vaping. The messaging should be consistent and supportive, and it should also continue beyond the first conversation. By keeping the subject fresh in their minds, the potential consequences of using tobacco products would continue to deter them from trying it.


Hi there,

I completely understand your concerns as a parent about smoking and vaping among teenagers. As someone who started smoking at the age of 16, I can tell you first-hand how difficult it was to quit and the impact it has had on my health.

One thing that I wish my parents had done when I was younger was to have an open and honest conversation with me about the dangers of smoking and vaping. If they had talked to me about the harmful effects it could have on my health and how addictive it is, I might have thought twice about starting.

As a parent, I would suggest starting the conversation by asking your child if they have any questions or concerns about smoking or vaping, and then sharing your own thoughts and concerns with them. It's important to approach the conversation in a non-judgemental way and listen to their responses.

Another thing that might be helpful is to provide your child with resources and information about the risks of smoking and vaping. Show them videos or articles that explain the dangers of using tobacco products and how it can negatively impact their health.

In my opinion, it's better to have this conversation early on before your child is faced with peer pressure or temptation to try smoking or vaping. Communication is key, so keep talking to your child and help them make informed decisions about their health and well-being.

Hope this helps!



As someone who started smoking at a young age, I know how hard it is to quit the habit once it starts. It's important to note that teenagers are in a delicate state of their lives, and it becomes more imperative for parents to communicate effectively with them about smoking and vaping.

One of the ways to do this is by using real-life stories to make them aware of the dangers of smoking and vaping. As a parent, you can share stories of people who have suffered due to tobacco addiction. It could be stories of someone in the family, a close friend, or people your kid looks up to. This helps to provide a more immediate and emotional context to the risks of smoking.

Another strategy that works well for parents is by creating a trusted, non-judgmental environment where the child feels supported to express their views and concerns. By doing this, the child knows that they can come for guidance and advice, and they would be heard.

In addition, it's vital to emphasize positive peer relationships. Children and young people are more susceptible to nicotine addiction due to peer pressure, which makes it critical for their peers to disapprove of smoking and encourage healthy living. Creating a positive social network could prevent them from wanting to try something like smoking or vaping.

Finally, it's crucial for parents to lead by example. While talking about the dangers of smoking and vaping is essential, it is equally important to ensure that your kids see you practice what you preach. Abstaining from using tobacco products, opting for a healthy lifestyle, and leading by example would go a long way in encouraging children to adopt healthier living.



As an ex-smoker who started smoking at a young age, I know how addictive smoking can be, and the pressure to start stems from many sources. It may be challenging to have meaningful conversations with children about smoking and vaping, but it's an essential conversation that parents should have to keep them safe.

One strategy I used to discourage my little sister from smoking was to appeal to her sense of self-worth. I let her know that her health and well-being were too important to jeopardize it by smoking. It required constant communication where I reinforced that she deserved to live a healthy life that wasn't marred by addiction or negative health effects. Over time, this message stuck, and she didn't take up smoking.

Another technique that I have seen work is to appeal to children's future selves. Most teenagers tend to think about the here and now and live in the moment. However, by painting a picture of their future selves, talking about discovering their passions, career aspirations, and their desired lifestyle, parents can help young people in choosing to live a healthy lifestyle that aligns with their dreams and ambitions. By citing the negative impact of smoking on their present and future selves, teens could be made aware of the grave consequences of tobacco addiction.

Finally, creating a smoke-free environment at home, school or college, would help reinforce the message against smoking and vaping. Parents could encourage schools and colleges to adopt no-smoking policies by discussing this issue with school boards while encouraging others to join this advocacy.

In conclusion, it's essential to have conversations with our children about the dangers of smoking and vaping, and to offer them convincing reasons why it's not worth it. If done in a loving, non-judgmental way, along with the continuous reinforcement of positive health messages, parents would increase the chances of keeping their children healthy and free from tobacco addiction.



I can relate to your situation as a parent as I am also a parent of two teenagers. It's really concerning to know that smoking and vaping are on the rise among young people.

In my experience, one of the important things we can do as parents is to lead by example. If we I have a smoking habit, it's harder to convince our children about the risks of smoking or vaping. So, if you smoke or vape, it's time to start figuring out some ways you can quit and make your children believe that using tobacco products are not good for health.

Another thing I believe that is important is to spend quality time with the kids. This will also give you a chance to listen to what they are going through, and what challenges they are facing. Hearing them out can help you understand more why they might be tempted to turn to smoking or vaping.

I recommend that you also encourage your child to participate in activities they might be interested in, that way they can keep themselves busy and won’t be bored, a reason why many young people may feel compelled to try smoking or vaping.

Furthermore, as a parent, lecture style may not work well, so try using light-hearted conversations by citing past experiences of people they might know who began smoking or vaping, that ended in health issues. Also, you could recommend to them to attend seminars and educational programs that highlight the negative impact of smoking and vaping.

Remember, as parents, our role is to guide and protect our children and set them on the right path towards a healthy lifestyle.


Hi everyone,

As a health worker who has worked with teenagers in different settings, I have noticed that many young people often perceive smoking and vaping as cool or fashionable but fail to realize the long-term risks of using tobacco products. This is why it's important for parents to intervene and provide education and guidance to ensure that their children stay safe and healthy.

One practical approach that parents can use to educate their children is by making them aware of the costs of smoking and vaping. Not just the financial implication but also the opportunity cost of tobacco addiction in terms of mental, social and physical well-being. Money that could be saved and invested elsewhere would instead be spent on medical bills to remedy the damage caused by the addiction. Highlighting this to children can help drive home the point that smoking comes with heavy, expensive implications that might prove costly in the long run.

Moreover, providing young people with adequate information about what cigarette smoke can do to their bodies can help deter them from smoking or taking up vaping. The message should center around the negative impact smoking has on their lungs, the smell of smoking, the discolouration it can cause to their teeth and nails, and how it could affect their overall well-being. Anything that would force them to consider their long-term health prospects.

Another strategy would be to help teenagers express their emotions without using tobacco products. Many teenagers tend to use smoking or vaping as a way of coping with stress or negative emotions, and it's our job as parents to ensure that they can navigate these issues healthily. Encourage them to engage in activities that help manage stress, such as meditation, exercise, or creative endeavors that can serve as an outlet for their emotions.

Overall, these approaches can help parents communicate more effectively with their children and promote healthy living. It is imperative to continue engaging with children on this front to keep them informed of the latest developments surrounding smoking and vaping so that they are aware of these dangers and can make informed decisions.



I can definitely relate to your concerns as a parent. I grew up in a household where both of my parents were smokers, and as a result, I started smoking at a young age too. It's something that I regretted eventually.

Now, as a parent, I try my best to educate my children on the dangers of smoking and vaping so that they don't make the same mistake as I did.

One method that has worked for me is giving my children age-appropriate information regarding the risks associated with smoking and vaping. There are several resources that parents can use such as online articles or videos, pamphlets, or books that could educate your child about the dangers of tobacco use. These resources provide understandable information that could be more easily absorbed by a child.

Another strategy that has helped my family is openly discussing how to handle peer pressure. Adolescents are exposed to a lot of social pressure and may feel compelled to start smoking or vaping just because their friends are doing it. Encouraging your child to be selective about the friends they keep and ensuring that they understand the long-term effects of peer pressure could prevent them from taking unhealthy risks.

Finally, as parents, we could take it upon ourselves to create an environment that promotes healthy living, offer our children alternative stress coping mechanisms, and act as role models. Mixing with friends who also don’t smoke could also be helpful. In summary, knowledge and consistency are key to keeping our children healthy and ensuring that they do not become dependent on tobacco products.

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