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How can I safely co-sleep with my baby in a shared bed with older siblings?

Hello everyone,

I am a new mom to a beautiful baby girl, and I am looking for some advice on how to co-sleep with my baby in a shared bed with her older siblings. I have two older kids, a 3-year-old son and a 5-year-old daughter, and we live in a small apartment where we all share one bedroom.

I am concerned about the safety of co-sleeping with my baby, especially with my older kids in the same bed. I want to make sure that my baby is sleeping in a safe environment and that my older kids won't accidentally roll over or smother her while they are sleeping.

Can anyone provide some tips or advice on how to safely co-sleep with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings? How can I make sure that my baby is safe while she sleeps? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Hi there,

As a mom of two, I completely understand the urge to co-sleep with your baby even when you have older kids sharing the bed. I personally found that placing the baby in a separate co-sleeping bassinet or crib next to the bed works best for us. It keeps the baby at arm's length for quick access for feedings, but it also eliminates the risk of the older siblings rolling over or smothering the baby.

If you are absolutely set on having the baby sleep in bed with you and your older kids, one thing that has worked for us is to make sure the baby is always positioned safely. The baby should always be between the mom and the bed's edge, so she can't roll over, and everyone, including older siblings, knows not to sleep too close to the baby.

A good way to remind older siblings of the baby's presence is to have a small reminder or a picture on the nightstand or on the wall next to the bed. This can help create an atmosphere of mindfulness and encourage older siblings to be cautious and protective of their new bedmate.

In conclusion, co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings can be a great bonding experience, but it requires some extra effort and caution to ensure everyone gets a good night's sleep and is safe.


Hello everyone,

As a new parent, I have always wanted to co-sleep with my baby, but was initially apprehensive due to safety concerns. However, through proper research, effective communication and integration into our nighttime routine, and the use of the right co-sleeping accessories, we have been able to safely co-sleep with our baby in a shared bed with older siblings.

The first thing we had to do was establish a stable constricted setting in which to co-sleep, we picked a spacious bed with safety rails to keep our baby secure. Also, we created a consistent routine which involves a peaceful environment and calming activities like reading books, singing lullabies and gentle massage. This method helps our older kids and the baby to mentally prepare for bedtimes and prepares them to rest for as long as possible.

Another way we managed to create a safe environment was the use of co-sleeping accessories like an arm's reach co-sleeper and a Bed Bug Guard. The accessories help to create a secure sleeping space for the baby, and the bed bug guard helped to safeguard the baby from the bed bugs that tend to plague most shared sleeping areas, ensuring that the baby stays comfortable and healthy.

Lastly, we made sure that our older kids understood the rules and become more considerate of their new, smaller bedmate. Mutual consideration was key, and they were always to be gentle, avoid sudden movements when on the bed, and watch for any obstruction's that could make the baby uncomfortable, like misplaced toys or heavy bedding.

By incorporating all of these methods and using the proper tools, we've been able to achieve safe and healthy co-sleeping, and keep our baby, older kids, and our household satisfied.



I can totally relate to your situation. When my third child was born, my husband, my two older kids (7 and 5 years old), and I shared a bed in a small apartment. Co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings is a unique challenge, and some extra effort is required to ensure everyone's safety and comfort.

One thing that worked for us was to use a co-sleeping bassinet that attached to the bed. It gave the baby her own space to sleep, which made it easier for us to keep an eye on her, and it also eliminated the risk of someone accidentally rolling onto her. Alternatively, you could use a baby sleeper that can be placed between you and the wall.

Another way to make co-sleeping with older siblings and a baby work is to establish a clear bedtime routine that includes rules and expectations around sleeping arrangements. Designate specific spaces for each person, and teach your older kids to be mindful of the baby's presence. It may also help to have a white noise machine or a fan to block out any ambient noise.

My final tip is to be flexible and adaptable. Co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings can be challenging at times, and it may not work for everyone. However, with some patience, communication, and creativity, it can be a beautiful bonding experience for your family.


Hi everyone,

As a mother of four kids, I have co-slept with all of them, including my baby, in a shared bed with older siblings. While it can be an intimidating venture, it can also be a wonderful and safe experience.

First and foremost, it is paramount to prioritize safety. Always utilize appropriate safety barriers or provisions like bed rails and a co-sleeping safety device. Moreover, ensure that the older siblings understand the presence of the baby and are prepared to make necessary adjustments in terms of space.

It's also a good idea to make sure the bed is big enough and stable enough to accommodate everyone comfortably. Use a firm, supportive mattress and make sure there are no gaps or spaces that could be dangerous for the baby.

Another way to create a safe sleeping environment for all is to encourage each child to take on their sleeping positions. I have found that placing the baby in the middle of the bed and surrounded by each of us was the best course of action for co-sleeping since it lessens the chances of the baby being struck by other siblings or rolling over unintentionally.

Lastly, keep any heavy or sharp objects away from the bed, and only use lightweight blankets during sleep. Additionally, heavy materials, like thick blankets and pillows, should not be used for the baby.

In conclusion, co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings is possible, and with the correct safety measures in place, it can be a positive and healthy experience for everyone involved.


Hi everyone,

As a mom to four children, I have co-slept with all of them in some point in time. When it comes to co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings, safety must be the top priority. One way to ensure safety is to create a physical barrier between the baby and older siblings with a bedside co-sleeper, like the Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper.

When placing the co-sleeper, ensure there is ample space between the bed and the wall, so the baby won't get hurt from being sandwiched between. A bed rail or a guardrail is also important for keeping little ones safe. Informing older siblings about the importance of not jumping around the bed or putting weight on rails is critical.

Another option to keep your baby safe while co-sleeping with older siblings is to place a cushioned mat on the floor beside the bed. This way, if an older sibling accidentally rolls over or falls, your baby won't fall far and will land on a cushion, reducing the risk of injury.

Lastly, it's essential to utilize individual blankets for everyone, and to never let a baby sleep with a blanket or toy that poses a suffocation risk.

Hope these tips help!



I had a similar situation with my kids a few years ago, and I have some advice on how to make co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings work. Firstly, it's important to have a safe sleeping arrangement for the baby. It's best to have the baby sleeping between you and the wall, with a sturdy bed rail to prevent her from rolling off the bed.

Secondly, make sure that your older kids are aware of the baby's presence and the importance of being gentle and careful when sharing a bed with her. My kids were very excited to have their baby sister in the bed with them, but it took some time to teach them how to be mindful of her.

Lastly, try to create a comfortable sleeping environment for everyone, including adequate space and blankets for all. With some patience and effort, co-sleeping with a baby in a shared bed with older siblings can be a rewarding experience.

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