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How can I help my preteen manage their time effectively, especially with schoolwork and extracurricular activities?

Hello everyone,

I have a preteen child who is struggling to manage their time effectively, especially with schoolwork and extracurricular activities. My child is in middle school and has a lot on their plate, including homework, projects, and sports practice.

I want to support them and help them develop good time management skills so that they can achieve academic success and still have time for other activities. However, I'm not sure where to start.

What are some effective strategies or tools that I can use to help my preteen manage their time better? How can I encourage them to prioritize tasks and avoid procrastination? Any tips, advice, or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance for your help!

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Hello everyone,

I have a preteen and have experienced firsthand the challenge of helping them manage their time effectively. One thing that is useful is to motivate and encourage my child to complete tasks with small incentives. It could be something as simple as an extra 30 minutes of TV time or a fun activity over the weekend. This often motivates my child, making time management feel more achievable.

Secondly, it's important to establish open communication with your preteen. Encourage them to communicate their struggles with completing tasks on time or if they underestimate the time they need to complete a task. When my child does this, I listen, work with them to evaluate and adjust the plan where necessary, and am empathetic to their struggles.

Another thing that has worked for us was being flexible with the schedule. I ensured that our schedule had a degree of flexibility to cater to unforeseen circumstances or unexpected delays. This kept us from stressing when the plan needed to be altered.

Lastly, I have made a habit of conducting periodic reviews of my child's progress. It could be every two weeks or monthly, primarily to check if the current schedule needs adjustments or the current plan needs modification.

I hope these tips are helpful to you. Good luck in helping your preteen manage their time effectively!


Hi everyone,

I have a preteen at home, and I understand the challenges of ensuring they manage their time effectively with schoolwork and extracurricular activities. One tip that worked for me was to involve my child in the process of scheduling their tasks.

I sat with my child and made a list of tasks that needed to be completed each week, including any sporting activities and homework assignments. We then discussed and agreed on a schedule that worked best for them, considering their preferences and energy levels. I gave my child some degree of control over the schedule because it helped them to take responsibility and accountability for their time.

Another approach that has been helpful is setting clear expectations and priorities. We discussed the importance of studying for a certain amount of time and completing homework before engaging in other activities. This also helped my child to learn how to plan their time wisely while working toward their goals.

Lastly, I try to make sure that we all have quality relaxing times. A balance of relaxation and workload gives my child adequate space to decompress or recharge.

I hope these tips help you in supporting your preteen's time management skills. Best of luck!



I have a preteen child, and I have face the same challenge of helping them manage their time effectively. We have found that setting boundaries on screen time and electronic devices have helped with our child's time management skills.

We use a timer to limit the amount of time our child spends on social media, playing games, or watching TV. Once the timer goes off, my child knows that it's time to transition to the next task. This also helps my child to better understand time management and become more disciplined in scheduling their work and leisure activities.

Another thing that has helped is setting realistic expectations. As a parent, I realized that it's important to understand my child's strengths and weaknesses when setting realistic goals. For instance, if my child has difficulty with math, then I make it a priority and a realistic expectation to spend more time studying math.

Furthermore, we have made it our responsibility as parents to communicate with our child's teachers to align our expectations for academic success while managing time effectively. This has helped us develop a schedule that is achievable and realistic for our child, thereby aiding better time management.

In summary, limiting screen time, setting realistic expectations, and involving ourselves in our child's academic success has improved our child's time management skills.


Hello everyone,

As a parent of a preteen child, I have found that setting achievable goals for my child has been a useful strategy in managing their time effectively.

To do this successfully, I, along with my child, looked at the tasks that needed to be completed every day and set achievable goals for my child to work towards. We then discussed the accomplishments achieved in completing these tasks and celebrated each success. This strategy helped my child feel more motivated to manage their time, and each goal accomplished boosted their confidence in their ability to manage their time better.

Similarly, I found tracking my child's progress vital in developing good time management skills. We tracked the time it took for each activity, the hours spent studying, and the completion rate of assigned homework. Tracking these allowed us to monitor progress and adjust the schedule to be more productive in completing the task.

Lastly, I find that encouraging my child to have time for themselves is essential. A balance of leisure activities gives them an adequate space to decompress, provides an opportunity for growth in creativity, and reduces fatigue levels. This balance helps my child to become mentally relaxed and better focused when completing their academic work and extracurricular activities.

I hope these tips help you as you strive to help your preteen manage their time better.


Hi there,

I completely understand where you're coming from as I went through the same situation with my preteen last year. One thing that helped me in supporting my child was setting up a schedule or routine that we both agreed upon.

We allocated specific times for homework, studying, and extracurricular activities. This helped my child to prioritize their tasks and avoid procrastination. It's important to stick to the schedule as much as possible and make any necessary adjustments based on your child's needs.

Another strategy that worked for us was breaking down big tasks into smaller, manageable ones. For example, if my child had a big project to complete, we would break it down into smaller tasks with specific deadlines to make it less overwhelming. This helped my child to stay on track and also gave them a sense of accomplishment as they completed each task.

Lastly, it's important to be patient and understanding. Developing good time management skills can take time and may not come easily for everyone. Encourage your child when they make progress, and try not to get frustrated if they struggle at first. Positive reinforcement and support can go a long way in helping your child develop effective time management skills.

I hope this helps! Let me know if you have any other questions or if there's anything else I can do to assist.


Hi there,

I have a preteen at home myself and have found that encouraging them to take small breaks between their activities is useful. I have found that when my child has many activities included in the routine, their energy may get drained, and they find it challenging to stay focused. Therefore, taking scheduled breaks after each activity is useful. When they take that small break to recharge, it helps them concentrate better on the next task.

Another thing that has worked well for us is avoiding multitasking. We discovered it was challenging for my child to complete numerous activities at once without a loss of quality. Therefore, I encouraged my child to prioritize each task and gradually work on what needs to be done immediately.

I have also found that it's crucial to provide the right kind of supplies for their activities. For instance, the right supplies for studying (for example, good lighting, comfortable chair and desk) can ultimately improve how well they concentrate on their studies.

I hope this helps!



I have a preteen child, and I had to face the challenge of managing their time better to ensure they achieve academic success and still have time for other activities. One strategy that has helped us is developing a visual schedule.

I created a calendar with my child and color-coded each activity, whether it was studying or sports activities. We discussed it together, agreed that the schedule worked, and placed it in a visible place. The visual schedule helped my child stay organized and made it easy for them to track their progress and plan effectively.

Another thing that has helped is rewarding good time management by spending quality time with my child. We make sure to plan a specific time out to do something fun together when they have achieved their goals or done well with their time management. This also motivates them to keep up the good time management and plan effectively.

Finally, I have realized that it's important for me to lead by example. I show my child how I plan, manage time, and prioritize tasks as an adult. This way, they learn by emulation and develop the necessary time management skills to succeed in their careers as they grow older.

I hope you find these tips helpful!

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