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How can I help my child understand and appreciate the importance of my work or school obligations while still being present and available as a parent?

Hi everyone,

I am a working mom with two young kids, and I am struggling to find a balance between my work obligations and being present for my children. I often find myself feeling guilty for not being able to spend as much time with them as I would like, especially during the weekdays when I have to work.

At the same time, I want my children to understand and appreciate the importance of my work so that they can develop a strong work ethic and understand the value of hard work.

I would love to hear some tips from other parents on how they have managed to strike a balance between work and parenting, and how they have taught their children to understand and appreciate the importance of their work obligations. Any advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance!

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vmann

Greetings,

I can certainly relate to the challenges that come with juggling work obligations and being present for my children. One strategy that has helped me is establishing clear expectations with my employer about my availability outside of work hours. I have found it helpful to work for a company that values work-life balance and understand the importance of family.

I also make a point to communicate with my children about my work schedule so that they know what to expect. I explain the importance of deadlines and meeting client expectations, and they understand that sometimes I may need to work late or take a meeting after hours.

In addition, I try to maximize the time I do have with my children by being fully present when I am with them. I put my phone and computer away and give them my undivided attention. We work together to plan fun activities that we can all look forward to, such as going to the park, baking together, or taking a family bike ride.

Lastly, I believe it's important to involve my children in my work life as much as possible. Sometimes, I allow them to join me on a work trip, or I take them along to my company's annual picnic. This helps them feel included and more understanding of my work obligations.

Overall, finding a balance between work and parenting takes effort and communication, but it is achievable. Best of luck to you in finding your own balance!

ptorphy

Hello there,

I completely understand your situation as a working mother because I'm a working parent too. It is important to make sure that our family members feel loved and appreciated despite our work obligations. Once a week, my family has a special event we call "Family and Friends Day" where everyone gets excited to plan activities to do together, whether it's a game night, a hike, or a movie night.

When it comes to communicating about work, I explain to my children about the importance of earning a living and how it provides for our family. My kids are aware of what I do for a living and how it helps us pay for our home, groceries, and other necessities. I also share with them how some jobs take a lot of time and effort, but it can lead to better career opportunities.

In addition, I try to wake up early so I have time to accomplish work-related tasks before my family wakes up so that I am more present and available during the day. I also try to limit work from home unless it's an emergency or an urgent task.

Overall, my main advice is to balance work-life with family time and create important activities to keep everyone engaged and happy. I hope this helps in some way, and I wish you all the best in finding that balance between work and parenting!

sarmstrong

Hi there,

I can definitely relate to your situation as a working mother. One thing that I have found helpful is setting aside specific dedicated family time that is sacred and not to be compromised. We have a weekly family game night and make sure to spend time together during the weekends. This way, my kids know that I am still available to them despite my work obligations.

In terms of helping my children understand the importance of my work, I have had conversations with them about the importance of doing your best and working hard in order to achieve your goals. I try to show them by example that hard work and dedication can pay off and lead to success.

Lastly, communication is key. I try to keep an open line of communication with my children so that they feel heard and know that I am always there for them, even if I may not physically be present at all times.

I hope this helps, and best of luck to you on finding that balance!

sandy91

Hello,

As a parent and a student, I know all too well the struggle of balancing school, work, and family. One thing that has helped me is creating a schedule and sticking to it. I make sure to set aside specific times during the day for work and school work, and I also schedule in family time or self-care time. This way, I am able to focus on each aspect of my life without neglecting one or the other.

In addition, I try to get my children involved in my school work as much as possible. I explain to them what I am studying and why it matters, and sometimes I even ask them to quiz me or help me with a project. This helps them understand that my school work is important and that it requires time and effort.

Another way that I have found helpful is being open and honest with my children about my obligations. When I need to spend time on school work or a work project, I explain to them why it is important and that I will make it up to them later. This has helped them become more understanding and less resentful when I do need to prioritize other things.

Overall, finding a balance between school, work, and parenting takes effort and compromise, but it is possible. By creating a schedule, involving my children in my school work, and being open and honest with them, I have been able to maintain harmony between my responsibilities as a parent and a student.

abshire.carolyn

Hi everyone,

I completely understand this struggle since I am a single working parent of two. For me, it took a lot of trial and error to find the right balance between work and parenting. One of the key things that helped me was setting realistic expectations for myself and acknowledging that I won't always be able to do everything at the same level of excellence. It is important not to be too hard on yourself and remember that you're doing the best you can.

Another thing that I found helpful is talking to my children and finding out if they were feeling neglected or if there were any adjustments that they would like me to make. This way, we can work together to find a solution that works for everyone.

It can also help to find a support system, whether it's a close friend, family member, or a support group for single parents. Having someone to talk to can make a world of difference, even if it's just to vent and share your struggles. Remember that you're not alone in this.

Lastly, I remind myself that quality over quantity is what counts when it comes to parenting. Even if I only have a brief period with my kids, I try to make it count and make sure that they feel loved and appreciated. Small gestures like a hug or a bedtime story can go a long way.

I hope these tips help, and remember to take it one day at a time. You're doing great!

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