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How can I help my child maintain a healthy weight without making them feel self-conscious?

Hello everyone,

I am a concerned parent and worried about my child's weight. My child is currently overweight and I am looking for ways to help them maintain a healthy weight without making them feel self-conscious or ashamed.

I don't want to make my child feel bad about their weight or body image, but at the same time, I know that being overweight can lead to health problems in the long run.

I am hoping to get some advice from other parents who may have been in a similar situation or from anyone who has experience working with children to maintain a healthy weight.

Any suggestions or tips on how I can approach this issue with my child in a positive and supportive way would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you in advance for your help.

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Hi there,

I completely understand your concern as my son was in the same situation as your child. I wanted to help him, but I didn't know where to start without shaming him or making him feel bad about himself.

What worked for us was finding fun physical activities that my son enjoyed. He was never into sports, but we found a local martial arts class that he loved. He also enjoyed dancing and we would have dance parties in our living room as a family.

We didn't focus so much on dieting or counting calories but instead on making healthier food choices. I would involve him in meal planning and grocery shopping, which made him feel like an active participant in his own health journey.

I also made sure to never make any negative comments about his body or weight. Instead, I would praise him for his efforts, no matter how small they were. Positive reinforcement went a long way in boosting his confidence and self-esteem.

Remember that what works for one child may not work for another, and it's important to find a method that suits your child's personality and preferences. Stay patient and supportive, and your child will be on their way to a healthier lifestyle in no time.


Hi there,

I can relate to your situation and I'd like to offer my perspective on how to help your child maintain a healthy weight without making them feel self-conscious. What worked for us was to create a fun, inclusive environment for physical activity.

For example, we used to have a weekly family bike ride where we would explore different trails around our area. We would also have impromptu dance parties or play soccer in the backyard. It was never an "exercise" or "workout" thing, but instead something we did together as a family.

We also made healthy eating choices together, like swapping out sugary drinks for water or cooking a big salad to share at dinner. We never made my son feel like he was being singled out, and instead, we all worked towards being healthier as a family.

Another important thing was to focus on how food and exercise make us feel, rather than how they make us look. We emphasized the benefits of feeling strong and energized, rather than how it might affect our appearance.

Lastly, we never focused on the numbers on the scale, but rather, we celebrated little victories like being able to climb a hill on our bikes or running a bit further. This helped to shift the focus onto the positive aspects of a healthier lifestyle.

I hope this gives you some ideas on how to support your child in their health journey. Remember that a healthy lifestyle is a lifelong journey and it's important to focus on progress, not perfection.


Hey there,

I've been in your shoes as well and want to share what worked well for our family. We made healthy choices as a family and didn't single out one particular child. We changed the way we ate at home and made an effort to cut back on sugar and processed foods.

We also started doing fun, physical activities together as a family. It was important that everyone got involved and no one felt singled out. It was fun playing tennis or doing a 5k charity run together without it feeling like an exercise.

Instead of focusing on diets and strict calorie counting, we talked about the importance of eating healthy and living an active lifestyle. We made it a family discussion to make our own healthier choices to support each other's goals.

Lastly, we focused on the positives and the progress we were making rather than solely focusing on the number on the scale. It was more about feeling energetic and strong that made us happy.

I hope this helps! Remember, it's important to make small, manageable changes as a family and cheer each other on.


Hi, I understand your concern as I have been in your shoes before. My daughter was struggling with her weight and I was constantly worried about how to help her without making her feel bad about herself.

One thing that worked for us was to make small lifestyle changes as a family. We started going for walks or bike rides together instead of just watching TV after dinner. We also started cooking healthier meals together and trying new fruits and vegetables as a family.

I made sure to never make any negative comments or use negative language when talking about weight or body image in front of my daughter. Instead, I emphasized the importance of being healthy and happy.

It's also important to avoid putting your child on a strict diet or exercise plan without their input. Instead, involve them in the decision-making process and let them have some control over their own health.

Remember to be patient and supportive of your child, as it can take time to see results. It's important to focus on overall health and well-being rather than just numbers on a scale. Good luck!



I want to share my experience as a parent who has struggled to help their child maintain a healthy weight without making them feel self-conscious. What worked for us was setting achievable goals with my child.

We came up with a list of small, manageable goals, such as drinking more water, eating more vegetables, and getting more exercise. We tracked our progress together and rewarded ourselves when we reached our goals.

Another thing that helped was talking to my child about the importance of being healthy and focusing on the positive aspects of a healthy lifestyle. We didn't talk about their weight or body image, but instead about the benefits of feeling energetic and strong.

We also made sure to celebrate non-scale victories, such as being able to run for longer or lifting heavier weights. This helped us focus on what we were gaining, rather than what we were losing.

In summary, set realistic goals, emphasize the positive aspects of a healthy lifestyle, and celebrate non-scale victories. Remember to be patient and encourage your child every step of the way. Best of luck!

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