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How can I help my adopted or foster child maintain relationships with their biological siblings?

Hello everyone,

I recently adopted a child who has multiple biological siblings who are not in the same household as my child. I want to make sure that my child maintains positive relationships with their siblings, as I understand the importance of these connections. However, I am not sure where to start or what steps to take to facilitate these relationships.

I would greatly appreciate any advice or suggestions on how to help my adopted or foster child maintain relationships with their biological siblings. Have any of you been in a similar situation? What did you do to support your child's relationship with their siblings? Any tips or strategies would be helpful.

Thank you in advance for your help!

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I can understand why this is an important topic to discuss. I also have an adopted child who has biological siblings that they do not live with. To help maintain the relationship between them, we have been scheduling regular visits and phone calls between our child and their siblings.

Apart from that, we also involve the siblings in our child's life by exchanging regular updates and pictures with them to make sure they feel included. This has helped to strengthen their bond and has even led to some shared experiences, despite the distance between them.

Another thing that has worked for us is being open about the adoption and the siblings' relationship. We have always spoken positively about their biological siblings and encouraged our child to do the same. We believe that it's important for our child to embrace their heritage and to feel proud of their biological family.

Finally, I think it's worth mentioning that maintaining relationships with biological siblings can sometimes be tricky, but it can be done with patience and commitment. It's important to communicate with the siblings' caregivers and work together to create a positive environment for the children to interact.

I hope these recommendations help you maintain strong relationships between your child and their biological siblings. Best of luck to you and your family!


Hi there,

I can relate to your situation as I am also an adoptive parent to a child who has biological siblings. One thing that has helped us maintain a relationship between our child and their siblings is regular communication. We make sure to keep in touch with their siblings' caregivers and set up phone or video calls for them to talk and catch up. We also try to arrange visits with their siblings when possible.

Another thing that has helped is creating a positive environment around the sibling relationship. We talk to our child about the importance of their siblings and encourage them to share stories and experiences with each other. It's also helpful to be supportive of the siblings' relationship with each other, even if it means relinquishing some control.

Finally, I would suggest seeking out any available resources for adoptive families in your area. There may be support groups or social workers who can provide guidance on how to maintain sibling relationships.

Best of luck to you and your family!


Hello all,

As a foster parent who has already adopted two children who have biological siblings, maintaining relationships with their siblings has been quite challenging. One way we have found helpful is by being aware of our children's siblings' milestones and accomplishments. We routinely send congratulatory letters, birthday gifts, or care packages for special events like graduations or academic achievements. Not only does this show our support, but it also builds the relationship between the foster and biological siblings.

Another essential tip is being open and honest with the children about their adoption and the importance of their biological siblings. It's essential to encourage the children to communicate their feelings and questions without judgment. This helps them to feel comfortable and included in the process, which, in turn, strengthens their bond.

It's also a good idea to consider shared interests, hobbies, or activities that can help foster siblings' connection. For example, if the children share a common love for music, arranging for them to attend a concert together could be a surefire way to have fun, bonding time.

In summary, maintaining relationships with biological siblings can be challenging, but it's critical to a child's sense of identity and wellbeing. Remembering that each child is unique and may have different communication needs is also key. It takes patience, effort, and open communication, but the rewards are well worth it.


Hi all,

I've been in a similar situation and I understand how important it is to maintain a relationship between adopted or foster children and their biological siblings. A piece of advice that worked for me was to involve the siblings in the child's life by attending their sporting events, school plays, or other events that they might be interested in.

Additionally, it's important to make sure the children have positive experiences when they get together. For example, instead of just meeting up and sitting around, plan fun activities that they can do together like going to the zoo or having a picnic in the park. This will help them to build memories and create a bond that will last a lifetime.

Another aspect to consider, especially if the children will be spending more extended periods of time together is to have ground rules, and make sure that they understand what behavior is expected, and what is not. While reasonable rules are important, it is also essential to remember that each child is unique, and to advocate for the relationship, it may be necessary to be flexible, within reason.

I hope these tips help you out, and I wish you all the best in maintaining positive relationships between your child and their biological siblings!


Hi everyone,

My partner and I are foster parents to a child who has several biological siblings with whom they do not live with. In our experience, the key to maintaining relationships between foster and biological siblings is to establish a strong relationship with the siblings' caregivers. This can include regular communication, sharing pictures and updates, and coordinating visits or phone calls.

Another strategy that has helped us is to make sure that the child's siblings are aware of their importance in our child's life. We talk about them often and encourage our child to do the same. This has helped to build a positive and supportive environment for the siblings to build a relationship.

It's important to mention that maintaining these sibling relationships can be challenging, especially if distances are a factor. However, parents need to be patient, persistent, and committed. We advise seeking out resources in the community for adoptive or foster families that can provide guidance and support on how to cultivate positive relationships between foster and biological siblings.

To sum up, maintaining sibling relationships is a vital aspect of a child's identity and sense of belonging. Therefore, it's essential to put effort into creating an environment where foster and biological siblings can build a bond that endures throughout their lives.



As a foster parent, I can appreciate the importance of maintaining relationships between foster and biological siblings. From our experience, one thing that has helped us is involving the child's biological siblings in our family events. For example, we invite them to birthday parties, family dinners, or other gatherings, which helps them to feel included and part of the family.

Additionally, being proactive in coordinating visits, phone calls, or video chats between the foster and biological siblings can go a long way in fostering and strengthening their relationship. During these interactions, it's important to focus on the child's interests and create an interactive environment that helps nurture the relationship between siblings.

It's also essential to keep the children's guardians informed about the importance of maintaining these relationships. Parents should create communication channels to be informed about any significant events or milestones concerning the foster child or the biological siblings.

Finally, it's essential to be patient, empathetic, and flexible. There may be challenges along the way, but with patience and commitment, foster and biological siblings can form meaningful, lifelong relationships that are mutually beneficial.

Overall, maintaining relationships between foster and biological siblings requires intentional, consistent effort from all parties involved to help the children feel supported, included, and valued.



I am a biological parent who adopted my child's younger sibling. From our experience, the most crucial aspect of maintaining sibling relationships is having good communication with the other siblings' guardians or parents.

From the moment we adopted our child's sibling, we made it a priority to keep in touch with their birth parents and guardians. We regularly have virtual meetings, send updates, and coordinate visits to help our children maintain a strong bond. We also recognize that our role is to support our children's relationship with their biological siblings, and we always strive to create a positive environment for them to interact.

Another important strategy that has worked for us is creating shared experiences. We plan activities and outings that they all enjoy, such as going out for ice cream or playing board games. We also encourage them to participate in each other's hobbies and interests, which has helped them to build a deeper connection.

It's also essential to be understanding of each child's individual needs and personalities. Some children may feel more comfortable with regular contact while others may require more time and space to form a bond. Being open and flexible in recognizing individual needs in each child will help create an environment of trust and comfort.

In conclusion, maintaining sibling relationships requires collaboration and communication among guardians or parents for all the siblings in question. When done well, these relationships can positively influence the children's sense of identity and place in the world.

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