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How can I help a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved in my home?

Hi everyone,

I am new to fostering and I recently had a 6-year-old foster child come to live with me. As someone who has never been a parent before, I am feeling a bit lost on how to make them feel comfortable and loved in my home. I want to ensure that they feel welcomed and supported during this transition.

For those who have fostered or adopted children, what are some things I can do to help them feel more at ease in my home? Any advice on how to build a strong and positive relationship with them would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance for your help!

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Hi there,

I have been a foster parent for a few years now, and I have learned a lot about making a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved in my home. One of the things I prioritize is to make sure I listen to the child and give them the time and space they need to adjust. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to fostering or adoption, as every child's experience is unique.

Another thing that is crucial is to be patient with the child. Foster children might have experienced trauma or neglect in the past, and it can often take time for them to warm up to their new environment. It's important to let them know that you are there for them no matter what and that they can trust you.

Finally, I try to educate myself on the child's past experiences and backgrounds. This can help me understand their behavior and respond appropriately to their needs. It's also important to be aware of any cultural or racial sensitivities and to create an inclusive environment that celebrates differences.

Overall, fostering or adopting a child can be challenging, but it's also incredibly rewarding. By being patient, listening, and educating yourself, you can help the child feel welcomed and loved in your home.



As a former foster child, I can tell you what parents did to make me feel welcomed and loved in their home. It's essential to create an environment that is safe, warm, and nurturing to the child's needs. Providing a clean and organized space for the child goes a long way. It shows consistency and structure, which helps them feel secure in their environment.

Another way to welcome a child is to set the expectations up front. Let them know what the rules are, what they can expect from you and what you, as a parent, anticipate for your family. Always be open to their feedback and questions; it takes time for foster children to acclimate to new settings, especially if they're coming from turbulent backgrounds.

Another core element of making a child feel welcomed is giving them independence. Encourage them to take control of their space and help them feel ownership of their room, wardrobe, and other aspects of their lives. Foster children are often indecisive and anxious, so offering choices and decision-making responsibilities helps boost their confidence and sense of responsibility.

Finally, try to open yourself to the child's culture, interests, and background. If they are coming from a different place, know that their values, interpretation of events and expectations may not match up with your own. Learning about their culture will help you support them in their growth and help them feel valued.

In conclusion, making a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved takes time and effort. By creating a safe and structured environment, setting expectations, offering independence, and learning about their culture, you can establish a positive relationship with the child and help them feel safe and secure in your care.


Hi all,

I'm an adoptive parent of three children and I can totally relate to the feeling of wanting to make a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved. From my many years of experience, I've learned that the key to building a strong and positive relationship with the child is to make them feel like they are a part of your family.

One way to achieve this is to involve the child in family activities and routine. For example, you can invite them to prepare meals with you, go grocery shopping or engage in any other family activity that you do regularly. This will not only make them feel like they are contributing to the family but also help them bond with you and other members of the family.

Another tip that has worked for me is to be consistent in my communication and actions. Children need structure and stability, especially when settling into a new home. They need to be able to rely on you and trust that you will keep your word. That means being consistent with your words, actions, and rules.

Finally, I would say that showing them love and compassion goes a long way in making a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved. You can do this by giving them hugs, encouraging words and creating a safe space for them to express their feelings.

In summary, by making the child feel like they are a part of your family, being consistent in communication and actions, and showing them love and compassion, you can help a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved in your home.



As an adoptive parent, I can understand your concern about making the child feel welcomed and loved. When we adopted our son, we made sure to create a nurturing and supportive environment that allowed him to feel safe and secure.

One of the things that helped us was to involve him in the decision-making process, especially when it came to his personal space. We asked him about the type of room he wanted and how he would like it decorated. This gave him a sense of ownership of the space and made him feel more comfortable in our home.

Another thing that helped was setting boundaries and expectations from the beginning. We established household rules with our son, explaining why they were necessary while also listening to any concerns he had. It helped him have a better understanding of what was expected of him while giving him space to make mistakes and learn.

Finally, we made sure to practice active listening and show empathy. It's important to be there for the child when they're feeling overwhelmed, to validate their feelings and to help them find solutions to their problems.

In summary, creating a nurturing, supportive environment, involving the child in decision-making, setting boundaries and expectations, and practicing active listening and empathy can go a long way in making a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved in your home.


Hi there,

I have fostered several children over the years and I understand how overwhelming it can be to welcome a new child into your home. One thing that I have found to be helpful is to start building a positive relationship with the child right away. It's important to take the time to get to know them as an individual and show interest in their likes, dislikes and hobbies.

I also try to make my home a welcoming and warm environment. I provide a comfortable bed and bedding for the child, as well as some items like books, puzzles or toys that they can call their own. It's important to make sure the child feels at home and safe in their new environment.

Another thing I do is try to establish a routine with the child. This helps them feel secure and reinforces the idea that they are a part of the family. I involve them in meal planning and grocery shopping and try to spend time doing fun activities together.

Overall, it's important to show the child that they are loved and valued in your home. Be patient and understanding, and don't be afraid to ask for help or advice from other foster parents or professionals if you need it. Best of luck on this new journey!


Hey there,

I've been a foster parent for over three years, and one thing I've learned is that every child is different. There is not a set formula for making a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved. It takes patience, consistency, and flexibility.

In my experience, building a relationship with the child takes time. I would suggest trying to discover their interests and passions and trying to incorporate those things into their new home. You can ask them about their favorite hobbies, and try to find ways to allow them to enjoy those activities in your home.

Another thing that is helpful is creating a positive environment that the child can thrive in. You can use positive reinforcement, offer words of encouragement, and focus on the child's strengths. When a child feels good about who they are and what they can do, they are much more likely to be comfortable and happy in their new home.

Finally, I would say to be open and available to the child. They might be shy, reserved or uncertain at first, but by being available and open to them, you can help them build trust in you and feel comfortable in their new environment. It's also helpful to make sure that you establish clear boundaries while still allowing them to express themselves.

In conclusion, I would say that fostering or adopting a child can be a challenging, yet rewarding experience. By building a relationship with the child, creating a positive environment, and being open and available to them, you can help a foster or adopted child feel welcomed and loved in your home.

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