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How can I handle potty training when my toddler is resistant to change or routine?

Hey everyone,

I am a mother of a 2-year-old who is going through a difficult phase of potty training. My little one is generally resistant to any kind of change or routine, which makes potty training quite challenging for us. We have tried various methods and techniques, but she still shows a lot of aversion towards sitting on the potty or even wearing underwear. It's becoming stressful for us as parents, and we don't know what to do next.

Has anyone faced a similar situation before? If so, could you please share your experience and any tips or tricks that worked for you? I would really appreciate any suggestions as I am feeling quite lost and overwhelmed right now.

Thank you in advance!

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Hey everyone,

I understand how frustrating it can be when your toddler is resisting potty training. I faced a similar situation with my son, who was three years old at the time. He had no interest in using the toilet, and it felt like we were in for a very long haul.

However, one thing that really worked for us was to turn the process into a fun game. We made it into something that he wanted to do rather than something that he had to do. We used stickers and rewards charts, and he loved collecting stickers every time he used the toilet.

We also let him choose his own potty, which made him feel more ownership over the process. Whenever he had a success, we celebrated it together, and showered him with praise and encouragement.

Another thing that worked for us was to make sure that he was comfortable with the potty. We would let him sit on it without any pressure to perform, so that he could get used to the feeling of it.

Overall, it was a slow process, but eventually, we got there. By making it fun and something that he chose to do, rather than something he had to do, we got our son over the initial resistance and he has now been toilet trained for a year.


Hi there,

I completely understand your struggles with potty training your toddler who is resistant to change or routine. I faced a similar situation with my 3-year-old son who would throw tantrums every time we tried to make him wear underwear or sit on the potty.

What worked for us in the end was taking a non-forceful approach towards potty training. We let him take the lead and only introduced potty training when he was ready. We didn't push him or make him feel pressured, which helped to reduce his stress and resistance.

Additionally, we used positive reinforcement by setting up a reward system to encourage him to use the potty. We praised him for his efforts and celebrated every successful potty trip with a small treat or toy.

It's important to stay patient and consistent with potty training, especially when dealing with a resistant toddler. Don't worry if it takes longer than expected, and remember to celebrate every milestone, no matter how small.

Hope this helps!


Hi there,

I completely understand the frustration of trying to potty train a resistant toddler. I faced a similar challenge with my 2-year-old daughter, who was completely averse to sitting on the potty.

One thing that eventually helped was enlisting the help of an older cousin who was already potty trained. We would have her cousin come over and hang out with her, taking frequent trips to the bathroom during their playtime.

Seeing her cousin use the bathroom and cheering her on made it seem less intimidating to our daughter. It also made her feel grown-up and made her want to try it out for herself.

We also made sure to make her comfortable by using her favorite stool so her feet could rest on it while on the potty.

These simple tricks helped her conquer her fears and she eventually got potty trained. Consistency and patience were key, but having a little support from an older cousin made life so much easier for us.

Hope this helps!


Hey there,

I can completely relate to your situation as I went through a similar experience with my 2-year-old daughter. Potty training was a massive challenge for us, and we tried different methods that seemed to work for others, but nothing worked for her.

We eventually decided to take a break from potty training and waited for her to show signs of readiness. In the meantime, we introduced her to books and videos about potty training to help her understand what we were trying to achieve.

After a few weeks, we noticed that she was showing more interest in potty training and started to ask questions about it. We decided to take small steps and focused on her taking small steps like sitting on the potty without any pressure to perform.

One thing we found helpful was to set a routine and incorporate potty time into it. We encouraged her to sit on the potty at regular intervals throughout the day, and if she was successful, we praised her and gave her a small reward.

Overall, what worked for us was to have patience and to try to make the process stress-free and enjoyable for her. Potty training can be challenging, but with the right attitude and approach, it can be successful.

I hope this helps you as well!

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