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How can I handle criticism or negative comments from family or friends about my toddler's potty training progress?

Hi everyone,

I am a first-time parent and currently going through the potty training phase with my toddler. While I am doing my best to teach my child the skills needed, I am constantly getting negative comments and criticisms from some family members and friends about whether or not my child is sufficiently progressing.

It's tough to be judged and questioned about your parenting skills, especially when you're trying your best. I am dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety because of these negative comments. I often feel like I am not doing enough or don't know what I'm doing.

Can anyone offer any advice on how to handle these kinds of comments and criticisms without letting them get to me? How can I maintain my confidence in my parenting skills and believe in my ability to help my child successfully transition into using the potty on their own? Any tips or tricks would be greatly appreciated!

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Hello there,

I completely understand your situation. I'm also going through the same thing with my child. Potty training can be a challenging task, especially when we have friends or family members constantly judging us.

However, what I have come to realize is that, it's important not to take their negative comments personally, even if it seems targeted at you. Most of the time, the comments are not a reflection of your parenting skills or your child's ability, but rather their own personal opinions or experiences they've had in the past.

Therefore, it's important to communicate openly and honestly with them about how their comments are making you feel. Let them know that you value their input, but you also need their support and encouragement during this stage of your child's development. Also, try to remain calm and measured in your response. Don't let their comments affect your self-confidence as a parent.

Finally, remember that potty training is a journey, not a destination. Children learn at different rates, so don't compare your child's progress to others. Embrace the process and celebrate every little victory, no matter how small. In time, your child will get there, and you'll look back and be proud of the amazing job you've done as a parent.


Hi there,

I completely understand where you're coming from. I was also in a similar situation when I was potty training my toddler. I had several family members who constantly made negative comments and criticized my progress. It was tough to deal with because I was already feeling insecure about whether or not I was doing the right thing.

Here's what helped me through the process. Firstly, I accepted that every child is different and learns at their own pace, so I stopped comparing my child's progress to others. I then tried to educate my family and friends on my potty training approach, explaining why I was doing it that way and what my goals for my child were. This helped them understand what I was trying to do and why it was taking some time.

Another thing I did was to focus on the positive comments and feedback, rather than the negative ones. Whenever someone said something nice about my child's progress, I would remind myself of it and praise my child for their efforts, which helped to build their confidence.

Lastly, I tried to trust my instincts as a parent and not let other people's opinions dictate my parenting decisions. After all, no one knows my child better than me.

I hope these tips help you navigate through the negativity and feel more confident in your approach. Remember, you are doing the best you can, and that's all that matters.



I went through similar challenges during the potty training process with my toddler. It was difficult to deal with the negative comments from some family members and friends, especially when it came to my child's progress.

What helped me was finding what worked best for me and my child. I did a lot of research and read up on different potty training methods. I then chose the one that best suited my child's personality and my own parenting style. Once I had clarity on the method, it was easier to explain it to my family and friends who had reservations or criticisms.

Another thing that worked for me was staying positive and patient. I would encourage my child and praise them for even the smallest effort. This helped them feel more motivated, and we saw progress with each passing day. It also helped me not to feel so overwhelmed, and it reminded me that potty training is a gradual process.

Lastly, I found that focusing on self-care was essential during this process. It's a stressful time, and it's important to have some time to relax and focus on personal needs. By taking care of yourself, you're taking care of your child too.

In conclusion, don't be discouraged by negative comments or criticisms. Remember that you know your child best and trust in your parenting abilities. Stay positive, be patient, and take care of yourself. Good luck!


Hello everyone,

I related to this post so much! My daughter is now fully potty trained, but I went through a lot of criticism and negativity from my family and friends during the process. It was tough and often made me feel like my parenting skills were inadequate.

However, I was determined to stay positive and not let their comments get to me. Whenever someone made a negative comment, I would simply smile and thank them for their input, but gently remind them that I had a different approach to potty training. I also made an effort to educate my critics on my potty training goals and the progress my daughter had made so far.

Another strategy that worked for me was setting realistic expectations. Potty training is a gradual process and can take time. Therefore, I focused on small achievements and progress instead of rushing to the end goal. It helped me and my daughter stay motivated and encouraged us to keep pushing.

Lastly, I found support groups and online forums that were specifically designed for parents going through potty training. It helped to connect with other parents who were also experiencing similar challenges and gave me a sense of community.

Remember, every child is unique, and as parents, we all have different approaches to potty training. Don't let anyone make you feel inferior or stressed. Embrace the process, celebrate progress, and trust in yourself that you are doing the best for your child.

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