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How can I gradually wean my baby from co-sleeping when they are older?

Hi everyone,

I have a 2-year-old baby who has been co-sleeping with me since birth. While it has been convenient for me to be able to attend to her needs quickly, I have been thinking about transitioning her to her own bed gradually. I am not sure how to go about it without causing any distress to her or disrupting her sleep routine.

Has anyone had experience in weaning their toddler from co-sleeping? What steps did you take and how long did the process take? Any tips or advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you in advance!

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Hey there!

My experience weaning my son from co-sleeping was a bit different. We started by introducing a transitional object to help establish a sense of security and comfort. I let my son choose a special stuffed animal to sleep with every night. Having the stuffed animal with him in bed helped him feel like he always had a buddy with him, even when he was falling asleep.

Next, we created a cozy sleeping area in his own room, with a soft ligh, and familiar bedding. I would sit with him while he was in bed and talk to him about why it was important for him to develop good sleep habits, but also reinforced that he was safe and loved. If he got upset or scared in the middle of the night, I would go in and soothe him, but I tried to be as calm and supportive as possible.

We took a firm but gentle approach to the transition by sticking to the routine, even if it meant sometimes waking him to move him to his own room. We also continued to give him lots of affection and love during the day, so he always felt secure and cared for.

It truly took a lot of patience and commitment on our part, but after several weeks, he started to feel more comfortable in his own space. And now, he sleeps soundly in his own bed and even looks forward to our bedtime routine.

I hope this helps!


Hello everyone,

When my son was 3 years old, we decided it was time for him to sleep independently in his own bed. We started the transition by slowly moving the bed into his own bedroom and encouraged him to make a cozy and inviting space with his favorite toys.

At first, we continued to do our normal bedtime routine in our room, but gradually shifted the routine to his room when he got more comfortable. We would read books or sing songs while he laid in bed, and then said goodnight and left the room.

The first few nights were challenging as he cried and called out for us frequently, but we tried not to go back into the room unless he was upset. Instead, we would reassure him through his baby monitor and eventually, he started to fall asleep on his own.

We also found that incentivizing him with rewards for sleeping in his own bed helped motivate him, and after a week or two, he started to sleep through the night with no issues.

Overall, it took about a month for him to fully transition to sleeping in his own room, but it gave him a sense of independence and helped our family sleep better overall.

I hope this helps anyone in a similar situation!


Hey everyone,

I have a 4-year-old son who still occasionally co-sleeps with us, but we've worked on transitioning him to his own bed. We started by asking him to decorate his own bed space as he wanted, with posters and a favorite blanket.

We also created a relaxing bedtime routine that included bath time, storytime, and soothing music. We would spend some quality time with him and then slowly transitioned him to his own bed. We sat in his room until he fell asleep, slowly working our way out of the room.

When he was upset or scared, we would go back in and reassure him that he was safe and loved. We tried to be flexible and empathetic to his needs while still sticking to the transition routine.

The transition period was hard and occasionally frustrating, but in the end, it was worth it. Now, he loves his own bed and feels comfortable sleeping on his own. He still occasionally co-sleeps with us, but it's become the exception rather than the rule.

I hope some of these ideas help those who are looking to make this transition.


Hello there,

I have a 2-year-old daughter who has been co-sleeping with my husband and me since birth. Recently, we decided to wean her off co-sleeping as her sleep patterns become more independent.

We started by buying her a cute, comfortable toddler bed and put it in our bedroom. We also added pillows and blankets in her favorite cartoon characters. We used to make her sleep on the bed for her daytime naps before introducing her to sleep in her own bed at night.

We made the transition gradually by letting her sleep on her new bed for few nights a week while still giving her the option to co-sleep with us on other nights. We also started to establish a routine bedtime (storytime, bottle feeding and lights out) which made her feel secure and helped her sleep independently.

Eventually, as she became more and more comfortable in her own bed, we started to put her to bed in her room instead of ours. We gradually reduced our interactions during the night and encouraged her to go back to her own bed when she came to us. It took weeks to get her completely used to sleeping alone, but the process was gentle and didn’t cause any distress.

Now, she sleeps soundly in her own bed, and we feel much more rested overall. We still cuddle with her before bedtime, and it has become a sweet bonding time.

I hope this helps your situation!


Hi there!

I have a 3-year-old who used to co-sleep with me until recently. To wean her gradually, I started by introducing her to her own designated sleeping area in our bedroom. I placed a small toddler bed next to mine and allowed her to choose her own blanket and pillow. For the first few nights, I would read her a story or sing a lullaby until she fell asleep in her bed.

Once she was comfortable sleeping in her own bed, I moved her bed a little further away from mine every few nights. I made sure to reassure her that I was always nearby and that she could call out to me if she needed me.

After a couple of weeks, I moved her bed to her own room. I decorated her room with her favorite toys and colors to make it more inviting for her. I continued with the bedtime routine of storytime or lullabies until she was comfortable falling asleep on her own.

Overall, the process took about a month, and there were a few nights where she cried out for me or came back to my bed, but I remained consistent with the routine and followed through with encouraging her to sleep in her own bed.

I hope this helps!


Hello everyone,

We recently went through a transition period with our 3-year-old daughter regarding sleep. She had been co-sleeping with us since she was born, and while it had been convenient when she was an infant and toddler, it had become more and more difficult.

We had tried a lot of different methods to wean her from co-sleeping, but what seemed to work best for our daughter was making her sleep area very comfortable and interactive. We painted her room with her favorite colors, included lots of toys and shelves, and created a bedtime ritual that she enjoyed.

During the first couple of days, we let her take short naps in her room and gradually increased her time in there. We also bought her a new bed and showed her how it was her space. Once she became more comfortable in her room, we gave her a time limit to get up and come into our room if she needed us. This helped her feel secure, knowing that we were only a few feet away.

We also celebrated her accomplishments and made sure to give her lots of positive reinforcement. The transition period took a few weeks, but we now have a 3-year-old who is happy to sleep in her own room and loves to show us her decorating skills!

I hope this helps you!



We recently weaned our 4-year-old daughter from co-sleeping, and it wasn't easy. We tried a lot of different methods, but what finally worked for us was creating a bedtime routine that made her feel comfortable and secure in her own bed.

We started by developing a consistent routine that involved bath time, quiet playtime, and reading a bedtime story. Once she was winding down, we would tuck her into her own bed with her favorite stuffed animal and leave the room.

During the first few nights, it was tough. She would cry for us and come to our bed, but we consistently brought her back to her own bed and would reassure her that we were close by. Gradually, she started to become more comfortable in her own space and sleeping through the night.

It took a few weeks for her to really get the hang of it, but now she is sleeping soundly in her own bed, and we're all getting better rest. It was definitely a challenge, but we stuck with it, and it was worth it in the end.

I hope this helps!

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